I try to be. I don’t always succeed, but I try to be.
I like being a woman. I like to be treated like a lady. When someone opens a door for me, it just brightens my day.
I’m not a feminist and never will be. I like to think of myself as more of an individualist. But I revel in the things I can do better than a man can, and I appreciate the things a man can do for me that I cannot do nearly as well. There are some “manly” things I enjoy doing that are easy for me and I don’t deny that I can do them. I don’t want to be in competition with men, I want to live harmoniously with them, complemented and helping each other. I don’t suffer brutes of either sex, but I try to be polite and kind to everyone, even if it is to excuse myself from their behaviour. I don’t think a woman has to stop being who she is to be a lady; I think they have to be true to who they are, without stomping all over everyone else to do it. That might just be part of my own personality, though. I’ve never been much of an “I am woman, hear me ROAR” kind of girl, I’m more like: “I am Anastasia, hear me if you’re listening.”
These aren’t strict rules that I follow to the letter, but I try to stick at least loosely to them. I admit that I have gone off that track many times in my life. But I think if I can stick to it, I could be a lady one day. Some people just seem to be born ladies (regardless of what sex they were born originally), some of us have to work at it if we want to be.
I’m not sure exactly defines a lady, if there even is a strict definition. I think kindness, tolerance, and self-respect go a long way towards it, though. A clever sense of humour or biting wit, when properly executed, is another asset. I think a lady is someone who takes good care of herself because she loves herself (without ego involved), and makes others feel like they are worthy of love and respect (unless they prove to her otherwise). Generally just someone who makes people feel pleased to be near her, but at ease and comfortable.
Does any of that make sense? I have to stop typing now, because my mind is coming up with more “definitions” and I’m rambling enough as it is.
Articulate, too, a lady should speak clearly and articulately so that others have little problem understanding her… something I need to work on…