So I’ve been wondering if this idea I have in my head of who I’d like to date is unreasonable. My ex, who is now a friend, says I’m too picky; I don’t think so, but there’s nothing like an anonymous group of cyberstrangers to let me know if I am.
NOTE: I tried to stick to concretes, and not get into “has a great sense of humor” or “is a good person” or “is a sensitive, loving guy” b/c those are pretty subjective things and tough to quantify unless you know the person.
I’ve narrowed my taste and my type and my preferences down, and here they are:
–Straight male, white or Latino
–Over 6’, under 200# (flexible by a few inches/pounds, but I like 'em lanky)
–Dark hair (generally, but not always) of no particular style, but I wouldn’t want to date a guy who spends more time on his hair than I spend on mine. I can deal with anything from a crewcut to long hair as long as it’s clean and not too styled up.
–Must have a good, strong chin and nose
–Must like cats (does not need to have any)
–Must be single (not dating someone else, preferably no kids, not hung up on some ex)
–Should make over $30,000/year, but this is somewhat negotiable. I just don’t want to have to pay for everything.
–Non-smoker, social drinker only
–Pretty liberal (ie, not homophobic, racist, jingoistic, sexist, a big Dubya fan, etc.)
–Has a college degree; or, at least is very much smart enough to hold his own in serious, intelligent discussions about books, film, politics, and life in general
–Practices good hygiene and at least appears to have all his teeth
–Is timely (shows up when he says he will, calls when he says he will, remembers birthdays and national holidays)
–Won’t give me a hard time about being a vegetarian (it’d be nice if he were one, but I’m not going to push my luck)
Are any of these criteria unreasonable? Am I too picky? Is there anything I’ve left out that I should be thinking about? Keep in mind that this list covers only the tangibles, leaving the emotional niceties aside.