Accordint to “popular knowledge”. You know. It’s not a hard-and-fast rule but it’s bandied around.
Anal on the first date? Oh Analog!! My bad, pay me no mind.
I couldn’t find anything on who originated the idea, but I’ve heard it since I was in high school.
It’s crap. A guy called Tom and Ray once and said he was looking for a new car that would be a chick magnet. They got right to the crux of the matter and asked what age chick he was looking to attract,
Live it up, dude.
Edit: “Dude” being the OP, not Anaamika. 
Ahhh. Proving once again that I have picked up little popular knowledge. Excellent! My plan to innoculate myself against such silliness is paying off.
Does not parse. All of these words are in English but it still doesn’t make sense to me. Who are Tom and Ray? What does this have to do with my comment? I am confused…
But I agree that it’s crap. Someone said it once before to me pretty succintly. I said that my SO was checking out some 19 YO girl, and commented jokingly that “He’s 30. The right age to be looking at 19 YO girls.” And someone replied, “As if there is a right age.”
Besides, I won’t name names, but I know a Doper who just got married with a similar age gap. He’s older than me, she…may be 20. And they seem to be doing well. Depends on the person.
Pshaw! When I met Bonzer, I was 23, he was 36. Age is just a number in these circumstances. 
Sorry! There was an extra sentence in there that got revised out. Tom and Ray host NPR’s Car Talk. I sometimes forget that the rest of the world doesn’t stop for an hour on Saturday mornings like mine does.
Relationship to your comment was merely to provide contrasting point of view.
Oh, thanks! And it’s not that I’m not into car programs; I mean, I like Top Gear - but that’s a British show of course. Radio? I don’t listen to the radio.
OneCentStamp, I just have two questions for you:
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Are you cool with it?
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Is she?
And a third question: Then what do our opinions have to do with it?
1) Are you cool with it?
I think so, but I’m not entirely sure; that’s why I’m here. 
2) Is she?
She seems to be, and that carries a lot of weight. Since she’s the younger one, if she was at all skeeved, it wouldn’t really matter what I thought of it.
And a third question: Then what do our opinions have to do with it?
I respect you (you in particular, tdn, as well as the DMB in general). Just because I’m looking for perspectives and advice doesn’t necessarily mean I’m giving you guys veto power, anyway.
Go for it! Have a good time Friday night
When Mr. S and I met, I was just shy of 21 and he was 32. After we’d been together a month (not too long after we met), people were telling we were like an old married couple. We “clicked” pretty much right away.
Now we ARE an old (and very happily) married couple, 17 years this past July.
Age is just a number, dude.
Why thank you! And back atcha!
I will give you a couple of things to think about. When I was slightly older than you, I had a female friend who was 23. We were good friends, but the age thing caused two problems.
For one, we were culturally out of sync. I thought that Nirvana was one of the new bands that the kids today listen to. She thought they were ancient history.
For another, we had vastly mismatched energy levels. At the end of the night, she’d want to go dancing, or drive up to Maine. I’d just want to go home and get some sleep.
Neither one of those things was a deal breaker, but it was just a platonic relationship.
Oh, yeah, one more thing. I refer you to Dan Savage’s “campsite rule” when it comes to dating someone younger than you: leave her in better condition than you found her (no broken hearts, no unwanted babies, no diseases).
I’m glad you cleared that up, because I was thinking of it as “pack out everything you pack in,” and that could get messy quick!
Hey folks, come on now! I haven’t even kissed her, let alone packed anything into or out of her! You’re making me blush!
34 is too old to blush. (I can say that because my skin is too brown to tell if I’m blushing anyway, so I can deny, deny, deny.)
Only you can prevent forest fires. 
No, I have no idea what that means.
You’ve thought about it, though, haven’t you.
Hell, I’ve never even met the girl, and I’ve thought about it.