Last night Im at my local Safeway. While Im standing in line at check out, me and the guy behing me strike up a conversation. It start with the Monday Night Football game then to the line, and work. As Im putting my groceries back in my basket the guy say “so you want to go get some coffee” I say “no, I gotta get these groceries home” he say “well how about another time, I’ll give you my number”
“Huh”
Then the little voice in my head say “he thinks you’re gay” Oh! I think to myself, so I say “sorry, Im married” to which the guy says “too bad” and walks off.
Now this didn’t really bother me, except that it’s not the first time it’s happened, so opinions, is it something Im doing? Maybe sending mixed signals or something? Opinions?
If I were you I’d take it as a compliment.
I’m not trying to kiss your ass or anything, but similar things have happened to me and I rationalize thusly - Wow, I’m such a beautiful all-around great human being that every one wants to know me. I know, I know, big ego, whatever. But’s it’s not like that, really. It just seems that if anyone - male, female, canine, alien, whatever - shows interest in you, you should feel flattered. Unless it turns grabby, but that’s another story.
I think it just goes to show this whole “gaydar” thing is nonsense. I’ve gotten hit on by lesbians a few times, and I just say, “Sorry, I’m straight” and that usually takes care of the situation. I always take it as a compliment, same as Jack Batty, and don’t read too much into it.
Well… you do have that… “quality” (obscure Friends reference)…
But I must say considering the recent threads here it takes a brave man to use the word vibes like that in the OP…
