Is this a guy you would want to go out with anyway? I’m not implying anything, merely pointing out that just because you had sex with him doesn’t mean you have to see him again.
It’s not a shallow thing. You said you didn’t know the guy before, so what 'm asking is, if you hadn’t had sex with him, would you still be as interested in seeing him again? If yes, then go for it. If no or probably, maybe not, move on.
Either way, you didn’t say it (your first time) was bad, so I’ll take a liberty an assume you enjoyed it. Congrats.
Doll, I have a magic pill for you. You take it and poof you are a virgin again. It works. RIGHT GUYS?!?!
I don’t mean that to be snide, but so as to say that if you truly regret losing your virginity this way and at this time, you can become a “born again virgin”. Sure virginity is physical, but the regret is mental and by taking this BAV pill, the regret part can be minimised. Sort of like being absolved.
You don’t have to take it if you don’t want to; I just wanted to let you know that it’s here if you would like it.
I’m with spritle on this. “The first time” doesn’t HAVE to be the actual first time. And enjoy the next first time. It will be easier to do, now that you know what to expect. Chalk this one up to experience. Maybe tell Mr Right about your time with Mr Wrong–if that’s what this guy turns out to be–at some later date. If you choose Mr Right, um, right, he’ll laugh about it with you then do something to make sure you remember HIM and not Mr Wrong.
However, I do think this guy’s friend was trying to get him in trouble with you. I think he likes you.
<sing-song voice> Broken Doll’s got a boyfriend! Broken Doll’s got a boyfriend!
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BD:
Sorry that you had a rough NYE but I think things will look up. It is a good thing that he called you. If he didn’t plan on seeing you he would have never called.
I agree with a lot of the advice here and at your age I realize that sex and virginity is a big thing. I think as time goes on you won’t regret your first time at all but rather cherish the first time that you have sex with someone that you REALLY care about.
Was it his first time too? Just curious. Maybe he’s feeling a little awkward as well? Just a thought.
As always Broken doll. You are an extremely attractive girl and from what I can tell a very cool person. You shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. Take care and good luck. Things will work out.
Yeah, I bet he feels REAL awkward right now, and him calling you was actually a MAJOR coup. Do you have his number? Maybe you could call him and talk things over. Maybe you’ll come to the conclusion that this wasn’t something either of you wants to continue, but you can both work some of this out.
Boy, in retrospect I wish I had his guts. There was one time when things went farther faster than anybody expected and I sorta dropped the ball on the followup and I still regret looking like a jagoff when I was really feeling real awkward. SORRY, SUE, WHEREVER YOU ARE!
I gotta agree with dropzone on this. If he wanted to break it off quick, he would have just not called. But he did. I don’t know how old this guy is, but his friend sounds like an immature jerk, jealous that his buddy is talking with a beautiful girl.
BrokenDoll, even if things don’t work out with this guy, you’re very attractive. It will sting, hurt, and feel kind of yucky for a while, but I have a feeling that it won’t be too long before you’re back in the saddle.
I’ve said it before and its become sort-of my phrase to live by: It’ll get better. It always does.
Sue Duhnym, I’m sorry you got so upset. But it just looks to me like this guy is so far gone from ever coming back, that it’s best to take care of one’s body next, thus a list of things to do next.
The “first time all over again” is something to consider a lot.
And believe me, if he didn’t care, he wouldn’t have called at all. If he wants to go out another time, take him up on it. If he blows you off again… get suspicious and a bat.
For the most part, you’re correct, but after being with a first-timer, a decent guy is apt to feel a bit guilty, no matter how enthusiastic his partner.
Gee, sorry, Doll. Sounds alot like my first time, 'cept he didn’t call the next day. As much as I would like to give you an upbeat, positive answer…don’t hold your breath. In my experience (and yes, I am one of the “older” ones you spoke of), if the guy is really interested, he won’t call when his friends are around.
Wait untill next Friday, if nothing, I have relatives in Australia that would be more than welcome to take an initiative.
But seriously, wait 'till you hear form him again. If you do, great, if you don’t by Friday, chances are that it was a one night stand. In which case, you’ll have to move on. There’s really nothing else that could be done, except get revenge, but we can talk about that through email. No need to corrupt the other posters.
