Apology by e-mail

[ChiefScott]

[Judge Judy] Hey! Pounds desk You picked him! [/JJ]

[vetbridge]

You could always fire back a “fuck you” reply email.

[Hazle_Weatherfield]

@Geobabe

That’s a really good point that bears repeating. If he gets jumped on for this, he’s not very likely to apologize again. One way to approach it might be to say to him, “I appreciate that you apologized. I would have preferred you do it in person, though, so if we have another situation like this, would you please talk to me about it face to face? It feels more personal that way, and I like being able to have a conversation about it.” Or whatever phrasing feels right to you, but the point is to try to frame it in a positive rather than negative way.

I know it’s become a bit of a psychobabble-y cliche, but “‘I’ statements” really are a very useful tool in resolving conflicts. “When you do X, I feel Y” etc.–that way you aren’t pointing a finger at the other person, but encouraging them to empathize with you. They’re more likely to try to understand why you react in a certain way to their behavior instead of getting defensive.

Thanks!

[LionelHutz405]

I don’t see anything wrong with an email apology.
It sounds to me like you were determined to continue the argument and he was trying to avoid that.

[Santo_Rugger]

@LionelHutz405

I don’t see anything wrong with an email apology.
It sounds to me like you were determined to continue the argument and he was trying to avoid that.

And, not to be rude, but it also kind of sounds kind of like you would rather he have “let you stew” for a little while longer.

[BrknButterfly]

I use to get them all the time… and I use to send them to him too. Sometimes it is eaiser for people to write things out. I am not sure how he is… though I know when I did something wrong and wanted to say I was sorry… writing it always sounded better then actually telling him.

Some how by telling him, it always caused another fight…