silkythreat, how YOU doin? [insert winky face emoticon here]
you made my day. yow! i am having fun!
Do you like to dance, say at nightclubs? I like my men large but I have found some don’t like to dance out in public. Do you have any possible explanations? I am not a little tiny girl(5’8"& 202), but I do love to go dancing.
Another lady here who likes a man with some oomph to him. I’m small (5’2" and 100#) but I have always had a thing for BIG guys. Most of my old boyfriends had what my mom used to call “hard fat”, and I’d constantly hear “aren’t you afraid he’ll crush you?” from friends. Nope, never was afraid and never got crushed.
The guy I married is not fat, although he DID gain thirty pounds in the first year we were married. Hey, I did my best 
can i just tell you how glad i am that i started this thread? i mean, im getting some attention, i got to do some mild flirting, i got to find out there ARE women chubby chasers in this world, im getting to fight ignorance… this is my bestest day ever on the SDMB, sniff.
[stimpy] joy! [/stimpy]
cyn, i usta like to dance, back in the day when i was a rock n roll star, but, somehow, i kind of forgot how, i swear. not only can i not do it anymore, but the mere thought makes me break out in hives. it makes weddings not nearly as fun as they used to be. i wish i still did like to dance, it usta be a lot of fun for me.
special to cranky: i forgot to mention the bane of every fat man. pleats. if you dont wear them up around your chin, or as the salespeople at the mens wearhouse say, around your ‘natural waist’, they bag and pooch and make you look like you are wearing depends undergarments. the shame!
“Chubby chasers,” eh? Maybe my ex-wife would qualify–first she was married to me (6-1+, 280 or so), and after our divorce she married a guy who makes me look undernourished. But she’s the only one I personally know of, if indeed she is one. (I used to like to think it was my personality, but maybe not.)
I’m 6’3" and bounce (heh) between 280 and 300#s. There are a couple Big&Tall stores for men, so finding clothes isn’t a problem. Now, finding clothes that look good is sometimes more challenging. I’ve found that ebay is great – there’s usually only about 100 items that come up when I search on my sizes, so it isnt so much that it’s overwhelming, but it’s enough that if I check it a couple times a month I find some good stuff.
–Dave, 20" neck, 36" sleeve, 56" chest, 46" waist.
Also, re: Chubby Chasers –
I get flirted with on some rare occasions. However, a lot of people tell me that I look “mean, and unapproachable”. My eyebrows tend to naturally come down in the middle more than most, so it looks like I am scowling when I am just making no face at all. Also, I shave my head – people have told me that this adds to the “mean” look, which I don’t really understand. Couple all that with the fact that I am a clueless dork when it comes to women (except the wonderful GF – I have no idea how I pulled that off) and I imagine I probably notice a lot less flirting than I would if you eliminated those factors.
Actually, I have yet to see anyone besides a Catholic schoolgirl who didn’t look utterly and completely ridiculous in pleats.
Oh my God SilkyThreat! I’m exactly the same way. I’m trying to fatten up my S.O, he’s not nearly big enough. I love big guys so much, theres more to love and more to cuddle. Big guys are the best! 
I really do hate it when people call me a “chubby chaser” though…
~Kittie
Is it true that skinny chefs are bad chefs?
Anxiously awaiting the Ask the Catholic Schoolgirl thread. 
tweezers, tweezers, tweezers
but if you’ve never shaped your brows before, it can be tricky. If you screw up too badly, you can really only shave them off or walk around looking weird. how to you feel about no eye brows?
No, I don’t think I was clear.
I don’t have a unibrow! heheh.
The natural shape of my eyebrows is such that they make my brow look like I am furrowing, when I am not. Does that make any sense?
Yeah, I think I can picture it, but you’d be surprised how much reshaping can change the natural line of your brows. Of course, it might not help!
Ooo- or waxing. You can get them waxed in a salon, and they can probably tell you whether they can alter the natural shape enough to make a difference.
What do you think of that Jared guy, from Subway?
I mean who can live off a diet of veggie and turkey subs, diet soda, and baked chips for a months at a time.
Would he be the “Fat Uncle Tom” for turning his back on fatness and trying to pass as skinny? Or another sell-out to the skinny man?
And what’s with Richard Simmons? He looks a bit chubby in the tush himself*. But he does have the empathy thing going for him.
I’m about 10 or 15 pounds overweight, Too flabby to be a poolside hunk; not fat enough to attract the chubby chasers. And just where is that “hard fat” you were praising LifeOnWry?
“Laugh and be fat”. John Taylor (1580?–1684)
Oh and one more thing…when you see Denniz Franz partially nude on NYPD Blue - do you chortle, drop your pants, and say to the TV, with a swagger: “Oh yeah, he ain’t got nothing I don’t have”!
Or am I revealing too much about myself…
bluethree: it took me so long to answer your question cuz i had to dig out my mint flavored shoes. this is a fine line i must tread.
no, i dont think skinny chefs are bad chefs. the best chef i ever had the honor to work with, michel roth, chef du cuisine of the ritz carlton, paris, wasnt fat. but in my experience (please note qualifier, everybody), the real skinny ones many times just_dont_care about food in the same way the fat ones do. there are exceptions, as i pointed out. thomas keller from the french laundry is thin. paul bertolli from oliveto isnt fat. i guess that in every skinny chef, there is a fat one trying to get out. i know im gonna get railed by all the skinny chefs out there. but, again, its the fat ones i know that just get fired up about food, talking it, cooking it, eating it.
saudade, i have mentioned my contempt for subway and the fact that i have a great ass in previous posts. if i was as fat as jared was, wash myself with a rag on a stick fat, it seemed, i might do something extreme to lose weight, but it wouldnt involve fast food low fat products or stapling my stomach shut or nuthin like that.
essvee, one fat guy to another: When you hear the term “plus-sized,” do you have the sudden urge to hurt someone? God knows I do…
You get so used to being the size you are that you sometimes don’t even realize you’re fat. You might think you’re large and maybe a little bit overweight but a lot of people are in denial about just how big and fat they are. You can’t ignore it any longer when people say things like “Hey, Big Guy, man, fella, whatever.”
I don’t find fat itself to be particularly attractive. I’ve only met a handful of obese women that I said to myself “Man she’s a hottie!!” That said I don’t think fat people are worthless and necessarily lazy. I would say that the majority of fat people, me included, need to get off our asses and exercise and come up with a reasonable diet.
There are a lot of problems with being fat that directly impacts a persons quality of life.
A fat person is lugging around all sorts of useless weight which means they expend more engergy to get from point A to point B. Most fat people don’t get much exercise to begin with so they might miss out on a lot of things that they try. They might have a hard time getting around Disney, going on a hike, or playing touch football with their kids.
Then there are the multiple health problems. You’re at a higher risk for things like heart disease, diabetis, hypertension, as well as back and joint pain. My mother was an orthopedic nurse and she’d come home and tell me that a lot of her patients wouldn’t be in so much pain (mostly back and knee) if they weren’t so fat.
Let’s not forget the social cost of being fat. People find you less attractive, they might think that you’re lazy, they might believe you to be a glutton, and they might think you’re stupid. I think a lot of fat people are physically lazy as well as being gluttons. I know I am, it sounds stupid but I don’t know how to get reasonable portions of food. Also I’ll eat if I’m bored and I have nothing to do. It sounds stupid I know but it is just a pattern of behavior that a lot of people fall into.
Obviously not every fat people has all these problems. Those big fat NFL lineman are overweight but they’ve got the endurance to last a game as well as run a 4.0 in a decent amount of time.
How did I get fat? When I was in high school I used to be extremely physically active in wrestling and football. I could pretty much eat all I wanted without getting big and fat. After high school I stopped a lot of my physical activities but didn’t change my diet and I blew up in a matter of a few short years.
Where am I now? I’m one of those fat people who wants to lose the weight for a variety of reasons. I want to be able to enjoy doing the outdoor stuff I did as a child, I want to live past my 50th birthday, and quite frankly I’d like to look a bit better. Now that I’m in Arkansas I’ve taken up hiking again and even thought the trail was difficult it was enjoyable and I can’t wait to go again next week. In the menewhile I’ll continue walking around the neighborhood and I might buy a stairmaster to help my hiking abilities.
I did know one chubby chaser. She was a friend of someone I was trying to date. I met her and her boyfriend and he dwarfed me and I was already quite large. She said she just liked bigger guys while looking at me in kind of a creepy manner. But as per my luck I didn’t get anywhere with her or the girl I was interested in.
Marc
Heya, I suppose you guys would call me a chaser. I typically don’t go after a man who is less than 250 lbs (also dependent on height) after they pass the personality test.
Anyway, I will ask a question. Do you find yourself attractive? For me, a positive body image is much more important when dealing with attractiveness than some one who is obsessively negative about themselves. Sure there can be things that you don’t like about yourself physically, but do you generally find yourself attractive?
HUGS!
Sqrl
Ps. Send me nekkid pictures. Drool, drool, drool… hehehe just kidding.