I pit all the advice I’ve gotten about how I can choose not to be miserable. I should be more appreciative of the good things in my life and I don’t have it as hard as some others. And if I don’t like my life, I should do something to change it.
I know they’re right, but do they have to make it sound so damn easy?
Maybe it is for them. If so, then I wish they would understand that just because it’s easy for them it doesn’t mean it’s easy for everyone else.
I wish I were like the overachieving girls from magazines. I wish I could be so skinny and exhausted from overwork I am so that nobody would ever accuse me of not trying hard enough or tell me I’m lazy, selfish, greedy, or worthless.
(Not a self harm threat. Believe me, that’s not going to happen.)
I’m appreciative. I’m appreciative about how my caring family and my coworkers put up with my whiny, selfish, childish self. I know it’s more than I deserve. I know other people, through no fault of their own, don’t have that kind of support. So I should just shut up and work hard and not ask for anything else.
I know they’re right. I just wish it could be as easy (or at least possible) for me as it seems to be for them.
You say that like she doesn’t already feel awful for her inability to control her feelings. Like that’s some big old revelation that’ll just snap her to her senses or something.
Because to many of them, it is easy. And they have no clue what its like to be you.
As above. And they usually can’t, because they tend to think that putting themselves into someone else’s shoes means they can also import their own mind with it. I see this with men a sometimes and rape victims: “I’d just bite his dick off” kind of stuff, but I digress…
Unless you ARE those things for real, you should avoid the people calling you such things. Those overachieving girls in mags are extremely lucky in both genetics and providence. They may work hard, but trust me when I say that luck has a lot to due with it. As for the body in mags: Photoshop… Lots and LOTS of it.
What you are feeling isn’t really selfish, its just natural to you to feel that way because of who you are. I know a girl who has a very happy life with a wonderful boyfriend but she worries about him dumping her endlessly and even wants to kill herself sometimes just to make her stop thinking that kind of stuff.
Changing your mindset is terribly hard and may require therapy.
Course… sometimes a girl just has to get it off her chest and cry and let it out. You should obviously (and you say you do) cherish your support system and realize they love you and put up with it because they love you and care for you. Most guys I know LIKE to comfort the woman in their life, and your parents have been hearing you cry since you were born so whats a bit more?
Anyway, enough rambling. I’m sure not going to pretend I know what you are going through but I would sit down with my support and see if you all can work together towards a goal. If you want to diet perhaps you and he can diet together? Maybe do some playfighting before bedtime? Just little stuff like that The extra calories burned from such things will add up.
Thank you all for your kind posts. I really liked the Hyperbole and a Half page.
I’m not giving up on the Depression Support thread, I just couldn’t find it the day I posted this.
I’m not suicidal, but I’m having “I screwed up too much at work. I should just quit so I don’t screw up anymore” moments. I feel like I’ve committed a crime, and I’m complaining that I have to face the consequences. And, though this is more my distortion than what people are actually saying, it seems like all the advice I receive comes out as “It’s your fault. You deserve this.”
Just a question because I’m too lazy to log out and try it: Can’t guests search?
I know from experience that it’s not the slightest bit helpful, but a lot of people feel like that. Nearly word for word. It doesn’t make you feel better to be told it’s common, but it is. :wan smile:
Damn it! What am I going to do with this second left arm? And why was this thread supposed to trigger my eating disorder? My LAST problem is an eating disorder. I eat just fine, but I sometimes think I could use an exercise disorder. I was working on one 15 years ago, but the Prozac cleared that up better than it did the depression. Then when the Prozac made everything taste so astonishingly good I knew I was doomed, though the concomitant loss of 3D vision may kill me first.
The extra calories burned from such things will add up.