About three years ago, when I was still dating Mr. Butterfly, a woman who had gone to high school here moved back to town right around her 30-year class reunion. She is really pretty and for being in her early 50’s, she could put many younger women to shame with her level of physical fitness.
She showed some interest in Mr. Butterfly and was disappointed to learn that he was involved. Once she found out that it was I he was involved with, she switched from general politeness toward me to completely ignoring my existence.
Let me interject here with what is some semi-important information: Mr. Butterfly is 52 while I am 30. I sensed a bit of that animosity that comes from women my husband’s age once they learn that “some young chickie” has stolen their prospective companionship. I encounter that animosity regularly. Sometimes it’s simmering just below the surface and sometimes it’s up to a full rolling boil and in my face. I deal with it… (incidentally, I hate that commercial for Pond’s line of age-defying facial treatments where the woman says “to all you guys who insist on dating women half your age…we don’t miss you”)
The other night, he came home from work (a restaurant/bar that he and his brother own) and told me that this same woman had approached him in the lounge. She asked him if he was still married and if so, for how long now. After he gave her the answers, she asked him if he was interested in having an affair with her on the side! I couldn’t believe the nerve of this woman!!
He was so taken aback by her proposition and generally caught off-guard by her presence, but he managed to tell her that he was flattered by the “compliment” and that he was happily married. He did tell me that he was pretty annoyed by her shamelessness. He said it was a big turn-off, which surprised him because in his younger days (ha ha…right around the time I was born :D), he might’ve considered it.
I have heard from several people over the last few months that she usually chases after guys who are in their 30’s; it’s odd that she would fixate on someone her own age. Anecdote: Once, she was dating the son of a good friend of my husband’s. She had told the guy she was dating that she was 36. When Mr. Butterfly and I heard that, we laughed and said that there was no way she was that young because we had catered her 30th high school class reunion a few years back.
What I’ve learned about her is that she has a history of being deceitful, and has no respect for anyone’s relationship/marriage.
I had forgotten that she existed because I hadn’t seen or heard anything about her for so long. I don’t suffer from jealous-possessive disorder in my relationships, and that goes double for a marriage. But there is just something about this particular woman that gets under my skin.
If I was the kind of person who could handle confrontation, I would love to accidentally run into her somewhere and tell her that I know what kind of whore she is and that my husband and I keep no secrets from one another.
[sup] Isn’t this more or less what inspired this thread?[/sup]