Are we trouble?

I was out with my SO last night, and we were talking, and somehow we got onto the topic that “girls are trouble?”. He then proceded to explain that I am not trouble (I think he was covering his ass, I am, after all, a girl) but that girls as a whole are. I was lost, I don’t think I’ve ever been more lost in my life. What he said was “girls are trouble, you’re not trouble, but girls are.” to which I responded, understandably, “but I’m a girl”, and he said “but you’re not trouble, girls are…”

So I’m here to ask you, cause I’m confused as f*** how can girls be trouble? And how can I not be trouble since I am a girl? Do you know what he could mean?

-Morgain

People, in general, are trouble.

Ever seen Bull Durham? It’s about the exploits of a couple of guys on a minor-league baseball team. WARNING: I’m about to get vulgar and tacky…

There’s a scene where one of the characters, a feckless dolt who’s being seduced by an older temptress, tries to resist and tells her: “You know how the [female pubic region] is kinda triangular? Well, such-n-such says that that’s The Bermuda Triangle, and that a man can get lost in there and never find his way out.”

In other words, a boy (or man) who incessantly thinks about girls (or women) will be able to think about nothing else and thus be lost.

And that’s not a good thing.

So maybe that’s what your friend was talking about when he said “girls are trouble.”

listen homeboys don’t mean to bust your bubble

but girls of the world ain’t nothing but trouble

so next time a girl gives you the play

just remember my rhyme and get the hell away

Just last week when I was walking down the street

I observed this lovely lady that I wanted to meet

I walked up to her I said hello

she said you’re kind of cute I said yes I know

but by the way sweetheart what’s your name

she said my friends like to call me exotic Elaine

I said my name is the Prince and she said why

I said well I don’t know I’m just a hell of a guy

but enough about me yo let’s talk about you

and all the wonderful things that you and I can do

I popped some cash and in a little bit of time

I showed some cash and the girl was mine

I took her over town I wined her and dined her

she ask me did I like her I said well kinda

all of a sudden she jumped out her seat

snatched me up by my wrist and took me out to the street

she started grabbin all over me kissing and hugging

so I shoved her away I said you better stop buggin

she got mad looked me dead in my face

threw her hands in the air and yelled out rape

I got scared when she started to yell

so I handed her my wallet and ran like hell

I was duckin through alleys right and left

but when the cops caught up they almost beat me to death

I was arrested charged with agrivated assault

(yo Clancy we got him)

but it wasn’t my fault

nevertheless don’t mean to bust your bubble

but girls of the world ain’t nothing but trouble

so next time a girl gives you the play

just remember my rhyme and get the hell away

Goodness gracious, of course we’re trouble.

We’re either:

[li] Burning the roast, as in, it catches fire and we have to pitch it out of the apartment building window,[/li]
[li] Spending too much money on a new hat and trying to hide it from our husband,[/li]
[li] Thinking our husband is having an affair because we find the card of the girl from the perfume counter at the Hecht Company in his coat pocket, when all he was trying to do was surprise us with some Chanel No. 5 for our birthday,[/li]
[li] Attempting to sneak into our husband’s Secret Lodge Meeting dressed like a man,[/li]
[li] Making our spouse go to the opera with us instead of bowling with his buddies,[/li]
[li] Going home to Mother when we have a fight with hubby,[/li]
[li] Or trying to get in the show.[/li]
:smiley:

[giggle]

My middle name is Trouble with a capital T.

Okay, [taking a deep breath] I’m going to try to be serious for a minute. ANYONE can be trouble when there is not clear communication between parties. Morgain, I’m not sure what your SO was referring to, but I suspect he might have been referring to the trouble some males have trying to communicate with women. For example, in a relationship situtation when a woman asks her SO: “Am I fat?” He doesn’t understand that she’s not asking literally about her weight, but rather if he finds her attractive and loves her no matter what her size. All of that encoded in 3 words! It can be rather mindboggling. :slight_smile: I’m not saying that you asked him that particular question. You probably haven’t since he says you’re “not trouble.” But maybe he or some of his friends have been in situations where they’ve been asked questions like that, questions that are more complex than they at first appear to be.
Okay, enough with being serious. :smiley:

I was hanging out sippin’ a few with a good male friend of mine last night, and he was commenting on the women we saw in the bar where we were chillin’. He didn’t like how some of them had styled–or rather NOT styled–their hair. He said he doesn’t like it generally when women go out without styling their hair nicely. You know, like how you might be in a rush and you pull it back loosely in a ponytail, but some of it’s straggling around your face, but you don’t care because you’re just running to the store for a hot second? Or how when you’re comfortable in a relationship and you just let your hair go because you’re at home and you’re not trying to impress anyone? Anyway, he says that lack of attention to detail just makes women look unattractive. And I can respect that because it’s his preference. He doesn’t want to date or be seen with a woman whose hair is jacked up. But me feeling devilish because I don’t think twice about how my hair looks at any given time and because I know he doesn’t like how I do my hair, in mock outrage I asked him if he was talking about me. He caught himself quickly and said that although he doesn’t personally like the way I opt to wear my hair, it works for me. I laughingly told him he answered my question correctly. He just smiled and told me I should stop being so silly, but I imagine he was breathing a sigh of relief that he’d escaped that one.

I guess I should say that I don’t set out to trap guys in a verbal chess game–I don’t think most women set out to do so–but life just gets complicated sometimes, you know? So when some guys comment on certain types of situations in the presence of their SOs or good female friends, that woman sometimes can’t help but wonder if and/or how his comments, especially if he feels strongly about them, relate to her. Ladies and gents responding to this thread, does this make sense?