An Apology.

The BBQ Pit
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In a Thread that I recently started here in the Pit, I behaved in a manner that is not only inconsistent with what the SDMB Members should offer, but out of line in any social situation. Since I was very pointed in some of the remarks I made, I wish to be as pointed in my regrets.

Manhatten, I apologize for inferring that you were not as diligent with anti-LDS comments as you would be with any other anti-religion comments. I know better, you are as protective equally.
Stoid, your early comment was painfully accurate. I do not belong in this Forum, for I over react atrociously.

Guinastasia, my abuse of you was unwarranted. You’ve as much right as every other Doper to go after any remark I make, without fear of being villified. You should have been able to go after me, by using the thread from a few weeks ago, and I apologize here for the angry words and disrespectful tone I used when you posted those links, and made those remarks

Anthracite, I don’t even know what to say at this point. Apologizing won’t do much, but believe me when I say that I am aware that I bit a hand that was gently trying to guide me, and that is a woefully awful thing for any person to do to another. I can’t ask you to forgive me, but I can ask you to believe me when I say that I am aware of it. I’m so sorry that your gentility was met with anger instead of gratitude. Please accept my apologies.

It’s clear that while I may have somethings here and there of a positive nature to offer to the SDMB in other Forums, the BBQ Pit is not a place I can handle writing into. I am aware after the fact that the vitriol I unleash is awful to read, hurtful to those I focus upon and almost entirely detrimental to the thread.

Greenbean, I was truly horrified when you expressed fear at ever meeting me. Let me put your mind at ease.The dinner last fall on a Thursday evening, where I sat next to your brother for HOURS and had an incredibly lovely visit with the Dopers who attended, will be the last event I ever attend. You needn’t worry that you will be yelled at by me. Ever. Your points in your posts were well taken, I’m humiliated that I was not able to simply stop what I was frothing about and read your words more carefully.

Tansu, you won’t get any venom or vitriol. You were correct.

My hope is that my words here will be taken as meant, without sarcasm or anger. I feel awful, and needed to write this. I won’t be back to the Pit , ever. That includes lurking around to see what becomes of this thread before it’s locked and stickied.

**I wrote something to my parents a very long time ago, because of a published item they gave to me. I said, " Thank you for reminding me that some people use words like a scythe instead of a bludgeon". I’m the son of a writer, and I’m profoundly dismayed that I’ve set down the scythe and reached for the bludgeon- the idea applies here as well. **

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Toonie dear.

I have watched, mostly from afar, some of the threads you have participated in that have gone wrong. And I think you are a fine individual with very good intentions, I really do.

The thing is, you need to mellow out a bit. Or at least you need to do what I have vowed to do, which is that if you feel you or your beliefs are attacked, you need to compose your post, save it somewhere, go to bed and read both the original thread and/or posts TO that thread and decide if you were correct in your proposed post or not…if you still think that you want to say whatever you HAD to say, in the morning you might want to change the wording to more accurately portray what you wanted to say.

I truly do not believe you are a violent or bad person. But sometimes, hon, you come across that way.

Apologies are wonderful, and usually they are accepted in the spirit in which they are offered on this board. But…continued behaviour that makes it necessary to MAKE apologies…now, sooner or later people are going to wonder why a person doesn’t modify their behaviour if they truly MEAN apologies. You know what I mean?

I like you, and I am just trying to help.

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Oh, and honey?

One more thing, brought to mind by several titles appearing to be unfavorable or mocking of Christians.

I’m not going to even open them any more.

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Wow.

'Toon-class act. Seriously.

I was more worried about you than angry. I hope you aren’t offended by that.

Thanks, really.

:slight_smile:

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Guin, darling, you are a class act yourself.

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’Toon, there’s no denying it, you may be a little more sensitive than is good for you, but in the grand scheme of things, I’ll take that over insensitivity, any day.

Just remember to breathe deeply.

Much love & respect.