He’s almost 13 and stubborn as hell. Here’s what I went through last night.
He went outside and threw his sisters swing up over a tree branch a number of times so it wrapped around the branch, making it up too high for her to play on it. This got her upset.
I told him to go and fix the swing back the way it was. He went out there and tried to toss the swing back over exactly one time, came in the house, flopped on the couch and said he couldn’t get it fixed.
I told him that he had no problem getting it up there and he needs to keep trying until it’s fixed. He went back out tried one more time and, again said he couldn’t do it. He said that daddy would have to fix it when he came home.
I said that he should call his father and ask him to do it, instead of assuming that he would. My son called and my husband wasn’t happy, he told my son that he was hot and tired and that the boy shouldn’t have thrown the swing up there in the first place. He also said that if he was going to have to fix the swing, the boy had to help. They got off the phone.
Shortly after, my son decides that he’s going to take a shower and put on his PJs. I told him no, he has to wait and help his father.
At this point, he starts throwing a fit. He says it’s my daughter’s fault that the swing is up there. Don’t ask me how, she wasn’t even outside at the time he did this and she never wanted the swing to be too high for her to use it.
I told him, he did it and he’s going to have to help fix it and that’s all there is to it.
So, he stomps through the house, slams a few doors and runs outside. I go out there and he’s got a big pole saw. He’s yells fine, he’ll fix it himself. I told him no. He can’t be running around with a pole saw to fix it, it’s too dangerous. He says he’s not going to get it down with the saw, he’s going to cut it. I said, no, that won’t be fixing it at all.
I took the pole saw away from him and put it away and told him to come back in the house. He refused. I told him again, and he yelled “NO! YOU CAN’T MAKE ME DO ANYTHING! I DON’T HAVE TO LISTEN TO YOU”
I told him that he has to get himself back inside right now.
What does he do ? He screams that he hates me and starts to run off. I chased him down and grabbed his wrist and told him that he couldn’t be out here raising a stink like this and that he was coming back in the house. The kid throws himself on the ground and screams “MAKE ME!”
So, I did. I started to drag him back in the house. And he’s yelling that I’m hurting him and it’s illegal, it’s abuse. I told him I would let go, if he agreed to get in the house. He did and I let go.
Then he ran off again. I grabbed him again, dragged him back in the house and grounded him.
I took away his TV, video games, CD players and CDs and told him that he was not going to be playing outside for the rest of the week. He spent another hour screaming his head off and saying hateful things to me before he settled down.
This kid is making me crazy. I know he doesn’t have ADD or ADHD, he’s been checked for all that. Is it hormones?
I don’t know what to do with him anymore.