Cat Whisperer, the previous note said to end the hijack…that means end the hijack. I’ll give the benefit of the doubt you didn’t see it before you replied. Drop it now.
Yeah, OKCupid’s personality analysis is somewhat questionable, but not many people realize that. It’s unfortunate, but for now we’re stuck with it.
I’m a guy and it makes a difference to me. Before my current girlfriend I had the chance to be with someone I liked quite a bit. No idea if it would have gone anywhere. We had a little fun but her finances were so awful I couldn’t see a future. At 25 I could see doing that. At 45 not so much. Luckily I found someone who I am very compatible with who happens to have a good career too. Working good so far.
Yes it is.
This is only barely an exaggeration.
So my initial reaction to this thread, having read the title only was (crudely, admittedly) “He’s probably ugly.” So I went to the SDMB Photo Gallery and thought, “Oh, he’s not. He’s probably lame then.” Then I read your OP and you seemed like a normal guy, huh. Then I visited your OK Cupid profile, barely made it through and thought, “I don’t have time for this earthy bullshit.”
Right. I don’t go in for vegans, but would consider making an exception for the right non-preachy guy. Saying things like you’re vegan because you value life in the same breath as saying you’re not preachy makes me skip to the next message in my inbox.
I can understand not wanting to be a carbon copy of every other douche on OKC who has a twenty-page list of his favorite obscure-to-non-existent bands in the arts/entertainment section, but you still want to come off as a normal guy. Your profile doesn’t say “Normal guy who’s into the outdoors, staying fit and eating vegan.” It says “Blah blah blah blah, vegan blah blah.” I don’t know if you come off that way in real life, but if you do, it’s not helping.
But this is just one gal’s opinion. If I can make my opinion worth more, I’ll add I’m about your age, am active, volunteer often, so we’re on the same page on some things (although I am so very not vegan), and yet I’m put off by your profile.
I thought you were old. :dubious:
I’m old. I hate teenagers and love gin which, according to my friends, makes me old.
Uh uh. Check her picture on the gallery. She’s young and hot.
Reply I am going to give you a spiritual answer as 30 is far too long to go without a relationship. It may not make any sense to you as I’m sure it won’t to many dopers here. But here goes. Take a object you have a fond attachment to, you should get a idea which one, and destroy it, donate it or somehow get rid of it as a offering to experience a relationship, if it has lots of value please PM me as I can accept that on your behalf - JK - Destroy it.
I don’t claim it will be a good one but it will happen in 3 days 23 hours 0 minutes and 32 seconds, or some time before or after.
But it will happen.
Peace
A good what will happen? 
You make no mention of what you are talking about. It could be a spiritual awakening, it could be a bowel movement.
Where is this damn gallery?
Your profile is just too long and earnest. You don’t come across as someone you could have a laugh with. The other advice you’ve had, like changing some of your pictures, is sound. If you’re vegan but could date someone who wasn’t, make that clear.
How many questions have you answered on okc? I don’t mean the ones in your profile - I mean the ones that pop up, like would you have sex on a first date, or do you prefer cats or dogs. If you haven’t answered many, you won’t often come up in people’s feeds. Also, you know how you see people mentioned on the front page? It’s often because they just answered a question.
I met my gf through okc, btw, and know several other people who’ve done so. Their dating algorithm is - as long as you’ve answered a lot of questions - surprisingly accurate.
Don’t underestimate the value of a good bowel movement. I’d rather have that than a spiritual awakening.
Oh I don’t. In fact that is how I’m leaning towards interpreting Kanicbird’s post. Intuitively it just feels right.
Actually, the previous note said to stop the sniping, and I was not sniping, so I figured it was okay. So, what you actually want is for people to stop commenting on msmith’s opinion - I can do that.
Seriously - do a LOT of those questions, answer them honestly.
If I give up a good bowel movement, will I get a relationship?
Heck, for some people a good bowel movement IS a relationship.
My what big eyes you have.
I agree with the comments about the too touchy-feeliness, intensity, seriousness, and self-deprecation in your profile. You need to slash and burn. I have a feeling, though, that the profile echoes the vibe you are putting off. You need to be/act/fake WAY more self-confidence. I know it’s hard when your confidence has gotten hit a lot, but if ever a guy needed a sprinkling of cocky and funny, you do. (Google it.)
Although it will be hard at first, it will get easier to act confident - and when you do so, you will get good results, which will make you more confident. If necessary, pretend you are playing the role of a very confident guy in a movie, and do and say the things that the confident guy would say. Yes, I said pretend. But eventually it won’t be as pretend. I’m pretty sure it’s your unconfident vibe. As for all the vegan stuff and whatever, someone is going to be into that or will put up with it – if you are confident. Confident equals sexy, attractive, etc. As **Anaamika **said, in your profile, what people notice about you first should be definitely a positive attribute, preferably physical. I also agree that you need to ask a woman who knows you and will be brutally honest – to tell you what you are doing wrong. You seem like a really good guy, and I think your issues are definitely solveable. Maybe think of it like a science or academic project. This is what I need to do to get his result. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.
Do what kanicbird said, but make sure that object is a printed out version of his post.
A very bold prediction.