Mom stepson asked if he could call me dad. Of course I said yes. He is an adult now so its back to my first name. You have full custody. Mom works. She’ll know the difference.
ETA: I’m about to move in with my girlfriend. I’m sure marriage will happen at some point. I doubt her kids will ever call me by anything other than my first name. Their father has 50/50 custody and is a lot closer to them than my stepson ever was with his father.
Meemaw!
From what I have read here on the boards, the stepmother is often called “dad’s second ex-wife”.
Stepmothers are also often referred to by birth mothers as “that bimbo bitch”.
Probably not good names to teach the kids at this point though…
I like Smom.
My MIL always signs her cards, letters and gifts
Love,
Mom/Pam
so I call her MomPam. I guess that would be MomRay.
I call my MIL “Ma” because that’s what my wife calls her. I call my mother Mum.
My stepson has a stepmom as well as me as a stepdad. He decided just to call everyone “Mom” and “Dad” for the most part. We decided to just let him do whatever was easiest and most comfortable for him. I think we all kind of felt like our own feelings were less important than helping him feel comfortable with the whole situation. I say let the kid do what feels natural for him. Grownups can put ego aside.
It’s her emotional choice and she wants to call her “Mom.” I’m curious, why are you resistent to that? She’s already said her birth mother, “real” mother, is “Mommy.”
Maybe your current wife’s name should be “Miracle.” Most kids don’t like their step-parents. Your daughter does. Be happy and go with it.
Kids often switch from Mommy to Mom as they age. I’d suggest TLB choose something besides Mom, to leave that open for her Mommy.
She could go with “Ma’am”, like the TV Webster. Close to Mom but different enough.
StG
After Mommy there’s always Mama or Momma.
A friend of mine ended up being called Cookie by her step-children. I’ve always called my step-mother by her first name but I can safely say that she was never in contention to get called by a ‘mom’ name.
Do they have any inside jokes? A movie that they both love that could become the name? I am currently imaging the looks that would happen if your daughter called out “SHREK!!!” as your wife turns around and says “Yes dear?”
How bout calling her “Mory”
For Mother Once Removed with a Y for pronounce-ability.
I don’t have any good suggestions.
However, this topic does remind me that my stepmother has a stepfather, and I call him my ‘staircase grandfather’.
I am not sure if I am even responding to this thread accurately however, I came across it on a Google search and found it interesting.
As a “Step Mom” for the past 18 years to two wonderful boys who were both under the age of 4 when they joined my life. This was a big discussion and a sore spot for many years and even now the biological mother likes to fire back “I am their mother” Even after my dedicated 18 years of being there for them, doing their homework with them and solely over seeing and planning out the milestones of their lives.
The boys lived with us primarily after the youngest reached the age of 9 or 10 and before that regardless of whatever is admitted or acknowledged they lived with us 70+ % of the time before the mother moved away to another state. We solely paid for private school education, all medical care and any extracurricular activities including very pricey sleep away summer camps, cars and college. The rolls that parents take on with their children. I don’t love these boys any less than I love my other children whom I had with their father and together we have always been a solid family unit with no “half Sibling” comments or “your kids vs our kids” that alot of marriages in our situation deal with.
We had the same issue with the Mom vs Step Mom, I am sometimes introduced as the “step mom” which still tugs at my heart and bothers me today because of my dedication and love for these children, it sometimes seams like this term coined by whomever is a derogatory slap in the face.
So, our boys will introduce us as their “parents” and in today’s society there are many blended families. But regarding the MOM vs STEP MOM or calling a STEP PARENT by their first name, it seems like a dividing line that families shouldn’t have and has been created so long ago it should be filed away with the meaning of other words that have progressed into different meanings now. I am in no way like the Evil Witch otherwise known as Cinderella’s step mother and NO, I did not give birth to these children however, the amount of time and dedication and the truest form of love, safety and security I have given them over the years deserves a respect other than being called by my first name. So a long winded background and answer to your question,our boys decided to call me SSMOM. First in discussion it was going to be SMOM for Step Mom then the youngest suggested SSMOM for Super Step Mom and 18 years later I am still Ssmom and introduced as a parent not Step Mom and will soon be a grandmother where I will simply be Bubbe’ which is Grandmother in Yiddish. I hope this gives you some hope and incite.