A very wise person once told me that “Once you procceed to a certain lever(sexually that is) and that you can’t go back to the previous level you were on.” This ofcourse meaning that say you are at first base with someone and you go on towards second base. Once you reach second base it’s impossible to go back and be settled with first base anymore. Is this true? Can people not be satisfied with somewhere earlier in stages of their sexual progression? Let me know what you think.
Does breaking up count? That pretty much puts you back in the dugout.
If the sexual activity was an expression of emotional intimacy by either party, then no, in most cases you cannot “go back” without sever emotional backlash.
If the sexual activity was absent any deeper emotional connection, then cutting it off should be no problem.
well, its not like you can grow your virginity back…
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Omega - It’s difficult to tell if you’re talking about the same relationship or a subsequent relationship. Because this is such a big area people might find it easier to offer some input if you could be a little more specific - just saves everyone quite a lot of time 
For what it’s worth (FWIW), I think it all comes down to the two people concerned - that’s how you feel about each other and mutual respect. It doesn’t really matter if one has a little more experience than the other because the sex thing, that ‘experience’ and how it feels, is really different in every relationship you have.
The idea should be that you are “settled” with yourself and the person with whom you are having a relationship - the whole sex thing is really just a question of time because you will very naturally develop intimacy at the pace you both feel comfortable with.
What you did before probably happened because you both felt ready then or it happened to soon. Both those things happen a lot. But people readjust, relationships readjust and new relationships find a pace of their own Focus on what feels right to you both at the moment, be honest to yourself and have respect.
Good luck (and if you’re talking about a girl, give her time - sometimes they need that more than you do )
Perhaps on a more basic level, Omega, once you’re at first base, you’ve done it. You can’t say you’ve never done it.
Once you’ve gotten to second, you’re there. You’re a second base runner. You can’t say you’ve never done it.
Step ahead: once you’ve hit a home run, well, you can’t get that run back. Ever.
And once you lose your contract, you’re an ex-player, forever. Even if you sign on with another team.
It’s more a statement about the linearity of time and experience. I think.
Hey Omega007, when you’re on first base, you need to renegotiate your contract, because the signals from the third base coach can be picked up by the catcher. To make matters worse, any “tall can of corn” can leave you with a DP (3, unassisted).
Remember, when waiting on deck you must beware of the fungo, especially if you don’t look back. You did say it was hard to go back, right? Well, if it gets too hard the manager may have to bring in some relief. Seen any good firemen lately? And if you strike out while looking, try not to bust your bat.
Remember, the reason they fire the manager is because you can’t fire 26 players.
Got it?
George Brett and his pine-tar bat would argue that.
But Jon, you’re forgetting how the pine-tar case actually turned out!
Spiritus Mundi wrote:
Except for the “darn it, we got to second base last night, why’s she only lettin’ me get to first base tonight?” problem.
Well, it IS possible, but usually temporary (for one reason or another)
Does this go along with the saying, “It’s only kinky the
first time!”???
I feel as if i must weigh in here. i have done a lot of what can be done (but not all that can be done, by any means), but I still jones for a cuddle. not even lip action, which makes me feel happy.
I would be good with any kind of intimacy. even holding hands is nice.
jb
It depends. I don’t think that just because you had sex once means you always have to, if you don’t feel comfortable.
Say you think you did it too soon-I think you can back off then.
I thought about parents trying to control sexual activity of teens. From my own observations (no cites, sorry), I think that once a teenager becomes sexually active, s/he will continue no matter what the parent tries to do to stop it (aside from some sort of incarceration, which is illegal).
I have thought about this recently, and in the case of active teens, I think at that point it is more important to try to ensure the teen’s safety by education and making protection available.
Sorry if this is a hijack from what the original post intended.
You progress through the bases, then you get married and loose all interst in sex. I am not sure if that is a step back or a step forward though. Probably the latter.
I don’t agree that you loose interest as you get older. To a large extent sex is a proxy for intimacy, if the relationship doesn’t include intimacy then it will not find expression through sex. I agree with Spider Woman that once a person becomes sexually functional it is unlikely that they will be able to ignore those drives. Evolutionarily it’s just too important to be easily controlled. Luckily my kids are a bit too young 5 and 9 for me to worry, yet! Both my parents started teaching myself and my sibling that it was results of sex that were the most important thing to understand, and this was when we were pre-teens.