Because a few posts have been made recently about older women and relationships, I decided to post my situation. First of all let me say that everything is going along fine jobwise, socially etc. The one aspect of my life that is stalled is my romance life. Most of the women I am interested in are involved, married or uninterested in me. The ones that have been interested in me, I was unable to return the feelings.
Anyway, I was at a party a few months ago with a few co-workers and others. I was circulating and ended up talking with a woman much older than I am. Her children are close to my age which is 34. I am not sure how old she is, but it must be around 50 :eek: not that there is anything wrong with that
We talked a little and had a nice time, then she left. Fine, there were still several people so I hung out for a few more hours. Eventually the topic turned to her and since I am clueless to being flirted with I was surprised to hear that I “could have had her”. http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=71427
Normally I would not have taken this seriously, but [ugly stereotypical comment] all the other men present were gay and who knows more about women than gay guys…nobody!![/end ugly stereotypical comment]
(I really hope noone takes offense, it is only a joke)
Anyway, I am sure now that she is interested and I am not sure what to do. She is nice, looks good, stays in shape but I cannot help but think there is too much of an age gap. Generally I would not care about age, but I do feel that within 10 years is probably a good rule of thumb. However, if she walked up to me and told me she just wanted me for the periodic “booty” call, I would jump at the chance.
She has said that she would like to get together, although the last several weeks I have been unable to because of my friends wedding (I am the best man) and have had to go to Dallas a few times. I am starting to run out of excuses and just do not know what to do. If I were 10 years older and/or she were 10 years younger there would be know question about what to do. Oh why can’t life be nice and simple like the movies!!!
Oh, go out with her. She might be fun. At the very least, she needs to hear that you find her attractive. Most people understand the discomfort with big age differences, but it is especially important for women her (our!) age - hell, anywhere over 35 - to know that they’re still desirable. If she doesn’t care about the age difference, why should you?
So, go out with her already! It’s only a date, not a lifetime commitment. My wise little sister told me (when she married her husband two months after they met) that there are no rules when it comes to relationships. Handy guidelines, perhaps, but no hard & fast rules except the ones you insist on.
FWIW, my mother’s second marriage (32 years & going strong) is to a man 11 years younger than her.
When I was 23, I took up with a 42 year old woman who had 2 daughters almost my age, and lived with her for 5 years. Aside from the neurotic behavior of her daughters who were always putting the make on me, it was pretty good. Hmm… maybe I should have had her daughters too.
Well, why be age prejudiced? Look at me I have a small harem of women right now, they are 19 through 50 years of age (This one is going to be 50 sunday), this includes one my own age. I like them all the same.
The one at 50 has better firmer breasts than the one at 19.
My psychologist once told me about women at 19 ‘firm flesh but not wisdom’, ha! If she could see me now.
Generally the older they are the more interesting they are to talk to.
