I don’t think this belongs in the pit, but, Mods, feel free to move it.
Last night I was supposed to meet a couple of friends for dinner between 5:15 and 5:30. I live a bit closer, so I got there a little after 5 and got us a table. About 6:20 I got tired of waiting and went home. About 10 minutes after I got home I received a call from one of the guys. They were at the restaurant and had been stuck in traffic with no way to get a hold of me. No problem. I calm down because I know the spot they got stuck. I ask him if they still have time to get dinner, he says yes, and I told him I’d be there in 20 minutes. I get stuck a few times, but finally make it. I see them in the bar area and head over. I see that they’ve already ordered and received their food. I waited over an hour for them, and they couldn’t wait 20 minutes for me? Plus, to add insult to injury, they were sitting at a mini booth. The thing only seats 2. So, not only could they not be bothered to wait for me before ordering, they couldn’t even bother asking for a table that would seat 3. I told them what I thought about it and left them sitting there. I’m not so pissed right now as I was, but I’m still waiting for an apology. This sucks.
So, what do you think? Did I overreact? Has this ever happened to you? I’m pretty calmed down now, but I’m also still pretty pissed. I don’t know why, but I keep thinking about it. Oh well. How’s everybody else doing?
No, Ag (if I may be so bold as to call you Ag) I don’t think you are over reacting. To put it bluntly, they treated you like crap, and if it were me, I would have done the same as you did. And I would STILL be ticked.
And yes, it (well something similar) has happened to me. As for still thinking about it, seems normal to me - you were slighted and treated badly by people you thought were friends. Seems natural to still be thinking about it.
How am I doing? I have a splitting headache - migraine - I am finding it very hard to function, am not able to keep food down, but absolutely need to be at work today. But you don’t want to hear an old lady complain…so 
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Damn smilies anyway…
It should be carved in stone…
If the chick is pissed it’s always the guy’s fault (or guys’ fault in this case).
Once the rest of mankind accepts this fact, the world will be a much easier place in which to exist.
Don’t wait for an apology, demand one. Help us move closer to a matriarcal system.
Missy – That’s just another reason not to use smilies.
Reminds me of an incident that happened to me a short while ago. My best friend had been away for a year (!) and just gotten back into town. Hooray! A few days after she got here, another friend came to visit too. Inevitably, we all decided to get together at a local restaurant on Friday night.
My husband’s job is such that he never knows what time he will be home with 100% accuracy, so we are always waiting on him. My friends called me at about 4:30 to ask what was up … I said my husband should be home any minute, I was going to jump in the shower, and why didn’t they call back in about half an hour so we could meet up.
I had my shower, my husband got home, we got all dressed up to go out to dinner… and 3 hours passed. My stomach was rumbling. (I have a stomach condition that if I don’t eat when it gets hungry, I’ll be in intense pain for hours.) We’re waiting and waiting. Finally we call my friend’s house and they tell us they have already eaten.
I was pissed RIGHT OFF. I now had to rush into town to pick up groceries for a dinner I hadn’t planned on cooking for myself and my husband. A dinner that would take an hour to make! My stomach was screaming at me and I knew I was in for a night of pain. I asked my husband to please tell my “friends” not to bother showing up at our house, as I was way too angry to speak to them and would probably say something I’d regret!
People can be really inconsiderate, and it’s pretty disgusting. I don’t think you’re overreacting to expect an apology from your friends. Of course, only you know whether they’re the type of people to actually give you one! If you told them the same info you told us (ie, “I waited an hour for you, but you couldn’t even wait 20 minutes for me”) then they will know why you are angry, and hopefully will take the appropriate steps.
I also feel your pain Ag. Doesn’t it feel like sometimes people just don’t give a sh|t? I had a friend who moved to the opposite coast. Last month she came in for the first visit in two years. I talked to her the 3rd day she was in town, and she promised to get ahold of me within the next couple days so we could meet up and do something. 2 weeks pass (of a 3 week stay). I happen to forward her an email, and she replies back that she has had to cut her trip short and will be on a plane back home the next day.
shakes head and wonders at the youth of america