Gosh, I’ve never done that. A guy who knows what he’s doing can get the ladies to WANT to go down on him. If you’ve got the charm and the smooveness they’ll be tearing your pants off to get at you.
Pushing a woman down seems just a little too 70’s-porno-movie for my taste.
Holy crap.
My boyfriend does that whenever we’re cuddling.
He’s done the head pushing thing too. I usually just get up and tell him something very un-sexy like " I have cramps", or “I have to go take a dump”.
Er… yes? So if the woman wanted to do it without any prompting, she’d do it without any prompting. And the prompting is, in general, not appreciated. I wouldn’t want a man to go down on me unless he wanted to, and there’s no way in hell I’m going to go down on him unless I want to, or he asks.
I’m shocked. Why would a woman kiss a guy who would do that? That’s nuts.
There is really only one thing that we all agree on in this wacky universe and that’s that guys want their dicks sucked. So there is NEVER any instance where a man needs to indicate that to me in any way, directly or indirectly. Nobody needs to kiss a man who’s that stupid.
I hate Sex and the City.
Bingo.
I only want girls to go down on me as foreplay, never as a finishing move, and even that’s rare. Maybe that’s why it’s so easy to be smooth about it and get it on the rare occasions when I want it.
Er…the books about body-language that say that some people don’t realize that people communicate at times without speaking are right? I can’t imagine how they could rationalize this as not prompting…
I’ve done with some of the girls I’ve been with. But that’s only because I know they like being manhandled; Hair pulling, Pushed up against the wall, ect…
But yeah, that would be aa bad move in any other case.
Obviously coercion is always bad. My question is for women regarding voluntary behavior. There is an article in the August Playboy in which a female lobbyist compares donating money to politicians to giving oral sex. She says, “Women don’t like it. But we do it because we want the Mercedes.” Ok. Do women give BJs because they intrinsically enjoy the act, or as a strategy that encourages men to reciprocate, or as a way of avoiding intercourse, or for motives that are entirely outside the bedroom? In other words, if your husband/boyfriend told you that he never wanted oral sex from you again (with no change in other aspects of your relationship), would you feel a sense of relief, loss or nothing at all?
So, I’m an inexperienced male who longs for a blowjob. The last girl I made out with, I really really wanted one, but had no clue of how to suggest it short of “blowjob?” How romantic.
Would a slight pulling on the shoulders/head in that direction be a good hint?
Fiona, If you went down on her and she didn’t reciprocate? Heh, not a woman worth having in my opinion.
Thats assuming you went down on her. If you didn’t you need to start there.
Maybe a change of name would help? 
Fiona, you could try a classic 69 position. That way you don’t have to be so forward or so expletive deleted rude as to shove.
As for me, I don’t do it for the Mercedes! Holy crap, what do you think women are? Do you think we are all whores? Stop reading Playboy if it’s giving you that opinion of us! Jesus on milktoast!
No, I do it because I like it, he likes it, and boy it’s fun to be all over each other during sex.
And remember to defang them a well 
How are these men not getting smacked?
I feel damn lucky to have my boyfriend. He’s awesome. He knows that I’ll give him frequent bj’s, but only when I want to. He doesn’t have to push or coerce to get his lovin’. I thought it was normal to let sex progress in it’s own way. In our bed, sometimes the oral happens, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes he does me without me doing him, and sometimes it’s reversed.
Sounds to me like some guys keep score. Uncool.
Holy hell…this would NOT end well with me. If it was an established relationship that enjoyed a little dominance/submission, go to it, enjoy, push away, enjoy.
But for all the other relationships where this is NOT the established sexual roles, it’s just plain assholian. It’s more than rude, it’s…well, assholian.
In my world, when hubby wants a BJ, he asks <gasp!>. I have yet to refuse him.
What I want to know is, how many of you girls do the same thing? I’ve had my fair share of girls put their hands on the top of my head and push me down when they were ready for it. I’ve never been offended by it, in fact I think it’s rather cute :). Sure, it’s one of those things that happens when it happens, but sometimes, even you ladies get a little overanxious. I don’t think it’s completely fair to be so condemning when you’re likely to be a suspect of the same treatment.
Personally, I’ve never conciously pushed a girls head down, but when someone is going down on me, I like to keep at least one hand on her head as a way of showing gratification (and moving her hair out of the way so I can get a better view). I never hold her head there, unless that’s the name of the game, but I know when I’m down there, I always appreciate a bit of head brushing or hair pulling to show appreciation. Eh, I guess to each their own.
Good gravy, El Elvis Rojo, I would never do that for the same reason I mentioned in my post: it’s assholian. I’d think it’s a fair assumption that those of us posting how off-putting it is to be pushed would agree that they, in return, don’t push.
If I want it, I request it. Geez, how tough is that?
I’m not talking as comical as that scene from Sex and the City*, but a little push in the right direction was never taken as a bad sign by me. And how is that gentle nudge while I’m kissing her neck (or vice versa) any more rude or crude than requesting it?
Again, I can see where using a forceful push is uncalled for, but where’s the harm in a little guidance, eh? (again, speaking as the doee, not the doer).
I initiate sex 80% of the time in my relationship, usually by offering a blowjob as a precursor to more energetic adventures. (I’m a LOT more sexually driven than Ardred is).
I’ve never pushed his head and he’s never pushed mine. We have talked about it, and this is agreed between us. Only if we were in a previously agreed upon dom/sub situation would this happen.
We have a joke between us about a guy who got constant blowjobs and shriveled up into a little nothing of a man who constantly squeaks “blowjob now?” in a plaintive little voice. So, that’s how I ask for sex. (yes, by offering him a blowjob)
Most of the time we talk and laugh our way through sex, trying new things, urging each other on, asking for favors.
Sex without talking is just no fun.
Observer, Playboy really prints crap like that? As if anything can be applied to “all women”. Some women like to give oral, some don’t. Same with guys.