Steel Magnolias! I loved that film.
The Omega Cohort, an HIV group in Montreal, has a study of gay men which indicated that 50% do not have anal sex.
That depends on the gender of your dance partner.
Well, personally, I’m an equal opportunity kind of slut - I like a very wide range of men, both physically and mentally. Lately, however, I have been mostly attracted to Asian men. Specifically, I used to be a chest man, but now I’m more of a butt and legs man. Aw, hell - a nice overall package is just nice to look at! 
Mentally, give me a sense of humor and someone who can hold down their own in a conversation - they don’t have to be intelligent, just smart.
Are these what straight women look for in a man? Probably depends on the woman - everybody’s got their own tastes, and you can’t help what you’re attracted to.
Esprix
Well, after all, it’s the dance of passion, fire, and unbridled lust… which, as you say, has nothing to do with being gay.
{ahem}
Esprix
Wow, thanks for the cite, matt! I had no idea the figure would be quite that high.
See that? Even The Gay Guy is learning from this thread!
Esprix
Hollywood portrays Gay men as being rather effete.
Historically, groups like The Sacred Band (an all gay ancient fighting force) were feared for their prowess.
Is there more truth to the “pansy” stereotype, or the “badass” stereotype of modern gay men?
There’s truth to both, just as there are effeminate and masculine straight men, straight women, and lesbians.
I would pose that gay men may be more apt to express their feminine tendencies once they are comfortable with their sexuality because there is less of a social taboo in the gay community to do so; staight men, unfortunately, don’t get to march in parades in dresses (unless you count the Mummers here in Philadelphia).
Esprix
I wouldn’t think many gay men would want to say they have a “bad ass”. <rimshot>
Esprix, father of the “Ask. . .” threads, the often imitated but never duplicated, I have another question for you. And anybody else gay.
A lot of us, when we’re developing our sexual identity, have heroes we look up to. People who we identify with and want to be like, in our exhuberant budding adolescence. Straight people have plenty of straight role models. For me, it was in some ways Ani Difranco and in some ways Prince. Did you have any role models, gay or not, with whom you identified with in your blossoming sexuality?
Your Quadell
Boo!
I should point out, however, that “rimshot” has its own double entendre… 
Esprix
I’m beginning to like this… 
Hmmm, that’s a good question! When I first came out, it was right after I had become an editor for my college paper, and the first person I came out to was a co-editor, Ken, who was a senior and openly gay, and in time I came to really look up to him.
I also looked to the media for something, anything to absorb. One of my favorite TV programs at the time was an after-school special called “The Truth About Alex,” with, of all people, Scott Baio (I still have that on tape somewhere). But the big movie of the time was “Torch Song Trilogy,” and Harvey Fierstein still remains one of my favorite folks (got to meet him once at U of Penn). I was also very pleased when I’d heard that Tom Hulce, who played Mozart in the movie adaptation of “Amadeus” was openly gay, but I never did check to see if that was actually true or just a rumor. I also got a fuzzy feeling from Bob and Rod Jackson-Paris, but that sort of lost its hard-on when they got divorced.
I guess, though, my favorite was a character named Donald Maltby on the Showtime series “Brothers,” which ran in the late 80’s/early 90’s. He was the best friend of the gay brother of the series lead, and he was unequivocably, unabashedly, unashamedly DONALD - flaming, effeminate, tough as nails, never took shit from anybody, and never afraid to be himself and damn the rest (kind of like Jack McFarland from “Will & Grace,” only with a heck of a lot more substance and depth). To my great surprise, I did kind of turn out like him - a closeted friend once told me that, like Donald, I was everything he wanted to be in a gay man - unapologetic, free and happy. (There was another character I always said I identified with, but at the moment I can’t remember who… it’ll come to me, I’m sure.)
Hmmm, that’s about it. When I was really coming out those first few years (I came out in 1987), there simply weren’t any folks to look up to as far as sexual orientation went. Nowadays, they’re everywhere, not only actors but relevant movies/TV/etc.
Now, who was I hot for? Christopher Atkins and my high school senior class president, but that’s another story altogether…
Esprix
<suggestively> I know…
By the by, I posted a fairly current and comprehensive list of all the gay-themed threads on the SDMB here. If anyone wants to take a peek, by my guest!
Esprix
Dear Gay Guy,
So, where is that canonical list of gay celebrities?
Hmmm, harder than I thought. The only one I could find, I questioned its veracity, so until he quotes me some sources, I won’t post a link to it.
I know of several who have come out, of course - Ellen Degeneres (duh); Rudy Galindo (sp?), ice skater; Nathan Lane off the top of my head. Then there are the “infamous” gays of yesteryear - Rock Hudson, Liberace, Valentino. But there are always rumored gay people - Keanu Reeves, Ricky Martin, Jodie Foster - that have not come out, so I wouldn’t want to post them as definites.
If I do run across something, I’ll let you know.
Thanks for reminding me!
Esprix
Dear Gay Guy - Who’s Christopher Atkins? The name is familiar, but I can’t place him.
StG
{SIGH}
Christopher Atkins, blond curly-haired youth plucked from the California surf to star in… “The Blue Lagoon,” opposite Brooke Shields.
This was followed by:
Child Bride of Short Creek (1981)
Pirate Movie, The (1982)
“Dallas” (1978) as Peter Richards (1983-84)
A Night in Heaven (1983)
Dracula Rising (1993)
It’s My Party (1996)
And this year’s he’s supposedly in a TV series called “Dark Realm,” which I’m sure will never make it out of the can.
Some very old pictures of him can be found at http://www.robt.simplenet.com/atkins/scans/scans.html .
Esprix, who still has the spread he did for “PlayGirl”
“I farted on the set of Blue Lagoon once!”
– “Brooke Shields” in South Park: Bigger, Longer, and Uncut
The Gay Guy wrote:
Wait a minute … the rec.arts.movies FAQ from five years ago said Jodie Foster was gay. (Not that she “might” be, that she was.)
Gay Guy:
In traditional man/woman relationships it seems as though there are a lot of generally accepted “social rules” that are often safe to follow (i.e. opening the door for a lady, paying for the date, etc. etc.). Admittedly some women object to this type of thing as sexist but in general I think most people still view it as the norm among hetero relationships. First question then is this: Do homosexual relationships have any kind of generally defined “dating rules”? Who pays on a first date? The asking party I’m assuming… don’t really know though… everyone pays for themself maybe?
On to the next question… my (admittedly limited) experience with women has led me to believe that women tend to wait a bit longer for sex, looking for the relationship to build first before getting intimate. Many men however (again, in my limited experience) jump in the sack with a woman as fast as they can. In homosexual relationships is the tendency more to wait for the relationship to build or for more immediate sexual contact? Or is there not really a general overall tendency in the gay community and its really a case by case issue (essentially 50/50)?
Grim Beaker