Well, I’m going to stick to a “that’s me” because I don’t really care to discuss my sex life in detail on here 
but yes, I like it, it’s a dominance/subservience thing. And not with random dating fellows; with the person who knows how our relationship works already on that front.
Even if I am in the mood, nothing kills it quicker than trying to push me into it!
Carressing my ears, playing with my hair, and affectionately holding my head are okay. Heck, I don’t really mind so much if a guy gently puts his hands on the sides of my head to direct the pace a bit once I’m already doing the deed (especially with a new guy when I don’t yet know how he likes it).
But anything that borders on force turns me off quicker than a big old fart while I’m down there!
Errrr, I meant to say “While I’m down there, carressing my ears, playing with my hair, and affectionately holding my head are okay.”
A gentle nudge would be okay, but nothing resembling a real push. I’d much, much rather a request. It’s not hard. I mean, if my boyfriend requests oral, sure I’ll be happy to oblige, at least for a few minutes. Damn TMJ. But if I’m pushed, physically or verbally, to do anything sexually I don’t want to do, forget it.
Never done this. What I have done is back them up until they hit the edge of the bed and sit down while I am still standing. Yeah, I’m a sneaky bastard.
Sometimes, when pushing down on the head doesn’t work, you also have to pry open the jaws with your fingers.
Helps if you handcuff them first. Technically, this qualifies as foreplay so she can’t accuse you of being insensitive later.
Erm, you do realize that the muscles that close the jaws are a lot more powerful than those that open them?
“Oh God mother, blood! Blood!”
DD
One guy tried to do this to me. I’m not so good at getting hints, however. I blurted “Why do you keep pushing on my head?” Of course, as soon as the words were out of my mouth, I figured it out, and started laughing my ass off.
No, that was not a very long-lasting romance.
Never, never, never will I simply “push her head down.” That’s just rude. I’ll ask her to give me some oral lovin’, while I return the favor. I love returning the favor. I’ll do it pre-emptively if possible.
Some gals do like it, some like being handcuffed while you hold their head down, but it’s ALWAYS a good idea to make sure she likes it before you do it …
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They’re both right! I’d be betraying my gender if I mentioned the amount of control that fellatio afforded women, so I won’t. We could care less*.
*I also hate this backward phrase.
I…I can’t begin to even imagine trying something like that.
A little armchair psychology here…I think guys do that kind of thing because they want the woman to get down there without any prompting. Men want the woman to want to do it without having to ask. But as the women folk have made so clear, the nudge is not appreciated.
This is also my MO.
I also reverse it. If we’re ripping off the clothing, I get on the bed first and lay down before she does. She then has to get over me and on the way, I usually get some oral lovin’ before the show begins.
When my best friend was in highschool, she and her date were very, very drunk, and parked. He whipped it out and started very persistently trying to cram her head in his lap (like, date-rape persistent). She promptly threw up all over his d*ck :eek: . BWAHAHAHHAHAAHAHA!!!
OK – a slightly different take:
I am a guy who likes guys, and in my days I often fooled around with men who were mostly into women.
I clearly remember aggressive guys pushing my head down as a way of communicating their wishes, sometimes after going down on me first to establish the friendly nature of the event. So the push-head-down is an act performed by both assholes AND good guys.
In short – guys who like to “make things happen”, will make things happen.
Speaking of holding someones head down, remember that guy who accidently killed the girl who was giving him a bj in the pool?
Ok, I’ll admit it. I find it a turn on.
However, if I’m already down there and I need to stop for a second to catch my breath, I NEED to stop for a second. Don’t go shoving it back in there! I have almost no gag reflex at all, but sometimes I must take a very short break to relax my jaws or catch my breath, so deal with it. If you shove it in deep when I’m trying to breathe and not expecting it, you might get a lap full of vomit!