I’m recently single after a long relationship. As a couple, I could meet and talk with women easily. Since becoming single, I’ve found that I evaluate a lot of women as potential “date” material. I don’t do this on purpose but the question seems to pop up unconciously. Is this normal after a breakup (ie, being on the “rebound”) which will gradually go away or do most single people do this? Does the fact you’re in a committed relationship prevent this question from popping up or is it just the freedom of being able to potentially date different people that prompts this question? Do men and women experience this differently?
Why don’t you stop by IMHO?? Some pretty nice folks there I have heard…
YMMV but it my experience after a breakup I look at every woman I meet as a possible date candidate. Not sure there is anything wrong with that… but after a while, say 6 months or so, I notice that I look at woman in the more “normal” way and can start having friendships again. Once I realize I have new female friends I know that I’m no longer looking at women as date material only. BTW, contrary to what you may have heard, female friendships can lead to bigger and better things. In other words, you don’t have to consider women as EITHER friends or lovers… they can go from one to the other… although usually only in one direction.
I agree that this is IMHO material.