Long story short: I’m not ugly, I have friends, an active social life, I’m employed, and so on, yet I find it impossible to date.
I have gone on dates in the literal sense, kissed guys, and had sex. I just can’t make it last past the first three or so dates usually because either I have zero chemistry with them or the guy suddenly develops some weird hang up and doesn’t want to be involved anymore.
The first guy who I had a fling with post college was kind of nerdy, and I’m not, so there was a major lack of common interests there. I suppose that was self explanatory.
The second guy asked me out via a note while I was at my job. We hit it off and the first date went well. Then it was revealed that he had a major obsession with Sept. 11th. Seriously, like he would talk about it all the time and his guilt for not joining the military after it happened and I didn’t know how to respond to that. He ended up eventually dating a girl whose dad is a fire fighter.
I met another guy at a party and he was just really annoying- would constantly facebook message me and text me- so I ended that before anything happened.
These real life guys weren’t working out so I tried online dating.
Met a decent guy who claimed to be interested in me, said I was so smart and beautiful, blah blah blah. We went on several dates and then he dropped off the face of the earth because of law school. I forgot about online dating until now and saw that he was still on the site so I messaged him to see how things were going. He claimed to be interested in me, but said all he does is work. So why the hell be on a dating site if you’re not interested in dating anyone? Unless he was lying to me all along and is giving me the brush off.
There’s another guy I met, but he’s hideously boring as are 99.9999% of the guys on the site.
So anyway, either I have the worst luck in the world or there’s something I’m doing that’s putting guys off. None of my female friends in real life have an answer so it must be guy specific. I don’t know if I should settle for someone boring or if it’s better to be single. I also wish I could figure out what causes guys I like to drop off the face of the earth after saying things that clearly indicate their interest. Maybe I’m coming on too strong? I’m just trying to reciprocate the interest, not propose marriage.
The whole situation is very frustrating and I’m at an age where my family is starting to ask why I don’t have a boyfriend although I suppose it’s none of their damn business.