The more I think about this, the more I realize it’s obnoxious to almost anyone doing something for you–parent or not. If I knew someone who treated their help/assistant/etc. like that, my estimation of them would shoot waaay down.
I don’t think it is pathetic at all. I lived with my parents until I was well into my 20s.
In my case it was because I couldn’t afford to pay for both the incidental costs of schooling and an apartment on what I could earn during the summer - and my parents and I both agreed that it made little sense to run up debts to do so when my parents lived close to my university (my tuition there was free because my dad was a prof, until law school - which I paid for. In Canada, it was cheaper a decade ago, you could in fact earn enough).
I came out of university totally debt-free, and I owe that to my parents. Other people have their reasons for living at home; I’m the last to judge them.
I suppose what I would judge, at least superficially, is someone who was in that situation and expressed generalized disrespect for the parents (who after all are doing one a big favour). To me, there would have to be some extenuating circumstances to avoid having that ingratitude not appear “pathetic”.
Well, I’m not about to knock my folks. My sister, who’s incredibly moody, yes. But she’s always been that way, so I don’t take it personally.
And yeah, my mother and I get on each other’s nerves sometimes, but we’d be that way without living in the same house.
Why do you still live at home? If you don’t mind explaining.
That’s cute. So much to say, and so many places to begin.
First, to lavenderviolet. You’re flattering me. I’ve obviously been on your radar for a while. You went into my posting past, and dug up some “examples” of me being a prick to the female parental unit in the past.
Your first link was a joke. I ate the salami and it was fine. It was frozen and wrapped up just fine. I was merely making light of the situation. Either you didn’t find it funny, I simply didn’t bring the funny, it wasn’t funny to begin with, or you’ve got no sense of humor at all. For the sake of argument, we’ll throw out the two extremes and assume that it simply just wasn’t very funny, which is fine. My name in your file must also have a flatulence section in it because you had to do some excavation to get my anecdote about her rectal eruptions in the bean soup aftermath. This, also, was an amusing story, especially in light of that old thread.
Cherrypicking some quotes and creating a nice story in between is pretty nice and admirable. Very nice of you to come on your high, white horse and come to the rescue. Unfortunately, I don’t care about what you’ve got to say. Say whatever makes you feel good. You’re the one that opened the thread. Make this great rage that you feel worth it.
As to some of the details of what’s gone on between my mother and myself, I think I’ll say that it’s not so much of your business. Believe it or not (and it’ll be met with a resounding “not”) I have my reasons to feel some animosity towards my mother. I will, however, say that it’s not one of those cats-and-dogs relationships where we’re constantly fighting and miserable. There are some good times, there are some bad times, and there were certainly some bad times in the past. In a nutshell, I know that my mother doesn’t wish any harm upon me, but she’s had some peculiar ways of showing it.
I sincerely don’t care what you, the people of the Dope do ultimately think of me. I won’t say that you can’t judge me, because that’s a damned lie. You already have. Hell, you can think I’m making the entire thing up and that I’m a miserable person that only thinks of himself, but that would go against a lot of my posting history.
Well, this is certainly the darker side of the Dope. I’m glad it’s here, for miscellaneous reasons, but it gets downright sad at times.
Even crazier than this is the fun Snark Pitting. I didn’t even know it existed until someone recently told me about it. People come here…to bitch and whine about a lot of things in the Pit, and then they have another anonymous message board about it, too? The mind boggles.
You may now resume Pitting me for things that you don’t hold complete understanding about.
Don’t let it get you down, man. People judge each other without giving it a second thought. It’s not right, but it’s human nature. Just keep moving forward with your life. Nobody’s perfect. Most dope denizens excepted.
Well, I’m not too caught up about it, but I at least wanted to have my say in public court.
I personally don’t give a shit if you get along with your mom or not, but using the phrase “female parental unit” makes you sound like some retard from Sex & The City or some similarly lame “witty” sitcom.
Well, I wasn’t. Feel free to substitute it with whatever term you wish, if it’s more palatable.
All right. I’ll substitute “mom”.
sigh Mostly, it’s part financial/medical. My job history has been spotty, my health-mental AND physical isn’t what I’d like it to be. I was diagnosed with epilepsy earlier this year, and I’m on Medicaid. My caseworker told me that living at home was actually an advantage. (I can’t remember all the details, and even then, I don’t feel like going into them.)
Either way, it’s between my family and I, and like I said, nobody else’s goddamned business. If it’s pathetic, well, fine. I really don’t give a shit.
And finally, I like my job, I’ve got friends, things are picking up, and I’m content for the time being.
Besides, I’d have to leave my kitties behind.
A mooch and a liar:
But at least you’re an equal opportunity liar, you lie to yourself as well:
Truly pathetic.
Are you infering a negative sentiment? I don’t think it’s bad when people in their 20’s or 30’s stay at home with their parents necessarily. A very good friend of mine, a girl in her mid-20’s stated very openly that she planned to live at home until she found someone to get married to and live with (she just had an engagement party and hasn’t lived at home for some time now). While she lived at home this seemed very reasonable to me. Her and her parents got along great and she had a very good job. Why move out if you don’t need to and things work great at home?
You’re famous now. Doesn’t it feel good? I still remember the first time I was snarked, still seeking that elusive first pitting though.
And LOUNE, I generally find you to be a funny guy, but next time I see your Mom referenced as anything except “Mom” (ex. birth giver female parental unit, etc…) I am printing out your post and setting it on fire! (Since I can’t threaten you physically this is the closest I could come up with)
There are lots of reasons for people to live with their parent(s) longer than usual. Those reasons are nobody’s business. Some modicum of respect should exist between adults who share a home, particularly when one of the “adults” is dependent in great part upon the other adult.
Anyone who lives with his mother and can’t find a way to call her “mother” or “mom” is just a spoiled, immature brat.
Move out, get a life. Don’t bother telling us about your mother. You suck. I hope it’s not too late for you to evolve into a human being.
Sorry, I meant the pitee. Should have said subject of the OP. Apologies to **lavenderviolet
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This is an excellent way to approach this if you want this thread to die down. Giving particulars gives the pit hyenas fresh meat to fight over. This way they’ll just badger you by saying you would give details, then not giving them. Screw them - you don’t have to dance for our entertainment. You could if you want to, but you don’t have to. You’re not a dancing monkey. Well, I assume you aren’t. If you are, you are a very talented dancing monkey. Also a typing monkey. Multi-talented.
My first thought, though, is that if a person is going to make a big show on a message board of not referring to his mother in the expected way, then he is setting himself up for questions. And, for that matter, it actually makes it seem as though he WANTS people to ask questions. It’s really easy to avoid people asking questions about your mother. Don’t mention her. And if you do, call her “mom,” and don’t tell us she’s awful without giving any actual evidence of such. Simple.
Don’t you mean jackals? 
Depends… which ones are always laughing?
Not at all, I was just genuinely curious. 