(I’d also like to apologise for the non-inclusion of a smiley in my first post to this thread; my intention was not to be hostile, but rather to give like for like.
I meant that everyone who is whining here on the message board should just shut the fuck up. And if you’re out there having sex with lots of people, then yes, it would behoove you to use a condom.
Aha, ‘lots of people’, there’s the important missing phrase, thanks.
Mangetout, it doesn’t really help to be monogamous if your partner isn’t.
I don’t care if people here listen to advice or not. If they take a chance and croak because of their stupidity (gays/straight, doesn’t matter) its their own fault. Give them a Darwin Award. I wouldn’t expect anyone to care if I were to die due to my own stupidity. You know the rules and the risks and took a chance and lost.
Remember the category of people I said you have to really watch out for? Case in point
Yes, but unless the person specifically says “I had unprotected sex with 8 guys last night,” or “I banged six girls last night, and I did it all without protection,” it’s fairly likely that the person did use a condom.
If they didn’t use a condom…they knew the risks. The population of this message board appears to be fairly above that of the general population. They know what condoms are, and they’ve probably made an informed decision not to use a condom. I’d be willing to wager, though, that the majority of the sexually promiscuous posters here have made an informed choice to use a condom. It just doesn’t seem right to post “I had sex last night (and yes I used a condom)” when the use of a condom is not relevant to the rest of the post.
Telling someone to use a condom every time you hear that they’re having sex implies that you don’t trust their judgement, and that moreover you are assuming that they aren’t in, say, an exclusive, tested relationship. I can see it getting on the nerves of some of our gay male posters, too…they probably hear it all the time. I mean, it’s not as someone’s going to go “What is this condom thing you speak of? How may I utilize it in order to fornicate without fear?” You’re not enlightening anyone. You’re just nagging.
That’s not to say that you’re not “allowed” to say that to someone…it just means that you should at least understand why they might get a little testy in reponse.
My wife and I used condoms for a while, but then we needed more room, and wanted a yard, so we bought a house.
Okay, Okay, I’m shutting the fuck up now.
Just the other day, Abe Babe was telling me that after he and his wife moved into their new home, they started using foam, but what with the more room and bigger yard, they ended up switching to a cellular phone.
::d&r::
This is such a good point because some people do that sometimes :rolleyes: How long do you think a monogamous relationship is going to last if one partner keeps telling the other “hey, can we use a condom just in case you’ve been screwing around?” ?
Besides, there would be little point in me having gone through all that pain, discomfort and inconvenience asociated with the vasectomy if a condom was to be used all of the time.
What if it’s two lesbians, what are they supposed to do with a condom? I guess if they were sharing a dildo, they could put a condom on that between swaps or something. Other than that I think some plastic wrap might be a better choice. Maybe Mylar if you’re worried about, er, chewing through.
What about a couple who are trying to become parents?
Silky, People who live in glass houses shouldn’t.
[sister of perpetual indulgence]
Canonical lesbian safe sex is a dental dam, but they’re difficult to find, so you can unroll a condom and cut it along one side of its length and use that as a barrier.
[/sister of perpetual indulgence]
I’ve also seen it done with a latex glove, which might be cheaper to buy in bulk than condoms.
{sigh}
Know ye this for all time: I sleep around, and I always use a condom and practice safe sex - and I remain 100% STD-free, as I have for the duration of my sexual life.
Your concern is duly noted. And now that we all know The Truth[sup]TM[/sup], I expect to never again be lectured on this topic on the SDMB. (Likewise, any moral aspersions cast against those whose sex lives differ from your own will not be tolerated.)
Thank you.
Esprix
(Any other Doper, particularly my fellow LGBT Dopers, who would like to cut and paste the above for their own use may feel free to do so.)
Know ye this for all time: I sleep around, and I always use a condom and practice safe sex - and I remain 100% STD-free, as I have for the duration of my sexual life.
Your concern is duly noted. And now that we all know The Truth™, I expect to never again be lectured on this topic on the SDMB. (Likewise, any moral aspersions cast against those whose sex lives differ from your own will not be tolerated.)
Thank you.
scott evil
I replaced TM with ALT+0153… 
Know ye this for all time: I sleep around, and I always use a condom and practice safe sex - and I remain 100% STD-free, as I have for the duration of my sexual life.
Your concern is duly noted. And now that we all know The Truth™, I expect to never again be lectured on this topic on the SDMB. (Likewise, any moral aspersions cast against those whose sex lives differ from your own will not be tolerated.)
Thank you.
Hastur
That’s all well and good, guys, and you won’t hear any lectures from me. However, I would still ask you not to go ballistic on anybody if he or she has the audacity to post a safe sex reminder without going through your entire posting history. There are 22,000 members on this board and not everybody knows who the fuck you are.