Why don’t you have sex with him since you pity him?
He’s a virgin. That means no sex with anyone; prostitute or civilian. And let’s not go overboard here. Plenty of people live lives of celibacy and live perfectly contented lives.
Why don’t you have sex with him since you pity him? :dubious:
I am not a gay, sorry. If I was a female, with pleasure would I do it!
What does that have to do with anything?
This thread has gone all weird.
Come on!
Just stay on top! Be a man!
Sorry. I digress.
It got weird because people are still under the false impression that a virgin man is somehow a freak. My husband was a virgin when we got married. He was 25. He did not have any issue in the bedroom either.
(Movies) Does it really matter? 
I couldn’t really care less about that part. I’ll edit it down next time I’m on OKC.
Well, yes, that’d be nice! I doubt I come off as creepy. “Desperate clown”, more likely.
Ya think? Why else would I beg for advice on a public message board?
Next Tuesday, Doper orgy, my place, I’ll watch and learn. How’s that?
Yeah . . . there’s your problem right there. You sound poor and destined to stay that way. Women generally aren’t into that.
ETA: Also, in this heterosexual guy’s opinion, you aren’t bad looking. But your weight seems to fluctuate widely through your photos–maybe take off the fat ones if you are no longer fat (or unfatify yourself if you are).
Poverty: Yeah. That’s mostly deliberate. Not a fan of unfettered capitalism and wealth inequity. If celibacy is the price of idealism, well, shucks. Them’s the breaks.
I’ll work on the photos. I don’t have many pictures of myself to begin with, which is why I had to pick from multiple eras. People hated the previous bunch of mostly-recent photos so I dove a bit into the past. I’m just average in terms of the body. Not terribly fit, not terribly fat.
Wait, what? Am I just confused or aren’t you gay?
I’m going to try to summarize the (realistically usable) advice I got this thread, to see if I’m at least on the right track:
- Build more confidence.
- Get fitter.
- Get better pictures and don’t come off as a snob in online dating.
- Don’t rely exclusively on online dating.
- Dress better.
- Get laid.
- Ask more girls out, don’t reject potential dates, and don’t expect a LTR right off the bat.
Most of that I can do. How can I work on building confidence and just generally being attractive/interesting enough to people so they’d want to even spend time with me?
Why does not being a fan of unfettered capitalism and wealth inequity mean that you have to be poor?
Actually, I apologize. I do believe I was thinking of another Doper.
Because my careers of choice are unlikely to result in much, if any, money. Natural sciences and non-profits aren’t exactly millionaire-making industries. In this industry, this region, these economic times, I would be extremely lucky to even land a full-time job where I can pay the bills.
And if I should happen to make bank, I’d want to give most of it away to these causes as opposed to hoarding it all for me and mine.
Dude you live in Arcata? You love nature and the environment and are young and good looking. You could be getting laid. A lot. Forget this OKC crap, it’s all going on right outside.
Take a little road trip over to Chico where there is a big hippy state university. Join up with some clean the forest projects or something and there will be like-minded women there doing it too. Talk to them. They know you’re interested if you just walk up and say hi and make casual smalltalk. They will either want to get to know you better or not. You will be able to tell by their reaction to you. Keep trying until one does. Ask her if she will show you some local places to go eat or save the rainforests.
Luck, timing, and chemistry will all play a part in your success and it can take dozens of failures before one even agrees to a first date. You live in a great part of the country to meet a lot of women that share your interest in the environment. OKC might be good for narrowing down your search when you are looking for a life partner but it’s no substitute for getting outside and meeting people that are already in your area and already have similar interests right now. Remember even if a woman already has a partner she has friends, and making a lot of female friends is a good way to meet a friend of a friend.
To avoid coming across as creepy, desperate, or whatever, really just be relaxed and be yourself. Talk to them as if you were talking to any friend but let them know you’re single, well adjusted and in school during your conversation. Be ready with smalltalk but don’t say too much. Let them talk more than you, listen to what they say and find common ground to build on.
When it seems to be clicking with one, and it might take dozens of tries before it does, don’t make an awkward lunge at them or anything but let them know you are interested in unambiguous terms, and don’t be afraid to be rejected. You can’t win if you don’t play.
Repeat this about 300 times and then start looking for someone willing to live in a treehouse and eat tofu, in the mean time just get out there and meet people.
Well, there you go then, broseph. Glad we could solve this little problem for you. Now you can forget about women and get on with saving the world (or whatever the hell).