Frankly, it didn’t seem obvious to me that asking if the kid had nude pictures of himself would be a crime. Any number of concerned parents could ask just that and nobody would second-guess them. So, it’s purely in this particular context that this question seems wrong, and I wouldn’t bet that the context could elevate it to a prosecutable offence. And even if it were, I guess he could defend himself relatively easily by reframing his questions to the boy for some and admiting he was a bit awkward for others.
In any case, it wasn’t useless. This guy will likely be warry about trying the same crap again, at the very least. Also, there might be an enquiry by the children protection services.
I don’t think Henry broke any laws, either, but he was way, waaaaaay over the line for appropriate behaviour for the father of this kid’s girlfriend. There is nothing he was trying to accomplish with The Boy that he couldn’t have accomplished without being so unbelievably creepy.
Just a small point of clarification, Henry only has one child, a kindergartener. The 14 year old is not his.
I don’t know what I have done to you to cause such a reaction, but oh well.
I clearly stated I think this guy should be investigated.
I do not believe him
I do not believe her
I believe silver fire is doing and has done the right thing.
I was simply providing multiple possible explanations. Sorry they were idiotic to the point of being retarded.
“The guy is a pedophile” - there - that is much easier.
If you want to believe that a supposed homosexual (more likely bi) guy is going after a heterosexual guy by calling his penis small in attempt to get him to prove his penis size is large by showing pictures to him is a much more likely explanation (but hasn’t asked for pictures or made a pass at him) than this mentally unstable woman is twisting a few things to make the guy that she admittedly hates and apparently resents for being gay look bad (or worse than he really is) - then feel free.
I do not know - and admit that - and hope someone will show the text messages to someone who can figure out what is going on.
In case it wasn’t clear - I absolutely agree with you 100%.
While I don’t think what we’ve heard of is illegal - no one should act like this - I mean everyone is talking about this boy, but - geeze - if I was the daughter I’d be mortified - not cause my step dad is a pedophile (which he may be) - but cause - well I think we all know. If I was that boy - I’d be more worried about my girlfriend than me - I could take care of myself at his age. She is stuck with him.
It also wouldn’t surprise me if this jack ass is doing some of this to embarrass the step-daughter and mother. I’m guessing once the pedo-police come around - this will (hopefully) stop.
If Henry was sending texts like that to a co-worker, he’d get slapped down with a sexual harassment suit so fast his head would swim. He needs to learn some boundaries, and I hope the social worker helps him learn them.
Well IMHO, I don’t think you have any reason to ‘second guess’ your decision to do something, nor the actions that you did take.
Henrys behavior was ‘skeevy’ and definitely not appropriate.
In a case such as you’ve described, I think it’s better to ‘err on the side of caution’. But that’s just me. YMMV
This Henry character is seting off my douchebag creepo warning bells seomethig awful.
If there’s one thing life’s too short to put up with its douchebaggery. He might not be a pedo but who wants to be around this loose cannon when he blows up? If that was my husband I’d look into a separation and counseling for him.
Donna and I signed up for a cooking class last month that meets on Mondays. She was kind enough not to bother me with the “are we okay?” crap while we were there, which I appreciated. And Henry wasn’t scheduled to get home for an hour and a half after the class was done so I hung out at her house for a bit.
Her dad was sitting with the girls while we were at class. He gave me a HUGE hug when I walked in and whispered thanks and it was nice. I love him.
So I visited with her girls, both of whom I adore, and Henry came up completely unrelated to any of this; The Girl asked Donna if she was going to order a pizza and she was like, “yeah, I’m sure your dad is going to want to.” And under her breath The Girl said “fuck him.” And then she said he’s “fucking creepy” and is practically begging to move out (she asked me if I have anything available at my properties) and Donna’s response was to tell her not to swear which, yeah, I guess she shouldn’t but she’s obviously frustrated so maybe talk about that? Not my kid though.
Is there anyway you could let the Girl know that if she needs help, she can contact you?
She has my number. I was her go to person when she was down for a couple weeks with a post-op infection after having her tonsils removed a few months ago. I guess I figured she knows she can but I’ll throw her a text and remind her I can be her go to for more than just prescription pick ups and shake runs.
Just be careful how you word it 
I’m going to update this because I found it while looking for something else (what’s the app where kids can earn gold for their character by doing household chores??) and I think people might be curious.
Nothing happened. To my knowledge (and I think I would have gotten a pissed off text from Henry if nothing else, this whole thing being “my fault”) he never even knew he was being investigated. I haven’t seen Donna since the third to last cooking class because she didn’t go to the last two and I haven’t really talked to her, either. She’s tried to engage me via text message but, while I haven’t actually told her to go fuck herself, I think she’s taken the hint. The only time I’ve actively confronted her is when she texted me to bitch about how miserable her marriage is and I told her flat out that I’m not interested at all in hearing her complain about the things in her life she absolutely could change but won’t. She’s tried a few “hi, how are you?” type texts but I just don’t care.
I haven’t seen the younger kid at all but I did get in touch with The Girl because I had some clothes for her. She still hates Henry, isn’t seeing The Boy anymore, and thinks Donna is “pathetic” because Donna and Henry went out together on NYE* and Donna acts like everything is fine and Henry is still a “fucking asshole” and blah blah blah. I made it clear to her that if she needs anything at all she can call me. I told her if she sneaks out/runs away (she mentioned it) that she can call her grandpa, but if she needs to talk or whatever or something creepy comes up again, she can call me any time, text, whatever.
*I actually knew about this because Donna sent me a text (without any prompting or questioning from me because I just don’t give a shit) to explain that they had gone out with friends but she “basically ignored him all night, lol.” I assume she sent that because she knew I would see the Facebook pictures and know what a sad, ridiculous person she is.
Thanks for the update; how very unsatisfactory & worrying. I’m glad at least the girl knows what she can do and the boy is apparently out of harm’s way.
Glad to hear the girl is still in touch and aware of what a danger this could be. BTW, I think you’re thinking of something like “Chore Wars” or “Chore Quest”.
I was wondering what happened to this thread re: and the creep in this story
thanks for posting Silver Fire