My list would look like this.
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*Originally posted by Angelofthemist68 *
**My list would look like this.
The problem I have is that I live with my mom. This is so I can afford to finish school. But the ‘lives with mom’ seems to be a real deal-breaker for a lot of women.
As for my criteria?
I’m not as concerned about looks as a lot of my male peers are. They can be a plus, but they’re never a deal-breaker
Well, when I was dating my list went like this:
Non-negotiable:
Be intelligent
Like music
Be affectionate (I’m the touchy-feely type)
Not be abusive/mean/pyschotic
Not be racist/sexist/etc
Negotiable:
Just about everything else.
Didn’t take me long to find the right guy. We’ve been married 6 years so far.
LOL! I think I can guess what you’re getting at here, but the way you’ve phrased these points paints you in a somewhat unflattering light and strikes me as particularly hilarious. Perhaps a more, er, diplomatic, way of phrasing these would be
–Isn’t a political idealogue
–Isn’t ignorant
–Doesn’t nag
Garfield226: I am a teacher too, and I make a bit more than $30,000. I’m surprised that you think you’ll be making less than that starting out. In this area (upstate NY), no one starts at less than $30,000, and many people start at upwards of $32K.
People really harp on the money thing when it was only one item on the list. I don’t care about money b/c I’m a gold digger. I only care about it b/c, at this point in my life, I want to be able to travel, go to concerts, and just basically take care of my own needs, as debt-free as possible. I want the man I’m with to be just as independent and self-sufficient, and not carrying $8K of credit card debt with him. If he can do this on less than $30,000/year, God love him.
As for my preference in physical characteristics, what can I say? I haven’t consciously decided to like guys that look that way. Somehow it evolved over time. Not sure what to do about it either, since it seems to be some sort of deep-rooted preference. Judge me if you will (and a lot of you apparently will). I’m just being honest about myself.
Hmmm…what part of upstate NY would that be? (And out of blind hope, how you doin’ 
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I’m not saying that I don’t know what I like… BUT I DO love to have “doors opened for me”. I like meeting someone who can open new worlds and avenues to me.
I never used to like jazz and I found myself hanging out with a jazz fanatic. I like jazz now.
I thought I hated organized sports until I dated a diehard hockey fan. What do ya know… I get so excited watching the playoffs now, I nearly pee my pants!
When I was in college I could have never imaged myself liking some jazz fanatic or loving some hockey fan… but I didn’t have a set list of criteria that excluded people… so in the process of spending time with great people… . I also gained some passions.
Keep the door of possibilties open…
I just wonder why If a person doesn’t want to date an African American person others automatically calls them prejudice.
What about all the not so great looking people? Not wanting to be with them is a bit prejudice as well. We like who we like,and shouldn’t have to have explain ourselves when a certain type of person is not in our prefrences. Godspeed,Monica :smack:
Actually, I know for a fact that my fresh-out-of-college music teacher two years ago was making less than 30k. This is in downstate Illinois. We aren’t the lowest district in pay ranking either.
In fact, in THIRTY different school districts in Illinois, the AVERAGE teacher salary is less than 30k. And for ONE HUNDRED TWENTY, it’s between 30k and 35k. That’s the average, which means that young teachers will probably be making well below that.
While it’s all well and good that there’s a teacher in the City of Chicago District 299 pulling down 164k, and two others in the same district making 152k, the fact still remains that unless you happen to be in a particularly lucrative school district, I highly doubt a new teacher will make much more than 30k a year, if that.
Oh, and even though we’re not in GD or GQ, cite. (go check this site out…it’s pretty interesting).
Miss Bungle, note that my list does not restrict me from dating a person who has varied interests. I have learned a hell of a lot about music, cars, guns, bartending, household repairs, financial planning, dog breeding, etc., from men I’ve dated who were into things about which I knew nothing. Sadly for me, what restricts me most is my other propensities.
Garfield226, I have asked around and in Central NY (Binghamton/Ithaca/Elmira), the starting salary is over $30K. If you have a Masters (which is required after 5 years of employment), your salary goes up commensurately. By the end of next year (my 4th year teaching) I will be making over $40K, but I do have 2 Masters.
Duke: I have no idea where Lewiston is. Are you near Central NY? Do you even loosely fit my pain in the ass list of personal preferences? If so, what the hell, my e-mail address is on this thread somewhere. Drop me a line.
I don’t have any problem with her salary criteria. From her previous comments about teacher’s salaries, she makes more than $30K. I suspect she is looking for someone who makes at least as much as a teacher in her area, which is the lowest paid field requiring a college education, and who is not much younger than herself. That would imply all of her boyfriends made at least $30K. All she is claiming is that she’s noticed most of her boyfriends as an independent adult made at least $30K, so that is apparantly criteria for her, even if she didn’t know before hand.
It is a fact that few women marry someone who makes less than them. I recall one study that examined 100 married female physicians. Every single one married someone who made more money than they. These are clearly bright, financially independent women, who could have supported a stay at home dad. But they didn’t. (And before I get flamed from all the women out there who make more money than their spouse, during my six years in graduate school, my wife made more than me. And she was a teacher. But, she doesn’t now, and we now match the statistical norm, which is that guys tend to make more than their wives.) Blaming someone for acknowledging reality seems silly. After all, who do you blame? Is it that many men can’t handle women who make more, women can’t handle a guy who makes less, a society in which female dominated fields, like teaching, pay less than other male dominated fields, …?
Oooh. My turn!
Straight female - Italian-American or Asian-American
Between 18-24
Under 5’6", under 110
Dark, shoulder length hair
Must have SMALL nose, SMALL chin
Must wear at LEAST a C-cup
Must have NO hair where it shouldn’t be
Must be nice, fun, and must show her appreciation for me.
Small list, but surprisingly hard to find a match.
I agree. It’s not necessarily prejudice.
I do, however, wonder why people usually complain about someone’s refusal to date a black man. If anything, it’s the Asian men who get the short end of the stick. Plenty of women are willing to date blacks and Latinos, but very few of them link up with Asians.
Yes, your dating criteria are unreasonable.
I think I know what’s going on here. JThunder, are YOU Asian?
My turn…[ul][]Female (straight or bi)[]Intelligent.[]Empathetic. (I wonder whether that would even rate higher than intelligence?)[]A hug person.[]Cats a definite plus.[]Plump, busty, and curvy, or possibly athletic, but probably not ‘flat’.[]Any skin colour or hair length, really–I like a surprising range.[]Age 30 to 45 (I’m 40); maybe late twenties, if the commonality of outlook is there.Smoking, violence, or addictive drinking is a dealbreaker.[/ul]
Yes I am, which is how I’ve made that observation. It’s hard not to notice, when you’re living that life. Does my ethicity invalidate my point in any way?
FTR though, I’ve said the very same thing about black women. Both groups have an unusually difficult time with the opposite sex.
As I’ve said in other threads, I’m involved with a beautiful disabled woman – and FTR, she’s Caucasian. However, that doesn’t prevent me from noticing that fellow Asian males have an extraordinarily difficult time dating outside their race, whereas Asian women have no such problems.
Of course not, I was joking. Anyway, I agree with you. I’ve noticed the same thing.
You know, I have this friend…
-He has a steady job (been there 2-3 years)
-Lives near his parents and sees them a lot, but
-Has his own place
-Has a car AND a motorcycle
Whaddaya think?
(Please note my location.)