Sure it would. There are enough cases where women have handled themselves in the situation described in the OP, so it certainly holds true. Is this always the case? Of course not.
Your situation sounds like an example of an over-aggressive guy and you’ve stated he was drunk, which we all know, can act as a huge factor in any situation. In my experiences, there are only a few ways that situation plays out, and alcohol becomes the bigger influential factor, as opposed to rationalizing:
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[li]Your SO, or other responsible person, comes over to get you and removes you from the immediate situation, or if you still feel threatened, removes you from the location, entirely. Something along these lines is the best possible outcome. [/li][/ul]
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[li]The SO, or other responsible person, can walk over and try to kill the situation. If it goes well, the guy backs off (hopefully he has friends who can come get him). If things don’t go well, it may escalate into a physical confrontation between the two (or more). I’ve certainly seen the latter enough times.[/li][/ul]
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[li]Some person with authority can address him, such as security or the police (depending on location). This plays out similar to the above, only he can get “escorted out” and/or arrested that much sooner than the above.[/li][/ul]
As you were left to fare, I’m not sure what the result was. Any given scenario can be different, if you add enough modifiers.
I would murder everyone in the bar by slitting their throats with the sharp edge of the St. Pauli Girl sign behind the back of the bar. Then I’d go home and watch Seinfeld reruns.
I’m 5’3" and absolutely feel I can (and have, many times) control the situation as described in the OP. Any variation of “sorry dude, I’m not interested” is a good place to start.
It’s a public place, all she really needs to do, very likely is raise her voice. And you’re kidding yourself if you don’t think strangers are paying any attention. Not so, I’ve worked in bars most of my life and it’s not unusual for a guy to come to the bar and point out a drunk bothering women. Who then promptly gets bounced.
I think it might be coded in men’s DNA to always be on watch over any women - pretty much all the time.
I agree. If I saw an escalating argument between an aggressive douche and a woman who appeared to be strangers, I think I’d come to her aid. I wouldn’t be leading with punches but I’d make sure she was alright. If there was security on staff, I’d try to catch their eye and motion to the commotion.
In my younger days, I jumped into a number of barfights, pulling the actors apart. Pretty stupid, looking back on it.