HUmmm…I’m wondering if you are experiencing this “exciting forbidden sex with a young girl” thing vicariously. I think that if you strongly felt it was morally (or otherwise) wrong you would never have become involved, even tangentally, to begin with. That would have kicked in as soon as he asked you to lie about where he was. You are enabling him, so there is some payoff for you. I’m not saying you are scum; just a man who has fantasies like most men. Appeal to the better part of yourself and don’t get sucked into that “just between us men” crap. It can turn into a disaster where his wife, and worst of all his daughter, will be irretrivable hurt and your friendships will be broken and sides will be taken. I hate like hell to say this, but I don’t think he should tell his wife as long as it never happens again. If he can’t tell you that, then you will have to end the friendship and make up a reason, because when it does come out guess who will never trust you again? Your wife or girlfriend. since he is your friend she will know that you knew. Believe me. By the way, I say don’t tell her because the pain she will suffer is greater than the relief he will feel dumping his guilt on her.
He’s just plain EVIL!! And making you evil to boot!! He’s a pig!
(still in a really, really BAD mood!)
I wouldn’t let him guilt you into being an accessory to his infidelity. Tell him that if he doesn’t end it, you’re not going to cover for him, and that if his wife asks you, you’ll tell her. That way you’re not really getting involved in a messy situation. If you tell her, there is no guarantee that she’ll believe you anyway.
Don’t let your friend drag you into his sad little world.
What’s the age of consent in your state? Are you helping your buddy engage in and conceal a felony, like statutory rape? Or are you at least helping your buddy open himself to prosecution? Ask him if he has ever heard the term “jail bait.” No matter what the girl’s story is, your buddy is taking advantage of her, and you’re helping him.
Yep.
So, this guy is your friend. Was his wife your friend too? Because she isn’t anymore. Or more accurately, you are not her friend.
Quit it. Right now. And don’t hang around until this thing blows up in your friend’s face (which it will, they always do), because you are who you roll with, and you will get splattered with the muck too.
Sad. You might consider taking a long look at what you are doing, rather than what he is doing.
People who cheat are assholes. People who help them cheat or cover it up are assholes. Especially when there is a child’s life to be wrecked.
WWDPD?*
Tell him you will not lie for him or enable him to continue his behavior.
- What would Dr. Phil Do?
Yes, yes you are. Desist at once.
Holy Shit!! You’re bordering on bastardization. That’s situation is disgusting. :eek:
Well, you wanted opinions.
I don’t think 17 is under the age of consent in South Carolina, assuming that is where you are. So you may be OK on the legal issues.
But you can’t trust this guy not to be lying to you even now. I would ditch him, because there is a good chance he is going to try and use you again.
Whatever “payoff” that disgusting pig is getting out of fucking a 17 year-old girl, it’s not a payoff he should ethically want or need.
I would blow the whistle so hard, the sound would shatter the windows.
If I were you I’d take everyone else’s advice.
Oh, and dump this guy.
Unless your friend is a Priest, and you have been raised to regard Priests as above sin…
WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING!? That boinking a kid is just like sneaking out with the guys for a couple of drinks after work?! IT’S NOT!!
Let’s see:
Adultery (while being a parent of a small child - extra points! girlchild at that ! DOUBLE points!)
Statutary rape (always a heartwarmer - just imagine your child, in a few years, getting durng with some old bastard and humping him in a pickip truck - makes you fell all warm and cozy, doesn’t it?)
Demands that friends lie about his whereabouts, thereby making them accessories after the fact. Or does he ask you to bring the child over to his place, with booze, and take pictures?
How disgusting does this have to get before you decide to do something?
At www.ageofconsent.com, it says that South Carolina’s is either 14 or 16. So it looks like it isn’t illegal, just inappropriate.
Wholly inappropriate. At the end of the day, this guy is using you, a so called friend. He’s f**king round on his wife and doing God knows what with some kid.
He is a slimeball and you should refuse point blank to have anything further to do with it. If the wife asks you outright, look at her blankly - that’s as good as a Yes he’s cheating on you as anything is.
He is no friend to you if he really expects you to cover his ass like this. He doesn’t deserve anyone’s respect.
If you and your buddy are in S. Carolina as your location would seem to indicate, the age of consent is 14. No, I didn’t have that memorized. I just looked it up for you. Good news: no laws being broken. Bad news: still a slimy dealing that you obviously don’t want to be involved in.
Of course, if you’re clever you could always “arrange” for his wife to catch them in the act. That way you won’t have told her outright and she’ll know the truth.
They’ll both still hate you, but at least you’ll have kept your word.
I fixed your link in the quoted bit. I was surprised that 17 is not legal everywhere. Even liberal California’s age of consent is 18!
IMHO:
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Tell the wife? Your call.
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Lie for the husband? No way.
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Have an affair with the wife.
How is the blame now lies with the whistleblower, not the preprtrator? :rolleyes:
Better than being kept in the dark, that’s for sure.
Tell him you won’t lie for him anymore! And did you consider maybe letting the parents of the 17 year old know? Secretly, of course.