So that brings up another question - is there any reason why you dated slightly bisexual women and would you date a straight man or woman monogamously? And if you say “I’m too young to consider that” that is a perfectly legitimate answer…got plenty of time.
I mostly dated them because they were attached to the GLBT college group I attended 
Proximity is rule number one for dating, no? Would I date a straight woman monogomously? If she didn’t have a problem with the fact that I was also attracted to guys. It’s a fact that’s never gonna go away, I don’t want it to, but it’s just as much a fact that monogomous straight guys will always look at women. It just always seem to me that straight women (and men) tend to freak out dating bisexuals because “omg they want something I can’t give!”. It’s a fallacy I’ve seen break up at least one relationship.
Dating a straight man? Well he wouldn’t be straight if he was dating me, but I could handle someone coming to terms with their sexuality so long as they could handle me…
Yeah, that is exactly what would worry me. I wonder this about Anastaseon, too (I hope she doesn’t mind me bringing her up!) She’s bi and in a hetero relationship, I wonder how she handles it. So you didn’t really answer this question, then - isn’t something missing from a relationship with either sex? Or is it fun when you get it but OK when you don’t?
:smack: D’oh! I meant, of course a strictly homosexual guy. Mind is running ahead of fingertips. But yes, the question you answered is a good one, too.
Now we need an “Ask the bisexual”.
No, I’ve never gone by Bill.
Us two personally, no. We figured out a couple years ago that our philosophies of parenting were just to vastly different. We also know that we are, at this time at least, unwilling to change our lives to the degree needed to properly care for a child.
These situations are subject to change of course, but at least for the foreseeable future it’s not going to happen.
When settling on a partner for an LTR, it could be a make or break thing. But then, not all gay guys even do anal. Figures from surveys I’ve heard say about 80% of gay men practice anal sex. So I would guess they find a partner that also isn’t into it, or set up an open relationship policy to let that partner get what they want on the side.
Something I observed moving from Ohio to LA was that in Ohio more guys seemed likely to strictly be into one or the other, where in LA they’re more likely to be versatile.
Short answer? No. There’s nothing missing in either type of relationship.
Rule of thumb: love is love, affection is affection. The only difference is in how it is expressed sexually and all the acts that can be done by one gender can, with some work arounds, be done by the other. Ain’t technology grand?
What I’m always looking for is a relationship that is healthy, fulfilling and beautiful, and bisexual only enters in whether I find it with a Mr. or a Miss. Are there some bisexual people who want/need to date both genders at the same time? Probably. But there are a lot of straight/gay people who need to date multiple partners to feel satisfied as well. Polyamory does not equal bisexuality, though it is perhaps more noticeable when one among us practices it.
I wouldn’t say flock per se, but I have had several people that I was the first they came out to. In general though, people have always come to me for advice and such, maybe I should have become a therapist then I could be charging for it!
Not so much in general, but I field questions from co-workers and other people that at least somewhat know me on occassion.
Actually, the most disturbing was the one who knew I was gay, liked that I was gay and THAT is why she wanted to sleep with me. Traumatized I was!
In LA? Absolutely, men are very picky. But then, look at the selection available, we can afford to be.
(As an aside Dmark I’m coming to vegas this weekend, can you hook me up with free Toni Braxton tickets? Seeing as you live there and all. 
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Yes and yes. Also, smiles.
To the dismay of many many men over the years, my butt. It’s truly awesome, I’m not just saying that…guys are all the time checking it out, wanting to touch it and then being crushed when I tell them it’s a no entry zone.
Who told you about the secret handshake??? Now I have to kill you, you realize. If it’s just a pickup, you tend to communicate those things rather quickly and other decide you want to do something or move on.
It’s not so much in use these days, but there is code for your kinkier activities. It was signaled by colored handkerchiefs worn in either the left or right pants pocket. Left for top, right for bottom. I don’t recall all the colors, but red was fisting, yellow=watersports…and a crapload of others (oh yea, brown=scat, ewwwww) that I can’t recall offhand.
Nope, if it gets you off…have at it girl.
See my response to this question a couple posts up
I haven’t as yet, but my SO has. I’m ok with him doing it but I don’t think he’s settled yet whether he wants to.
What is the biggest problem with being gay (this may be two answers; the social probs and the personal probs)?
This is gonna sound a bit strange since I started this thread and all, but being known as ‘the gay guy’. I know people feel a need to place people in a catergory, but I do get tired of being the gay friend. Related to that, it’s that people make assumptions about me. like 'You’re gay, so you couldn’t possibly know anything about (insert thing here)" Well ok, they’re sometimes right, but it’s still annoying.
Same thing in politics, people expect that I will hold certain beliefs based only on the fact that they know I’m gay.
This can be kind of sucky, but it’s perfectly valid in some cases. For example, I know practically nothing of you except what I’ve read in this thread, yet I’d bet my next paycheck that you do not regularly vote Republican.
The first thing I notice about a guy with all his clothes on is his clothes and hair, then his build and face. Next, pretty much any guy with his shirt off will make me do a double-take to see what he’s got - I definitely have a torso thing. Finally, if he happens to have a really nice ass… ohhhhhhh. homer simpson gargle
- My mind. 2) My gentleman parts.
Unless the boy absolutely hates everything you like and vice versa, this is rarely a problem, and I don’t think that guys who meet socially and aren’t in the fetish community go to any great lengths to establish sexual tastes before hooking up. In personal ads, chat rooms, etc., a more detailed description of sexual tastes may well be given. (" ‘Big, hairy, and hung seeking smelly caveman for serious spanking, jack-off and uncut action.’ Oh my god! Even if that’s exactly what I wanted, I would not have the nerve to respond to an ad like that!" - Georgia Ragsdale)
Well no, because the porno’s not about me, is it? You like gay porn, ladies, you go right ahead. I like it too.
I have been propositioned by female prostitutes - for some reason, always in the gay village. What is that? One time I walked out of a friend’s house in Church & Wellesley in Toronto, wearing a huge flouncy burgundy chenille scarf and singing a show-tune by the Pet Shop Boys, and this female prostitute tried to pick me up! I was thinking, honey, we really need to talk target market. Has this worked for you in the past?
I haven’t, but one of my friends has. I don’t know if I would; it would depend on the person.
What, you mean besides ALL OF YOU? OMG. freaky stalker drooling
And in many cases you’d be wrong. Bizarre, I know (listen, tax-breaks whatever, but they are actively trying to strip you of your civil rights), but it happens; there’s even a group of them - the Log Cabin Republicans. There’s no comparable Log Cabin Conservative group up here that I’m aware of, but they do exist. Whatever.
You gotta wonder about the origins of that name. Presumably “Old Log Inn Republicans” was found to be in questionable taste. 
I know you’re making a joke here, but from their website logcabin.org
The name of the organization is a reference to the first Republican President of the United States, Abraham Lincoln, who was born in a Log Cabin. President Lincoln built the Republican Party on the principles of liberty and equality. The party should return to its roots. When the organization was founded, the name, “Lincoln Club” was already taken by another GOP group, so organizers settled on the name Log Cabin Republicans.
The reason I ask the question on me liking gay porn is I have heard lesbians complain that men only like lesbian porn for shallow reasons, that it demeans them, etc. etc. Whatever. I thought everyone liked porn for essentially shallow reasons.
I rememebered what I was trying to get at with the power play question, finally!
In the hetero side, we have certain things that are “established” in society as being clear power plays. For example, an older man/younger woman is often assumed that the man has all the power. (I don’t agree with this entirely but whatever.) What are similar examples in the gay world?
Also, for the gay couples - do you guys play? Tickle each other? Have water fights? Quote silly movies at each other? In essence, do you completely let down your guard amongst each other or is there a level you generally do not go to?
Looks like this is the ask the gay guys thread? Yay a chance to add 0.02.
I’ve tried to narrow it down, but I really can’t. Sometimes it’s the eyes (frequently, actually). Sometimes the bod in general. Sometimes the package catches the eye. Personality plays a lot into it too.
My witty repartee
Early on, I met most of my friends (etc) at leather bars. While some men used hankies, most of the time you’d just look for keys (on the left for top, on the right for bottom, and some occasional keys hanging in the middle - that looked like short metal tails - for the versatile guys). If you weren’t available (attached, not looking, etc), you don’t have your keys hanging out.
I have no idea how it’s done in non-leather bars.
It’s a small sample size, but most of my friends enjoy “manly” activities. One’s rebuilding a car, two are complete sports nuts, others are remodeling their houses (and have been for years).
I have mixed feelings about the “metro” movement. With all the straight guys pampering and grooming themselves (a good thing), it makes it harder to get a quick mani and pedi (bad, definitely bad)
That makes a little more sense. Similar thing, if it’s older/younger it’s assumed that the older one has the power, has money, has something. Some assume that the one that is a top sexually will take that traditional hetero ‘male’ role and the power.
That sort of thing is the same as among straight couples, with similar variance.
My SO HATES to be tickled, so of course I do it sometimes. We love playing in our pool, with the dunking contests and all. (I always win) Yes, we are totally crazy sometimes, after 5 years together we still find ways to have fun together, even among the fights, arguments, occassional money worries etc. In short, it’s a relationship.