and, therefore, you should avoid engaging in this behavior in the prison shower.
I’m nitpicking. Many popular actresses look like supermodels: Keira Knightley, Angelina Jolie, etc. Unless you have a thing for Judi Dench or Susan Sarandon, I’d say that the supermodel is the “pinnacle of feminine beauty” to most guys.
I refer you to the opening scenes of The Wedding Crashers, when Vince Vaughn proclaims that the nice girl with the hat just “eye-fucked the shit out of me.” I can’t explain what that is, it’s a Look as compared to a look. You know it’s game when you see it. I can’t explain better than that though, I’m sorry.
Also, the way her butt moves when she’s walking away and knows that you’re looking. Some women can just speak volumes with their buttocks.
No, but I’m one of those cads who was thinking about it anyway, even if I pretend reluctance and/or shock.
No, I dig it. I have a lazy streak in me about a mile wide, a strong assertive woman takes the pressure off me to get off my butt and chase. I also find it refreshing, emotionally speaking, not having to be the Protector all the time (but still sometimes).
Why is anything beyond wanting to or actually having sex with a person of your same gender considered gay? I’ve always found that to be odd. Also, why is any kind of physical affection between straight guys considered wrong? Simple things like hugs etc. Is it something you feel naturally averse to or is it more a product of culture and being trained that ‘guys don’t do that’? (I realize this doesn’t fit all straight men but it does seem a common thing)
Inquiring gay minds want to know!
I’m one of the straight men it doesn’t apply to. I grew up with a very physically loving family. We all kiss and hug. People get wierded out because I kiss my dad on the lips. There’s nothing wrong or dirty with it. As a result of this upbringing I also tend to be more physical, I’ll hug people and keep a fairly small bubble of personal space. shrug
It isn’t the hugs I’m averse to. It’s the hard-ons.
That is a good point. Actresses seem to either be rail thin or verging on Fat these days. What happened to normal size female actresses?
I guess for me the Actress over Supermodel statement was in regards to the fact I do not really like tall women and most Supermodels are tall. The Rail thin actresses come in more height diversity at least. Are there any normally built actresses? I would consider Zooey Deschanel better looking than Gwyneth Paltrow or Nicole Kidman who are too thin and lanky. I do not think Zooey would count as Supermodel like.
How about Sarah Michelle Gellar and Alyson Hannigan? Where do they fit in? Again, better looking to me than the Supermodels.
Jim
I’d do Judi Dench.
I’d bet she’d be a lot more fun than any supermodel. 
I guess it depends on your definition of normal. Most actresses are defined by how they look. This ties into the whole “men mature, women age” double standard which is not part of this thread.
Sorry, folks. I was away dealing with 5-years olds (I’m a teacher’s aide…such cute lil bugger…never thought I’d like to have a little kid run up and grab my knnes and yell “Daddy!”. To which I replied “Do I know your mom?” Kidding, no little Rhombuses running around.)
I’ll answer everything I can; didn’t expect this to take off like it did.
-
Pink shirts: Nope. Pink just doesn’t appeal to me. It’s not a “sissy” thing, just not a favorite color. I prefer purple.
-
Anal play: no interest. That whole area just seems unhygenic to me. That’s not an anti-gay remark, I just can’t explain it better. Ha! Tradesman’s entrance.
-
Letting a woman stay home and raise the kids? Only if she wants to; I’d have no problem with doing it. Might be easier for her in regards to, say, breastfeeding, but that’s it.
-
No, I don’t feel handicapped by only being interested in the opposite sex. No tummysticks for me!
-
Strong women are fine, as long as with anything it’s not taken to an extreme.
-
Astro, you are so gay. Gayer than…something very homosexual. According to the Straight Man’s handbook, anyway. Page 34, subparagraph 788: “A man, in the shower, will only sing songs that mention women, drinking, women and drinking, or 80’s hair bands.” Sorry, it’s the law.
-
If by supermodel you mean stick-thin like recent Lindsey Lohan, then no thanks. My current crush is Allison Mack of Smallville. I’d like an example of an moderately overweight woman before I can answer if I find her attractive.
-
Gay as I’ve heard it is all the “sissy” stuff: hugging (except manly backbreaking slapping hugs) the high voice, the lisps…that whole area. Also if your pants are too tight, that’s gay. And if you don’t agree that a certain woman is hot, that’s gay too. Also too-tight shorts. Any physical affection may equal wanting to be physically close. Thusly, gay. Women have fun bits that we like to get close to; men, not so much. Physical closeness also lessens the possilbility of knowing of the other man is aroused by something, which is also verboten knowledge. You can SAY a woman is hot, but don’t point at your groin and say “Boy, she sure made me erect!” Gay.
I too am not in favor of the stick thin women. Kiera Knightly is terrifyingly skinny and I’d be terrified of breaking bones just by hugging her, much less bones while bonking her.
I do appreciate a fine rump, an example being Kate Beckinsale. Argue her skinniness if you must, but she isn’t supermodel rail thin.
As for moderately overweight the answer is that I can find them attractive. My last 3 ex’s would all fall into this category.
Dear Mr. Straight Guy,
Do you get offended if a woman thinks of you as her brother? As in, a good person to turn to for advice, experience, ‘should-I?’ scenarios, etc…
Would your answer change depending on whether you want to bang her or not?
I’d have no problem with this…provided she tells me up front. I’ve had the “we should just be friends” thing, and it SUCKS. As long as she handles that correctly, we should be ok. I may still look at her lustfully occasionally, but that’s my right as a guy. Don’t drag me along into thinking that you have other than brotherly feelings for me, because guys are not alwasy good at subtle cues.
I won’t try to make a move unless she makes a move, or she makes me think that she’ll make a move, or she makes me think that she thinks that she’ll make a move. If I want to bang her, my advice may change, and I’ll steer her away from guys that have a chance of getting there first if I think I can “win”. If I have no chance, then I’ll try to steer her to guys that are good for her, and I’ll let her cry on my shoulder, ect. I’ll feel like a good person, and perhaps she’ll set me up with her friends.
Oh, and a question I didn’t answer before: Yes, I do think of sex that often. Probably more often.
Ok, I’m off to meet with some friends, including one who’s the star of another thread I started. I’ll be back tonight!
Definitely. That has nothing to do with being straight though, because I’m gay and terrible at subtlety. Anyway.
Is it weird if you’ve known a guy for a while, and he doesn’t tell you that he’s gay for several months? I generally don’t tell people I’m gay unless it comes up in conversation for some reason. But then if someone finds out, I’m not really sure if they feel weird about it. I guess my question is, how should I come out to a straight guy that won’t make either of us feel really awkward? I probably didn’t phrase that well, so feel free to ask for clarification and I can try to ask it more clearly.
Do you just think that the image of two women having sex is hot, or is it that there’s something inherently hot about lesbians? Are lesbians only hot because you look at them and imagine them getting it on with other women, or because you want what you can’t have, or some other reason?
I remembered another question. Okay guys think about sex all the time but my question is why don’t you get MAD and FRUSTRATED thinking about sex you can’t have? Like let’s just say it’s ten in the morning and you’re thinking about sex. And then you think about the next few hours, the rest of the whole day, who knows, maybe even tomorrow there just isn’t going to be any sex. Not with the person you’re looking at and thinking about having sex with now, and not with anyone else either. I mean everyone has some days where there isn’t going to be any sex. So you’re having one of those days where you know this, how can you enjoy thinking about sex? Doesn’t it just get you aroused and then disappointed? And this is a two-parter because if it does actually feel depressing to think about, why don’t you get conditioned out of it? Think about shoes or checkers or icecream instead?
Also, do you ever think about how it would be to be female? I don’t mean wish to be female, I mean just contemplate it for the purpose of empathy and so on. And if so, how far does the contemplation go? I mean is it more on an impersonal level like, “it must suck for girls that they get cramps,” or is it more personal and specific? It’s hard to think of an example of something really specific that doesn’t sound nuts, but say…would you ever sit and ponder, “hmm I wonder how my girlfriend feels when I’m banging her”? You know, with all the details like trying to imagine what you look like to her and how it feels inside for her in her mysterious internal parts and everything? Because I have of course never in my life heard a guy say out loud that he’s imagined it but I’d think they must at some point get bored enough that they would eventually think about it.
This is the story of my life. I was Mr. Big Brother in high school and guys thought I got all sorts of play but in truth I just hung out with the women because I felt that if I wasn’t confident enough to try and hook up with them, hanging out with them and being the best friend was the next best scenario.
And at that time, I hadn’t heard about the ladder theory.
Interesting how my first post to this thread addressed “the Straight Guy” as an alien, a “them” rather than an “us”… I just don’t tend to think of myself as exemplary of straight guys or in a position to speak for them, etc. But I’ll take a go at answering this one anyhow.
*) Yes, but we’re used to it. It’s a constant backdrop, and the thing about constant backdrops is you tend to take them for granted and kind of ignore them after awhile.
*) I gather that some guys do find it frustrating, i.e., I hear complaints about “blue balls” and “teases” and whatnot; but certainly some people like being tantalized and figure that sooner or later, with someone or other if not necessarily that particular sexy gal, nice erotic things are gonna happen, and the appetizing enticings are delicious in their own right even if they do leave you craving more.
*) When I first started thinking about answering the first part of your question, one of the things that crossed my mind was: do women feel mad and frustrated about the widespread and kind of perennial threat of rape? I don’t mean like there’s a 70% chance you’re going to get raped this afternoon, but more along the lines of not taking it for granted that if you feel like going out late at night for a walk, you just can, and otherwise not having to take it into account before considering actions, etc?
*) I think a whole lot about it, actually. I tend to think I’d “do female” pretty well, that it would mesh better with my personality. “It” being in large part how people perceive female versus male people, etc. There’d be a lot of stuff I wouldn’t like but a lot of it would be head-on stuff I could confront, while with being male a lot of the stuff I don’t like is stuff that’s omitted so I can’t oppose or confront it very often.
And yeah, I definitely wonder what it would feel like to have a clitoris, wonder if the vagina/clitoris thing is like a mouth and tongue, how does it feel emotionally to seek and get when you’re constructed that way, does it feel active or passive, what does it feel like you’re doing, seeking, making happen, as you’re seeking your own?
And cramps 
& periods and all. How I’d cope.
Dear Straight Guy(s):
How do you feel about dating a transsexual? (male to female, of course.) There are so many variants - would you date one if she was hot enough, would post-operative be a requirement, would you date one but not have sex with her until she’d had surgery, would you date a non-passable one if you two totally hit it off, and so on and so forth.
And if the answer is a yes, would you hide the fact that she’s trans, or that you’re dating her at all? What about telling your family? Would you marry one, knowing that she could never bear your children?