This post is going to be offensive to many but I still think it is relevant. I am 44 and do not find the vast majority of women my age attractive at all and I just realized that it is only going to get worse with time.
I have been on tons of dates using internet dating sites and while I always made sure that we had a good time, the romantic or sexual aspect always left me cold. I didn’t even realize what the problem was until a 32 year old from Germany that is among the hottest woman I have interacted with contacted me today while she is on vacation. I am not ashamed to say that I popped a boner just looking at her profile. We texted back and forth all day long and I am sure that she is very real. I don’t know if we will ever actually go out but I would walk 100 miles if I needed to. That is the part that is missing for all the rest.
I have gone out with lots of other people but it was just an expensive ritual on my part and I am usually not very interested in anything but the selected venue.
OTOH, I see sad old men following their extremely unattractive wives around the supermarket a few days a week and many other couples that just let themselves go in general. Why are they doing that? Being married to a hose-beast on either side is worse than being set free (divorced) in my opinion.
I dunno, the vast majority of the human race is ugly to me. My ex-wife was no beauty queen, but that wasn’t one of my top concerns.
Yes, many young women are beautiful, but at my age (55), I worry more about having things in common and living in the same world. If the opportunity arose, I could see having sex with a woman of 20-25, but I don’t know how I could have a long term relationship. Our experience base and frames of reference would just be too different.
Perhaps being married to someone they have a history with and feel comfortable with and love is better than being old and single and jerking off to the image of an unattainable 30-something Euro chick they texted with all day.
She isn’t in this case. I already did the check and it works out. The only problem is logistics because she is a little confused about geography. My first thought was scam as well but that isn’t it. She is just a super hot and sweet NYC girl from Germany that wants to meet new people. I would be happy to make that happen and I certainly wouldn’t abuse that privilege because it doesn’t come around that often.
I have been going out with high-earning women for years including this past Saturday. It gets annoying. I get to listen to their complaints while paying for whatever it is we are doing and it is usually very expensive. The one that I went on a date with this past Saturday turned out to still be married because of financial reasons but she didn’t tell me that in advance. I enjoyed the restaurant (Barcelona in South Boston) but I didn’t intend on taking on a charity case that wants to be CEO of a financial firm while dealing with a complicated divorce.
I would give anything for a fresh-faced 30 year old with a positive attitude at this point. Almost all soccer moms are already spent.
No idea. I’m 42 and married, but, regardless, I tend to be attracted to folks my age, within a couple of years. Pretty much always been that way. Even in my “recreational movie” watching, I generally prefer to stick to my age (or mid to late 30s). So I, at least, still find women my age sexually desirable.
This all seems to be a “you” problem. You’re assuming that your standards of attractiveness are universal; that everyone has the same criteria as you do or the same goals in dating; that women who don’t fit your personal standards deserve to be called, “hose beasts”; that everyone is looking for the same thing in a relationship.
You say, on the one hand, that going out with people is “just an expensive ritual” while on the other hand, being surprised that others seem to value spending time with their loved ones - even if the loved one is unattractive or the time doesn’t involve orgasms.
If the purpose of dating for you is to kill time before the sexing, then you’d probably be just as happy with a prostitute. That way you can pick the looks from the menu and you know the costs upfront plus you don’t have to pretend to enjoy yourself.
In the meantime, good luck with your sweet, sexy German girl from New York City.
One running joke in my family is fueled by my daughter. We lost my wife a few years back and every time we’re out, she’ll see a (usually unsavory and or WAY too young) woman and say “There’s my new stepmom”
You fuck one dirty little slut, let her move in while family’s on vacation then have to get the cops involved to remove her and you’ll never hear the end of it!
At this point I’d be happy if any woman would be with me cause I know damn well she’ll hear this story.
My 40yo brother just got married to his 48yo bride (well, she was 47yo+364do at the wedding). I haven’t asked for details of how does he do it, but I’m guessing that “must not have laughter lines” isn’t part of his requirements. He appears to think that “laughs often” is a Good Thing.
But then again, lots of women keep their looks forever. I thought Stan Lees wife looked pretty good for a woman in her 90’s.
I’ll be 57 soon, my wife will be 59. She is still stunningly beautiful And I’m not just saying that to score points on the home front. Guys half her age still hit on her. Hell, lesbians half her age have hit on her (no joke!).
I find woman my own age and older attractive if they truly are. What I don’t find attractive are women younger than about 45. My 3 kids and their spouses are all in their mid-late 30’s. I don’t mean this to be condescending but women that age seem like kids to me. I’ve never understood guys my age who want a 25 year old. Blah. Maybe it’s my age talking but that just seems like a child to me.
I’m a gay woman in her 40s coming in to endorse this post. I find women in their 40s much more attractive than women in their 20s now - something about the confidence and experience they exude. In my fantasy life, give me Gillian Anderson, Rachael Weizz or Kristen Scott Thomas over some 20 something starlet any day of the week.
Of course, anyone who has let themselves go isn’t attractive to me, they still need to look after themselves. But a fit woman with good bone structure who cares for her teeth, hair and clothes in her 40s and beyond can be extremely hot. Myself included
I didn’t fall in love until I was over 40 myself. Had only short and somewhat unsatisfying relationships before that. Short because I always felt there was something missing and am comfortable on my own.
I was somewhat worried that maybe I just wasn’t wired properly for love, or could only get properly sexually exited with someone young and “model hot”.
And then life proved that hypothesis wrong.
I don’t think there exists an answer to the OP’s title question. What was he expecting?
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People are generally attracted to whatever they are attracted to. I do however think that people are often unaware of how little experience they have with their own preferences. Living is like running an experiment where you can’t get much beyond n=10. Yes, you have to run with those results since you can’t get at any other, but try to remember that it’s a low powered study.
