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Yeah, wondering about that kept me from really absorbing the point of the first post…
(Significant Fooker?)
Maybe the OP need better communication skills with his SF …
no and no
Nope, nothing wrong. It happens. Ignore the usuals who will tell you to see a doctor, like there’s something wrong with you. You don’t find the SO attractive, and there ain’t no law of man or nature says you have to.
I was just thinking about this very topic on Valentine’s Day - that seeing my husband as attractive, even though he is, isn’t foremost in my thoughts about our closeness like it used to be.
In fact, after forty-seven years of marriage. unless I make an effort, I don’t really “see” him anymore. It’s just more of a feeling of security and being bonded to this other person. And he’s the guy who has been with me all these years and helped me when I needed it and appreciates the things I do for him.
Then I wondered if it were the same for him. So I’m glad you brought it up. I’m going to remember to ask him.
Anyway, I think it’s more about coupleship and less about physical attraction. You know, the whole package and not just the exterior.
Some people get stuck thinking a certain age is ‘attractive’ and what they most desire. Where this gets really creepy and criminal is people who think teens and pre-teens are hot and don’t change that view as they get older.
Most people such as myself, change their ideal as they grow older. I’m 51 and the women I usually think of as even remotely potential partners range from mid/late 30’s to early 60s.
Sure, there are some 20-somethings that I would very much lust after given the chance, but realistically (and this always enters my mind when I’m in the room with them), we would have nothing in common long term and they’re just too different socially/world view/etc for anything to work.
So nogwart, here’s something for you to consider. Are you stuck in that age-view of what you consider attractive, and do you think that will work for you long term? I’m not saying it won’t, that sort of thing certainly works for the rich and very attractive, but do you think it will work for you, should you leave your wife? Or will you just grow old and frustrated because potentially attainable women are no longer attractive to you, attractive women you want are no longer interested in you, and you left the one woman you had and loved?
Since you seem to care about her, can you pinpoint what it is that makes her unappealing to you? Is it something that could be changed—especially together, like: overweight…you both get a gym membership. Or bikes.
Her hair, wardrobe choices…a makeover for both of you (she might be feeling disappointed, too.)
If someone else was interested in her would that make her seem more attractive?
Among other things, “stand for”. Isn’t it ironic?
I don’t think so. Ironic usually means “opposite of what was intended.” I think you mean, “humorously coincidental.”
Two words for the OP:
There’s also this list: Zimbio’s 50 Sexiest Women Over 50
- Katey Sagal
49 Jessica Lange - Sigourney Weaver
- Pam Grier
- Leeza Gibbons
- Janice Dickinson
- Debbie Harry
- Queen Noor of Jordan
- Chrissie Hynde
- Cassandra Peterson
- Geena Davis
- Joan Allen
- Kim Cattrall
- Susan Lucci
- Cher
- Ellen DeGeneres
- Jane Fonda
- Tina Turner
- Susan Sarandon
- Katie Couric
- Lynda Carter
- Dorothy Hamill
- Beverly Johnson
- Mary Steenburgen
- Goldie Hawn
- Ellen Barkin
- Sophia Loren
- Raquel Welch
- Suzanne Somers
- Olivia Newton-John
- Peggy Lipton
- Rene Russo
- Sharon Stone
- Ann Curry
- Diane Sawyer
- Cheryl Tiegs
- Angela Bassett
- Joan Jett
- Jaclyn Smith
- Sela Ward
- Kim Basinger
- Andie MacDowell
- Jane Seymour
- Madonna
- Helen Mirren
- Christie Brinkley
- Iman
- Jennifer Tilly
- Michelle Pfeiffer
- Holly Hunter
Unless the OP is married to your examples, I don’t know what the fuck that has to do with anything.
ETA: but I do applaud your raising the bar. Women are just too ugly, and need to look more like movie stars and models.
Well it’s not like we would all know Jane Doogansplitzer who is your next door nieghbor.
Nogwart, if you have a typo in your thread title, report the post and ask a mod to fix the typo, don’t start a duplicate thread.
I have merged the duplicate threads and corrected the thread title.
Hold la Queen Noor
Genocide supporters/Mass-murders are kind of a turn-off.
(Its why there’s no Eva Braun porn)
Wait, I’ve spoiled the list. Sorry. Let me add Patricia Richardson & Patricia Heaton. (I’d have added Sandra Bullock too, but her birthday is in July.)
You know, among the list of Beautiful Women who are happily married, happily relationship’d and happily don’t know any of us from a hole in the wall.
But lets count our blessings, right? I mean, if they did know you… would you really want to stand there while they pointed at you and laughed…?
I believe they are responding to post #12 not the OP.
My wife and I are nearing 60 YO and have been married for 36 years. We still have a great sex life.
As to the OP, are you sexually attracted to any others? If not, maybe it’s something you should see a doctor about. If yes, maybe it’s something you should talk to a marriage counselor about.
Thanks for this valuable contribution to the thread.
I’ve been finding that, too. Wrinkles don’t look ugly to me - they look like the lines that people get on their faces from getting years of experience. Laugh lines aren’t unattractive at all - I like people who like to laugh. 