Fuck this shithole pile of fictitious commercial driven idiocy. This year, I hate Feb. 14 more than usual. I have a wonderful girlfriend who I hope to propose to soon.
So I have to propose to her today, and thereby give legitimacy to this festering gangrenous fuckhole of a “holiday” by forever linking it to a meaningful event in our lives. Or, I can wait to propose to her later, thereby guaranteeing that she will be angry and/or sad at the end of the night. (I was “supposed” to propose to her like 2 weeks ago, and wasn’t able to, long story. I guess I should pit myself for not proposing yesterday…)
Anyway, I didn’t see a pit thread on this, so post your reason why you hate this stupid day in here.
Hey, be thankfu you have a girlfriend. You wanna know how I spend Valentine’s day? I sit at home. Alone. And I don’t even drink because I have nothing alchoholic and can’t afford anything, because my tutoring job hasn’t gotten me any appointments.
Don’t do it, neuro. Every one of MsNito’s friends was sure I would pop the question when she came to visit me for V-day 2003. I proposed two weeks later. It’s better this way because Hallmark does not own our day.
ETA: But I nominate “Sweetest Day” as the most useless made-up holiday ever. At least Valentine’s Day was once a bona fide Roman Catholic feast day, which itself ripped off a bona fide pagan fertility celebration. Sweetest Day emerged fully formed from the black, putrid womb of Hallmark’s marketing department.
I should like to contribute, but I see the postman laboring to my door, burdened with my usual abundance of Valentine’s missives. OK, a few restraining orders.
protip: go for a bike ride, jog, or work out or something. Really feel the burn. I did and now I’m kinda zenned out and totally NOT thinking about what my ex and her new boyfriend that she found a week after dumping me are prolly gonna do today.
See totally bitter.
I was waiting for someone to pit this ridiculous holiday. I just don’t get it - all the forced romance and blatant begging for gifts. All the commericals are about women getting gifts from men (making them materialistic morons) or women getting pissed off because they didn’t get anything from a man (making them materialistic morons) or men worrying about what to get a woman (making them just morons).
Hate hate hate. Bitter bitter bitter.
And too sick physically to write something more creative than that.
On a different note, however… I was thinking just yesterday about how people get up in arms over a ‘war on xmas’, but no one says boo about the ‘saint’ being taken out of ‘saint valentine’s day’. Any ideas as to why this one gets a pass?
I dimly recall that St. Valentine has been defrocked or whatever it is they do when they un-Saint somebody. So the issue is moot, since he no longer has any religious significance.
I don’t do Valentine’s Day like that. I don’t shake Mr. Rilch down for flowers and bling. I do something nice for him, and something nice for everyone in my sphere. It doesn’t HAVE to be like this. My mission is to take back V-Day and make it a day for everyone.
So what am I pitting? Myself. Because I was making cupcakes for my co-workers, and I forgot to put in the eggs. :smack: :smack: :smack: Well, at least I didn’t waste the frosting and sprinkles.
But why just the one day? I am always telling my family that I love them, I am always doing nice things for them, we make treats for no good reason and I buy things that I think they will like whenever I see them. Why am I expected to do something on that one day of the year when I do it all the time? I’m thinking maybe I just don’t like being told what to do - I’ll be nice when I feel like it and not when Hallmark tells me to, dammit!
I used to wake up to find Valentine cards hidden around the house–in a glass in the cupboard, in my coat pocket, wrapped around my toothbrush, etc. We didn’t really do much else for the day, but that always made me feel good.
But I understand hating the day. People seem to push everything out of proportion until it’s more grotesque than sweet.
Mr. S proposed to me on March 19. So now we have an EXTRA day to celebrate, that’s just for us. I think I’d have been a bit disappointed if he’d proposed on Chocolates, Roses, and Cheap Plush Teddy Bear Day.
I am trying not to think about what my ex and his current partner are doing today. Instead, I am spending the weekend with the Princess and the Diva, who is staying with us because her mom and stepdad are in Vegas for the weekend, along with my other sisters and BILs. Bro is in Boston with my future SIL. The girls are making Valentines right now and will help me cook a romantic dinner for my parents later. I plan to spend the rest of the day cleaning, paying bills online and otherwise trying to ignore Exclude Singles Day (because this is what it feels like right now.)
Aww hugs. Word of advice, and this is going to sound dirty but I don’t mean it that way*, but try to think of today as a day to enjoy yourself. Valentines is a socio-commercial peer pressure thing; it can only get you down if you let it. Reflect and explore the nonromantic parts of your life that you enjoy.
