I have never dated or even approached a woman. Go…
Why not?
I feel pretty ashamed and embarrassed with myself. This feeling has been with me throughout my childhood and manifested itself into social anxiety disorder.
What is it with these threads?
I don’t know, but after all the highly dubious new poster introductions over the years, the “I’m a shut-in virgin” threads have a refreshing air of authenticity.
If someone told you they were a 40-year-old virgin, how would you feel about that person? How do you imagine your life will be when you are 40?
I wouldn’t feel anything about him/her either way but it would make me shudder. I dont think my life would be any different from how it is now.
You seem to have quite a few female fans in Japan, Handsome Gorilla (Fox News - Breaking News Updates | Latest News Headlines | Photos & News Videos)
Someone’s aware 
Have there been a lot of these threads recently?
We were all virgins at some point in our lives. What wisdom do you think you have to impart from your lack of experience?
Do you want to date a woman?
Do you have less social anxiety online?
Have you tried medications, either prescription or good old alcohol? Are you able to interact with people at all when in physical proximity? How do you think this happened? Do you think there were events or circumstances in your life that led to your current condition or is this just some unexplainable facet of your personality?
Yes I would like to.
It depends on the website but much less over here.
I dont drink alcohol and never will due to religious reasons. I have tried propranolol, valium, lyrica and abused ephedrine hcl which was pretty stupid on my part. None of the medications helped me; the side effects were taking a toll on my physical health so I stopped them.
When in physical proximity with people who I should be talking to, the feeling of inferiority and shame floods my mind very quickly. I dont aproach them at all. With people I know there is still hesitation but it’s somewhat easier.
I stongly believe bullying has had a lasting effect on me as an adult by altering my brain on a subconscious level. Whenever I want to be confident around people today, I think back to how people treated to me back then and believe people now will react to me the same way. This could be something simple like refraining to greet someone for fear of being given a dirty look.
It boggles my mind how others around me while growing up were treated with respect, whereas I was treated like dirt. Is it because I am ugly? I have no idea.
I think my social anxiety has subdued any personality I might have, so that is also a problem.
I lack basic common sense, there is no way I could impart wisdom.
You can help fix your feelings of inferiority by becoming better–working out, reading widely, and finding well-paid or otherwise high status employment.
As for confidence, the advice ‘fake it till you make it’ is true but useless if you lack the willpower or ability to simulate confidence. Try spending as much time with other people as possible, even if those people are friends or strangers.
Good luck and I hope you find what you are looking for in life.
How exactly do you simulate confidence? It’s a term that’s thrown around excessively online but thus far I haven’t seen anybody define it accurately. All they give is vague answers.
Common sense is achieved by trying and either succeeding or failing. Stop worrying about what others think about you.
When you don’t get what you want, you get experience. It’s the best teacher out there.
Your religion forbids you to take alcohol. What it their stance on premarital sex?