Are overweight women less sexually inhibited?

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@JamesQueue

At a gathering of online forum members (Arstechnica,) I met someone known for being very open and flirtatious. She shared lots of details about her collection of sex toys and how often she masturbates. I was not surprised when she turned out to be quite a bit overweight. The question is why?

Not all overweight women are like that, but I am not at all surprised that a fat chick who hangs out on a technology message board would be like that. If people in real life reject her for being fat, it’s easy to see why she would compensate by trying to get guys’ attention online - and there is no better way to get guys’ attention online than by talking about sex.
If I were hankering for male attention, an internet technology site would be a great place to find tons of desperate horny computer geeks and be “the belle of the ball”. It’d be either that site or Reddit where I would go trolling for male nerds. Chances are there isn’t much competition from hot chicks there, since most hot chicks couldn’t care less about computer stuff, and wouldn’t have the need to go to a place like that to get male attention.

[Typo_Negative]

Some of the best sex I ever had has been with overweight women.

Maybe that’s just because I like women with a little meat on their bones.

[PandaBear77]

I could easily make the argument that overweight women might be MORE inhibited because so many of them hate their bodies.

shrug I’ve been fat all my life, but never nailed a big girl, so I don’t know.

[ZipperJJ]

@PandaBear77

I could easily make the argument that overweight women might be MORE inhibited because so many of them hate their bodies.

I would put money on the idea that an equal number of fat and non-fat women hate their bodies.

[Ambivalid]

@ZipperJJ

I would put money on the idea that an equal number of fat and non-fat women hate their bodies.

And I would bet an equal number of fat and non-fat women think of themselves as “fat”.

[colander]

@ZipperJJ

I would put money on the idea that an equal number of fat and non-fat women hate their bodies.

You’d lose that money.

[Malacandra]

In my experience fat chicks can be at least as inhibited as thin, if not more so.

[don_t_ask]

Psychology Today: Sex and Weight

Brown University researchers surveyed the sexual frequency and satisfaction of 32 obese women at the start of a weight-loss program. The women lost an average of 56 pounds. In a subsequent survey, more than half reported greater sexual frequency and satisfaction.

[WhyNot]

@Bob Ducca

I think that if there is truth to the idea that bigger girls are less inhibited sexually, it’s not because of their weight but rather that it goes hand-in-hand with it. People who tend to enjoy “pleasure” more tend to seek it out in various form, including eating, drinking, maybe drugs, and also sex.

I think this is true for me. It also means that I was pretty uninhibited when I was young and thin, but as I was also uninhibited about food, I got fat. So if you’re talking teens and young twenties, I don’t think you’ll see a strong correlation. It takes time to earn the Fat Chick mantle. We middle aged broad broads, I suspect you’ll see a stronger correlation.

But I also agree that, as I’ve lost weight, sex is better, more frequent and more satisfying. But sex is better doesn’t mean I’ve become less inhibited, it just means I can now hold my legs up in the air for more than 90 seconds!

[lorene]

@drachillix

The desire to have sex and or please a partner IME has pretty much zero to do with weight. I have had more than my share of intimate partners, the second best and the worst of my experiences were with women of the same build (around 5’ tall and 175lbs). Granted the handful of hot by hollywood standards women I have been with have all been nice, but below average in my experience.

Folks need to realize we are also dealing with hundreds of variables in experience, muscle tone, body fit, penis size, strength, endurance, sensitivity, variations in body structure, and emotional makeup. When many of those variables line up, we have mind blowing sex.

You also run into the awesome for one but not both scenarios. I have one lady friend who claims I am the most amazing thing ever in bed, and I believe her experiences with me are epic for her, but for me its maybe 65th percentile.

At the same time, one woman I dated, 45 min of oral might manage to get one orgasm out of her and PIV sex of any kind with me just could not do it for her. She claims its her not me and she has always been this way, but it was just soul crushing having a partner who I adored in so many ways, but just could not please sexually.

I’m gonna call sneak-brag here, given that about 10% of your post is actually related to the OP and the rest is about what a sex god you are. :dubious:

[typoink]

I think the OP is referring to a real effect, but it’s not that large women are actually more uninhibited. Plenty ARE very uninhibited, but so are many thin women.

I think there IS a trend, especially recently, for larger women to be more vocal about being sexual. My hunch is that this is related to a broader idea of larger people “reclaiming” their image and allowing themselves to feel attractive and desirable.

YMMV, anecdotes ain’t data, etc.

[Happy_Lendervedder]

When I was an awkward-looking and sexually immature lad, I tended to talk more about my escapades and even exaggerate them to make myself look “better” to the guys (and gals) around me. As I got older, got “it” more regularly, and more comfortable with myself, I did not talk about my sex life at all.

This does not, however, correlate with my inhibition levels at any point, just the level of how much I talked and how much I made up about my sex life. So maybe the excessive sex talk from certain heavy ladies is just their way of making themselves feel more attractive/sexual to the people around them.

[drachillix]

@Rachellelogram

The quoted experience sounds fairly average for an adult woman. I recall a statistic (which could be bullshit) that only 30% of women are even physiologically capable of having orgasms during PIV. If almost 100% of your sex partners have orgasms during PIV alone, then you’re either incredibly lucky, have a penis of the gods, or (more likely) some of them were faking. The majority of women require lots of intent clitoral stimulation (whether oral or manual) to have an orgasm, and never have orgasms during PIV alone. (thank you, Dr. Drew!)

Moreover, an inability to orgasm during PIV does not entail a lack of sexual satisfaction on her part. It sounds more like YOU weren’t satisfied because she wasn’t orgasming multiple times with only your dick. It’s understandable that you might have felt inadequate if the sex you had with her wasn’t as good as the sex you’re used to having. But phrasing her sexual experiences as substandard, when it’s quite average, indicates your view is pretty skewed.

What I was trying to convey is, with all the variables involved, not everyone is going to be a fabulous lover for any other given person no matter how much they may try. The case I gave as an example had expressed that she did have one previous bf who totally rocked her world, and for whatever reason nobody else had repeated the feat. I am not saying I have Godlike skills in the sack, just that I have been around the block a few more times than many if not most and that results often vary IME.

[drachillix]

@lorene

I’m gonna call sneak-brag here, given that about 10% of your post is actually related to the OP and the rest is about what a sex god you are. :dubious:

Yet the doper girls are not lining up to partake in my “penis of the gods”

The second example I see as a failure on my part. It may be fun to think I have the magic penis that will make any woman beg for more, but that is hardly realistic.

[Hari_Seldon]

PIV? Penis in vagina?

Well, 100% of my sex partners experience organism during vaginal sex. She always has and, as long as I can get up, I guess she always will.

[colander]

@Hari_Seldon

Well, 100% of my sex partners experience organism during vaginal sex.

Goddamn centipedes.

[Troppus]

@Hari_Seldon

PIV? Penis in vagina?

Well, 100% of my sex partners experience organism during vaginal sex. She always has and, as long as I can get up, I guess she always will.

You mean trichomaniasis, or some other sexually transmitted organism? How’s she feel about that?

[rhubarbarin]

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/10-charts-about-sex

Chart #7 is pertinent.