I would probably have choked on my beer.
I am a dad and I would love to have that kind of open communication with my kid when she reaches that age. She is only 14, so right now I would be pissed off, but at 21, I would assume that she has had some experiences in that arena.
We try and keep a very open mind and household at the Hakuna household. I had to have a ‘talk’ with my daughter about 2 months ago—the one about never EVER send a boy a dirty picture of you, etc. It is so easy via cell phones, but I showed her a couple of sites where ex-boyfriends posted those pictures and how she as a girl can’t control where those pictures go after you send them out. And just because a boy says he loves you–don’t trust him!
It wasn’t the easiest conversation I have ever had with her, but I am glad I did. She told me that someone at her school had done that and then the pictures spread through the school, etc (she hadn’t seen it, but had heard about it). I also used the time to again talk about sex and safety, etc. It was uncomfortable I will say, but I want her to know that she can come to me with anything and I am not going to go off the deepend. I think it is important that kids feel there is someone in their life that they can count on. To me this speaks very highly of your relationship with your daughter–frankly from other threads, I doubt she would talk to her mother about this stuff, is that a true statement?
Good job Dinsdale!
“Mike’s Hard Lemonade? MIKE’S HARD LEMONADE?!”
That’s exactly what I was thinking.
Dear Og, if that bothered you…
Never sign up for an account on the Penny Arcade forums and then, when bored, check to see if your 21-year-old son also has an account there. And then, if you did that, *really *don’t read his posting history.
Oh man, just don’t do it. :eek:
Yeah, well seeing as how up until recently she wouldn’t drink anything other than Amaretto sours . . . 
I think I remember you mentioning that she goes to U of I? I could go try to get some specifics if you regret not asking. 
That one goes to ISU. I gots 2 others at Shampoo-Banana who - thank goodness - see fit to discuss things other than their sex life!
Having just watched the Sopranos episode “College,” I have to say, at least she didn’t ask if you were in the Mafia.
Does it make you want to nail people’s heads to coffee tables?
You: So, how do you like giving blowjobs?
Her: What?
You: You know, when to take that man meat in your mouth and suck on it still he shoots.
Her: That’s disgusting!
You: You bet it is…just ask your mother!
OK, I paraphrased but stole that from a Doug Kenney bit in National Lampoon.
More of the hilarity here:
http://www.popeye-x.com/antippx1/000002f7.htm
This.
Or possibly: “Yeah, yeah. Trust me: post-marital sex is no great shakes either.”
Ends that conversation plus gives her at least a full month of mental birth control.
I don’t know who said it first or if it’s UL material but in one of his books, Tim Allen noted the penny in the jar thing. The idea is that if you put a penny in a jar every time you have sex the first year of marriage, then take out a penny every time you have sex thereafter, you’ll never empty the jar.
I wish someone had mentioned that to me when I was younger. Whether it’s strictly accurate or exaggerated, the general truth rings true.
That’s definitely older than Tim Allen.
Yeah, I’d say so. He’s just the first person I read who said so, but I think he was citing it as an old bit of wisdom.
okay, so I just gotta ask a question:
Why is a 21 year old using the phrase “premarital sex”?
“premarital sex” of course, was THE buzzword…back in 1969.And gosh, even in the early 1970’s.
But isn’t it pretty much assumed that nowadays ALL college students are having sex—
or expecting to have sex with the new boy/girl friend, as soon as they are lucky enough to find him/her?
I just find it weird that a student today uses the word “premarital”, as if she is really expecting to remain a virgin till her honeymoon.( Unless she is from a very deeply religious background, in which case she wouldn’t discuss sex at all with her father.)
I only talked to my mom about “premarital sex” outright once. I had appendicitis and I was in excruciating pain. My mom, since she’s a doctor, started asking all the questions the ER doc would have asked, such as “have you had sex” because it could be an ectopic pregnancy or a severe infection from and STD causing that abdominal pain. I was in such crazy pain that I couldn’t lie and told her yes… I was 16 at the time.
I’m now living with my fiancee. I’m sure my parents know we’re having sex, even if they doesn’t want to admit it.
My mom came right out and asked me. “Are you and exboyfriend sleeping together?”
Akward, but I answered her truthfully.
That’s for sure. I first heard it 40 years ago and it wasn’t new then.
My guess … Unitarian ones. When your kids get sex ed in Sunday school - which by high school is (depending on congregation) likely to be the most open and respectful conversation teenagers have with adults regarding sex, but with grown ups using the formal, stilted English of “pre-marital” sex (and being Unitarians, most likely pointing out that in most parts of the country, homosexuals can only have pre-marital sex), the kids pick up the language. They also pick up the openness to spring it on Dad in the car.
My grandmother asked my 17-year-old brother, and his 16-year-old girlfriend, when visiting, “do you shack up?” When they blushed, she winked and gave them the room with the double bed.
I miss my grandmother. 