Well, I guess almost everyone has posted a low brow thread at one point or another during their time on this board. Not to be outdone… this is mine.
I am of course speaking of essentially heterosexual men and women who are not closeted about their sexual leanings. I’m strictly speaking about curiosity here not switching teams.
I’ll start. I can categorically say that I have never been interested in a sexual encounter with another male. I admire a good physique on a guy and it makes me want to get into the gym to continue to improve mine but it doesn’t cause the slightest stir in my loins. Not that there is anything wrong with that…
On the other hand… if you’ve read enough Penthouse letters (what? I’m citing a published source!) you will note that women tend to be much more adventurous in the same sex department.
And you think all of those Penthouse letters are actually TRUE???
I heard the results of a poll on the radio the other day. More than 50% of women said they do not kiss on the first date. More than 50 % of men said that they do. So either the men are kissing each other (not a problem), or they have a really active fantasy life.
It’s quite possible for both sides to be telling the truth. You assume a one to one correspondence between the males and females, but the ones that kiss on the first date may have more first dates with men, thus account more men kissing on their first date.
Well of course they are. Why would they publish them if they weren’t? I mean, it’s a respectable mag with a worldwide circulation. Wouldn’t somebody have found the out by now if they were printing things that were not true? I mean really… :rolleyes:
Uh, I don’t know if you’ve noticed this, but Penthouse is a magazine aimed at heterosexual men. The assumption appears to be that if any bi-curious men were interested in reading about a male’s sexual experiments with another male, they’d go read a gay porn mag. That being said, if women are more likely to be bi-curious than men, then why can’t I get a date?
Well, I’m bi-curious, and I’m male, so at least as far as this one single solitary statistical sample is concerned, men are more likely to be bi-curious than women.
Then again, I have a female friend who’s more bi-curious than I am. (If I did it with another man, for example, I would not be able to look him in the face – it would be the biggest turn-off for me in the world. My bi-curious female friend, on the other hand, occasionally drools over a really good-looking woman on TV.)
It’s a mug’s game to try to figure out what percentage of people of either sex are bi-curious, starting with the fact that it’s impossible to come up with an agreement as to what “bi-curious” actually means (does thinking about it? Do you have to act? Is a fantasy that you have no intention of every living out the sign of anything?).
I would say that it’s probably easier for a woman to admit such a thing that a man, since lesbians are looked upon differently than male homosexuals. But even that observation has little use.
I’d say that it is entirely possible that women are a)potentially lying about kissing on the first date, and b)more likely to kiss on the first date if they are having more first dates. I just found the statistic interesting, because based on the men I have known, the men are also more likely to claim that they got some action on the first date, whether they did or not. Maybe I just need to hang out with a better class of men!
Back to the OP, though - I still believe that women are portrayed by men as being bi-curious because men want them to be, not necessarily because they are. Also, for some strange reason, it is somewhat more socially acceptable for a women to admit to being bi-curious than it is for a man…
You may very well be correct about men wanting to believe and portraying (in pornographic mediums) women as more likely to be bi-sexual.
However, this is the reason I asked the question. Surely no-one here would lie or exagerate that fact and I’m sure we can get a completely accurate and statistically correct representation of reality in regards to this issue…
What? You don’t think so? Oh come on! After all, we are all friends here and can tell each other anything… just look at the pubic hair/ass shaving thread.
All right dopers… time to weigh in on the issue… don’t be shy… it’s all in confidence of course.
Men are less likely to experiment with other men from my experiences. By this I mean, I don’t know of anyone first hand who fooled around sexually with another man, unless they were gay or actually bi.
That said I think there are a couple of reasons.
It is more socially acceptable (even popular) for a woman to fool around with a woman. But it still is a stigma for men.
For something “sexual” to happen between two men there needs to be penetration of something. Thats a huge difference.
Women are better looking then men!
Thats my few guesses. I don’t think Bi-curious women are as widespread as people (read:men) like to think.
I think the line between caring for someone and sex is thinner with women. Society allows us more leeway in expressing our affection. That said, I do not think more women are actually curious, but women do have less to lose by admitting it.
Society views women as sexual objects anyway, so it is less of a leap to be viewed as sexual in the context of a same sex relationship. Since “giver” in a sexual situation is percieved to be the “masculine” one and the “receiver” is cast in a “feminine” role, so women have nothing to lose either way, whereas men . . . well, I think we all know how willing men are to risk their “masculine/giver” status in any situation, much less with something as intense as sex.
