Am I outa line? (Kinda long)

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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First things first. My wife and I have been married for four years. We hardly every have a disagreement let alone an argument. Quite copasetic.

A couple times a year she and an old girlfriend or two go to a seafood place for drinks and dinner and she invited me along. I absolutely detest seafood, but I know I can get a burger or something so what the heck I go.

I work a slightly different schedule than she so I go home, feed the pets, hang out for a bit and then drive back into town (15 miles) to meet at the restaurant. Hmm, she’s not there. We are both nuts about being prompt but I can’t find her in the restaurant. Oh well, I’ll get a table by the door so I see her when she comes in.

Turns out she was there all the time. Back on an obscure outside deck that you have to know about to find. I have been to this restaurant once before so I’m clueless about the deck. I wait for forty minutes constantly checking the entrance and start getting worried. Although she did call home to see if I did not come, she did not look around the restaurant for me except for the first time she came in (turns out she came in about 5 mins. before I did - told ya we where prompt).

I was watching the front door so I didn’t see any sense in searching the restaurant again. I might have found the deck if I did so I guess that’s an oops on my part.

I finally found her at the bar ordering a drink to take out on the deck (the deck was actually closed to service because it had been raining).

Here’s the final kick in the head. I was about to order my burger and asked what she was going to have. She wasn’t hungry, they had a big meeting at work and some people brought food so she ate there.

I know she wanted me to come. I even offered to stay home and clean because we where having company the next day (wish I had). She said she would prefer that I come if I wanted to.

I did bring this up with her and she apologized. But I swear, I don’t think she understands why I’m a little miffed.

Am I outa line here?

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If ‘little miffed’ is a euphemism for ‘pretty pissed’, then I’d say you’re a little out of line. If it’s just a minor gripe that you’ll forget about in a day, then let it slide and next time try to jointly decide an easier place to find each other.

But then, I’m not married, so YMMV.

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Tell us how you feel in 24 hours.

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It doesn’t sound like she did this on purpose. It was a misunderstanding. Assumptions were made: you assumed she’d be waiting for you; she assumed you knew where the deck was or would look there.

Let it go. I’d be ticked too, but more at the situation not at the person.

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Oh, I’ll get over it fine. I just think it would have been nice if she would have thought to look for me.

I went out of my way by having to drive back into town to go to a restaurant that she likes and I detest and she’s already eaten elsewhere. Ow.

I know it was just a dumb blunder. But I do think it was kind of inconsiderate as well. It not something that she does often, I had just hoped that she would see it from my perspective.

Oh Well.

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enipla, if I were you, I’d have looked harder for her. If I were her, I’d have looked harder for you.

So, there it is. Chalk it up to One of Those Things and don’t let it eat at ya.