30 year old guy here. Don’t like recieving them. It just feels… weird and not very nice. And I’m talking about the physical sensation here, not any prudishness on my part.
I’ve never done it, but then, I guess I just have a big mouth… no, I don’t mean too wide. There’s been (counts) four times a guy has asked me to go down on him, and all four said “then no” when my answer was “OK, but it’s my first so tell me if I do something wrong.” One was American and in my bed, the other three were Spanish and wanted me to go to their cars.
I have a fantasy of being with a guy I can explore without him either freaking out or grabbing me and heading straight in. Find out his erogenous zones, where he likes to be touched and how…
I don’t expect a man to go down on me, but if he wants to he’s welcome to.
Many of my school friends gave their husbands their first BJ in a special occasion. Several of them did it as a second wedding-anniversary gift; others did it while pregnant. Some liked it, some didn’t, some said “man, I should’a done it sooner.” I know one of my grandmothers was “virgin only between the legs” on her wedding night, while the other one could count on the fingers of one hand how many times she and my future Grandpa had kissed on the lips (she remembered where and when had each of those four kisses taken place, over 60 years later). My parents only went for straight-on sex, although I understand it wasn’t missionary-only.
I’m from Spain, 42yo, and my “romantic” experiences have taken place in Spain and the US.
I’ve had at least 3 girlfriends I can recall (out of, uh, a lot more) who had problems giving head. My college girlfriend was reluctant to swallow, or even to give head to the point of orgasm because she didn’t like having a mouthful of come. (She once kept it in her mouth afterwards, and gave it back to me in a kiss, just to show me how ooky it was. I was all WTF? but mainly out of surprise, I think.) Then I dated a woman who announced matter-of-factly that she, too, “didn’t swallow sperm” (exact quote–I thought at first that she had invented some way to filter the actual sperm out of the semen, but quickly found out that it was a policy announcement, not a technological breakthrough.) Strangest was a self-described hippie chick, who was very cool about sex, which we had on our first date (and all our subsequent dates, with few issues or hangups) BUT: she just didn’t like giving head. I would go down on her happily and lengthily, and then nothing from her. I would ask her to do it and when she would (upon request) I would tell her how good it felt, but she never got the message, which was strange because she was a HUGE of my oral action, and thought nothing of having orgasm after orgasm from it but never initiated it on me without an explicit request (which I stopped making after a while, and simply started cheating on her.)
typos beyond the edit window: “she was a HUGE fan of my oral action.”
Also “didn’t swallow sperm” is not exactly what she said–I changed the tense. She said “I don’t swallow sperm.”
Note: Women, please note the following: In a recent thread, many of the guys who replied counted as “blow jobs” only those taken to completion. Those that didn’t finish that way, they didn’t count… although my guess is those that didn’t end in blow jobs had other very happy endings. 
That throws a wrench on how many BJs I’ve given. In part because most of the men decide to do something else.
One thing that makes me slightly less enthusiastic is lack of communication from the other side. I want to learn and improve on how I’m doing it, dammit! Give me some pointers!
The one guy who was really good about that, and who seemed to like it a lot… well, he alo preferred to do something else after a while, so no finishing that way for him.
I don’t really understand the mindset in the first sentence… I mean, I don’t always get awesome orgams through sex (woe is me), but I still count those!
In the first sentence of what, KarlGrenze?
I would happily give you pointers about your technique. But you’re asking guys whose cocks happen to be slated to be inside your mouth, in general, right?
Sorry, the first sentence of what I wrote… (the Note part).
Anything would be better than silence, dead silence, dammit! It makes me want to stop and say “You OK?”
I know… I realize that it’s hard to give pointers when, uh, it’s hard, but after? I’ve got problems articulating much beyond “stop!,” “yes yes,” “dddddon’t” and “Oh Dios, Oh DIOOOSSSSSS,” but a few of the guys I did gymnastics with expected me to be extremely vocal while they did their best impression of a tobacconist’s wooden indian 
38 year old male.
I’ve experienced both extremes of the spectrum.
One girlfriend hated performing it and it was such an obvious, repugnant chore for her that I couldn’t get into it at all and we would just give up after a few minutes.
Another girlfriend was nothing short of an Old World Master and she would melt my brain on a regular basis. It was literally almost scary it was so good.
For the record, with both women I was always eager to reciprocate and would do so with talent and gusto. I always kept my naughty bits clean and orderly and I was always a considerate and thoughtful partner so I never really did understand the first girlfriend’s hang-ups.
41 year old female.
We like doing it as part of foreplay, for about 2-5 minutes at a time. After that, we both go on to do other stuff.
And Nava, you also dated the wooden tobaccionist’s wooden Indian? Man, that guy is a turn-off. 
I met my very first actual girlfriend when we were sophomores in high school and we dated into our junior year. She went to the local Catholic girl’s school and I went to public. One night, driving her home from a movie, she crawled across the seat and went to town on me. Neither of us had explored the other below the waist until then, so it was a bit of a surprise that she went after it with such gusto. I was amazed at her enthusiasm. I had been so worried about initiating something, first because I was young and awkward and didn’t know how to approach it, and also because, well, she was a good Catholic school girl. But she broke through that barrier. After that, pretty much any time we were in the car and it was dark, my cock was in her mouth. After a few months of this, she asked me “So, do you have anything against going down on me?” I may have been young and stupid, but even I knew that was an invitation I couldn’t pass up.
Since then, only one of the women I’ve ever been with didn’t enjoy giving or receiving. She was a college girlfriend. But one night, with the aid of wine and whipped cream, we gave each other oral, neither one to completion. Aside from her, every woman I’ve been with from a one-time, 20-minute quickie in a club ladies’ room, to my wife, has gone downtown without being asked. And I love reciprocating, and always do (except for that bathroom quickie). One girl I hooked up with insisted she loved giving them, and didn’t really enjoy receiving. I didn’t complain.
My wife and I enjoy the pleasures of oral to completion about as frequently as we have intercourse, and it’s usually foreplay for intercourse as well. She just woke me up with one yesterday morning, in fact.
And from what I hear, as much of a Runaround Sue as the blown-up doll… you know, the one who lies back and thinks of her shopping lists.
My ex-wife, perhaps 30 seconds of giving over more than two years. Yes, she was a selfish lover. Never so much as a hand-job, always some excuse for why she couldn’t do anything.
She didn’t want it either, which was just as well all too often. My post-split nickname for her was Princess Less-than-Fresh, Queen of the Unclean.
Beyond that, I always tend to get the women who won’t. I’m 47 and I’ve NEVER had a blowjob to completion.
Wow. You should go back to college, Chimera.
I’ve been with a fair number of women (about average, given my age, I think) and none of them have been no-head types.
There were one or two who had no idea what they were doing.
There were only two who were masters of the art, and I dated one for three years and I’m marrying the other (:)), though she’s not into it much these days.
I dated a man who was very sexual, our relationship was very sexual, he’d had lots of partners, and I love to give head.
He did NOT like to receive oral sex.
In all the sex we had - and it was a lot - he only let me go down on him once. It was very, very weird.
I’m not sure I understand the question.
Not giving me head is most definitely a deal-breaker. I don’t really even care about penetration that much. Blowjobs and handjobs are what I want. And I had one woman wherein we took going down on her to the next level. I don’t know if I’ll ever find someone else who’s into that, but if I do I’ll probably go so far as to marry her.
I dated someone for two years who didn’t like giving BJs, but if I could get her super turned on she’d do it a little. In two years that was maybe four times. This was someone who didn’t really get the point of sex in the first place. Those were a bad two years.
I briefly dated someone who was into giving blowjobs but had never let someone go down on her. She thought it was gross. I ended up being her first.
My most recent g/f told me when we met that she would not perform oral for more than 5 minutes. After we actually got naked, she decided she really liked it and routinely works it for 20 minutes or more. She’s really good at it too, better than she thought she would be.
I’m not overly big and I’m shaved, so that helps.
42/m
… and?
C’mon, keep going, don’t stop now! 
I wanna know: what did she think?
There are a bunch of guys posting here recently, so in the interest of balance:
Female, 29, U.S., and I just gave a blowjob last night. Mr. Horseshoe had had a bad day, including but not limited to spending the afternoon at the DMV, so I felt like cheering him up. (It worked. ) I’ve never minded, as long as I can kneel comfortably - he has to be sitting, I can’t blow him when he’s standing up, the height gets awkward - and he strikes a nice balance between talking me through what works and shutting up so I can focus.
So it seemed like apropos timing to post here now. But he’d probably die if he knew I was sharing with y’all.
This is exactly why I avoided giving blowjobs for years after I became sexually active. I always claimed it was because I thought it was “icky”. Once I finally got the nerve to try it, though, I enjoyed it.
ETA: forgot to add - 30 years old and female.
Um… She liked it?
That was a really long time ago, and I only remember her coming once, and that was during penetration. Actually, the sex was overall pretty terrible. She couldn’t let herself go and I was too needy.