I was so happy to see that my peck-kiss thread was such a hit that I decided to go for a sequel.
I am new to Sex & the City. On the episode last night they showed Charlette and her boyfriend making out. Soon he began to nudge – mildly at first, then more assertively – her head toward his crotchzone. Obviously he wanted her to give him what every horny male craves, and some females loathe: a blowjob. She resisted by bobbing her head up whenever he tried to push her down. And thus was born a humorous plot point for that episode.
Now, I understand the need to create funny, girl-friendly moments in chicky shows like this, but does this sort of thing happen in real life? Do guys – by which I mean 18+yo, sober males who can read and who have no felony convictions – really do that, push on your head in the middle of a make-out moment? I mean, I have (hopefully) subtle ways to telegraph my desires, but plunging the girl’s face to my zipper like I’m hopping a Johnny pump* isn’t one of them.
obligatory native NYCer reference there. It means fire hydrant.
Well, I didn’t do it when I dated, but now that Mrs. Prefect and I have been married, I will do push down on her head just for laughs. But in fairness, she does the same to me, so it is all good
Not only do some of them push down, I’ve had my head held down while I was struggling to get free. I think this usually happens during orgasm and the guy doesn’t realise he’s doing it. But it’s still scary as hell.
I trained my husband early, and for awhile he wouldn’t even touch my head during a bj.
Yeah, some guys will do that, all right. And as hillbilly queen pointed out, some guys will hold your head down. (Sometimes when they don’t even have the orgasm excuse.) It’s horribly off-putting, to say the least.
And no, the old head-pushing trick generally does not work, unless the person in question was willing to go down on you in the first place. It will NOT put someone in the mood to give you a blowjob.
I, liberated male and unabashed Lifetime viewer, have done so on several occasions, usually with very happy results. However, in my case I start and stop with one slight nudge on the back of the head that gives the hint that, please, if you would be so kind, I would like a blowjob now.
That having been said, it’s one of my least frequent MO’s.
The more reliable way is to implicitly proffer an exchange of services, usually by demonstrating my willingness to hold up my end of the deal.
The most enjoyable ones have been when I’m just going along, having fun, and, “Huh? where’d you …? okayfine”
It happens. It’s not sexy. I’d rather he says: “Suck my dick” than push my head down, but the option most likely to have a satisfactory outcome (heh) is waiting for me to decide that’s what I want to do…
I cannot wrap my mind around this scenario…I’m making out with a guy, he nudges me on the back of the head, and I’m supposed to somehow know that this means he wants a blowjob?
Listen carefully. Nudges the back of your head, caresses your neck, squeezes your boobs, whispers sweet nothings, takes out the garbage – no matter WHAT he does, he wants a blowjob! :rolleyes:
IMHO, that is pretty much the absolute WORST thing a guy can do during foreplay. I can handle pretty much anything but that. Nothing else is likely to make me quite as angry and turn me off quite as much. You want to talk dirty? Not my style, but okay. You want a spanking? Uh. Okay. You want me to dress up in high heels and let you do scary things to my feet? Hmmm.
But pushing my head down is so not cool, it makes me seriously doubt even kissing the guy again. I’m not going to give any really personal details here (everything above was merely illustrative and has never happened to me), but pushing my head down with the added connotations of subservience/dominance and forcefulness makes me seriously wrathful.
You may not necessarily mean to suggest subservience when you push, but that’s what it can be taken as. At least have the decency to ask. Better yet, as another poster has pointed out, let the woman decide. Then you know she really wants to.
She had what one might delicately call a “hygiene-related odor challenge”. 'Nuff said. As far as I was concerned, my face wasn’t going anywhere near what she wanted me to go near. However, she was having none of this. Suddenly, I find an elbow shoving down very hard on the back of my head when I was in a vulnerable position, and she was a hefty lass. I resisted, she persisted; I resisted, she persisted, and eventually I was broken down, and was suddenly face-to-face with her drooling, minging bliff. Holding my nose, I lapped away in a desultory manner, and after a polite amount of time, disengaged myself forthwith.
Our relationship did not endure.
Not a recommended course of action for any gender.
