(What it says on the wrapper.)
I’m thinking about this because I was evidently pretty blithe about some sexual signals yesterday and have been getting teased about it a bit.
I bumped into an acquaintance on the train while heading down to Chinatown w/ my girlfriend to show her how to kick the gong around (err, to check out the lunar new year festivities.) Guy’s a bit of a hustler, from what I know, but I never really asked him about his sexuality.
What I did notice was a certain coolness and stand-offishness between him and my GF while we chatted. At the time, I figured her reaction might just be because he was wearing pyjamas on public transit.
Later, though, she’s laughing about how he was coming on to me – which I didn’t notice. Okay, he did extend the usual East Side handshake dealio a bit past where I wanted to leave it, but I figured he was just being a wag. And yeah, I guess I recollect that he did bat his eyelashes at me a lot, but they’re big and probably quite heavy. And now that I think about it, he did repeatedly wave his penis in my face New Year’s Eve 2005, but hey, he was really drunk.
I don’t think I’m usually clueless about it when folks are hitting on me, and I think I probably get slightly more than average come-ons from guys. (I dunno if it’s my boyish good looks, or just the places I tend to hang out.)
In retrospect, though, I think this was probably pretty obvious and I honestly didn’t pick up on it at all.
So I’m wondering if people tend to have a blind spot for cues from the “wrong” gender for them? Do you?
Any specific incidents you can recall when other people had to clue you in?