I brought this up in another post and I need to know if I’m being unreasonable here. I cannot, for the life of me, let my wife drive the car when I’m in it.
My wife is probably an excellent driver.(never really seen it for more than a few minutes) She has been in very few accidents and has never got a ticket. I once cut my leg with a box knife and was bleeding all over the place and I drove myself to the hospital with my wife in the passenger seat. I could not let her drive me. Is there somthing wrong with me, guys? I can’t be the only one like this. Please help.
You are not the only one, my mom cannot be a passenger in a car either. I can’t let anybody else drive my car if I’m in it. They don’t shift right and all I can hear is the engine crying.
Are you a control freak or just a little too attuned to your engine noise?
I can let any one else drive my car and I have no problem with it. At work, I have a partner, and we take turns driving 12 hours a night. I can even sleep in the passenger seat at work. But when I think of sleeping when my wife is driving, I get goosebumps.
If I were your wife I would be vaguely offended by this idea.
I can NOT let others drive my baby. They don’t shift right.
Well, okay, two ways to get to drive my car:
- I’m drunk as fuck and need a ride home OR
- I’m teaching you how to drive a stick
but other than that, I cringe at the idea of someone driving my car.
–Tim
I have a hard time driving as a passenger in any car, with anyone driving. I automatically scan the road, mentally “brake” when I see a red light or stop sign (usually a second or two before other people start braking, and then you can feel the unnecessary pressure being put on the car), and I really get peeved when the driver swerves back 'n forth in traffic too much (or even drives entirely in the right lane… I HATE the right lane!)
Maybe some people are just weird.
At least you have the balls to tell other people they can’t drive. I installed a foot activated fuel cutoff switch in my '70 mustang. Anytime anybody said they wanted to drive my 'stang I told them to go ahead, and 5 minutes of trying they gave up and let me do it, at which time I sat in the driver seat, kicked the switch and went off like I was a driving god.
I’m not your wife, and I’m already offended.
Luckily, Feynn and I both drive our own vehicles most of the time, and rarely get a chance to drive together.
I can’t passenge with anyone else driving. My wife drives several hundred miles a week for work, with nary an accident (one speeding ticket–I’m still making fun of her for that), and yet when I’m going with, I drive. Over the weekend we went to Cirque du Soleil (sp?) in Orlando on a Saturday night with my parents and brother and sister-in-law, so we had to take my folks’ mini-van. My dad, who’s like I am, drove (his car). Traffic was like rush hour in LA, and I swear I almost put a hole in the floor using my invisible passenger brake!
If it’s at all possible, I offer to take my car. If it’s not, I try not to audibly inhale every time I use my passenger brake.
I don’t get it. You don’t say why your don’t like it. By the use of your own words “let her drive the car”, I suspect you’ve got some kind of control issue. That may not be true, though, and I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt.
Do you get car sick?
Do you get nervous?
Is it just your wife, or can you not have ANYONE else drive it?
More info is needed for me to decide if you’re unreasonable or not. Does it offend your wife? That’s really the most important issue.
For what it’s worth, for about 5 years after a car/tractor trailer accident I was in (as the passenger) I had a real problem riding in the car as opposed to driving. Several times I had near panic attacks. I’m better now, but it lasted a long time.
My mother is the worst passenger on earth, and readily admits it’s a control issue. She’ll grab the dash, scream, sigh, cringe, and jump while anyone else is driving. She’s always been like that, and has never been in an accident.
Zette
Seems eerily appropriate for this thread…
Man Dies at Wheel After Saying Wife Can’t Drive
October 16, 2000
You’re the kind of guy who always wants to be on top, aren’t you?
My S.O. is completely unwilling to drive when I’m in the car.
Even when it’s her car, and we’re going some place together, I end up driving.
She’s a fairly experienced and assertive driver, but doesn’t like driving with others in the car. Says it makes her nervous.
And she didn’t really like driving my car even without me around. I have no explanation for that.
Oh well, now that I’ve switched back to stick, there’s no chance of her driving my car, with me around or not.
Huh? Isn’t that where you’re supposed to drive if you’re not passing someone?
My GF drives when it’s her car.
She offers to let me drive, and I am always truly puzzled.
Why on earth would I want to do that?
ummm…yea, thats me!
What do you mean, drive my car?
No.
Her car, no problem…
pundit… one of the funniest things I have read in a while 
and WillyK, I hope you never have to rely on her driving you somewhere urgently. she might just say “no.”
Weird. Is it a male/female thing? I hate driving, so my wife drives whenever it’s the two of us. I drive 2-3 hours most days for work, and she does maybe 30 mins. Neighbors see her driving when the whole family is going somewhere and get curious. My wife tells me they asked her if I had a DUI or something, and could only drive for work. Huh? Assume I must have a major legal reason not to be the primary driver, just 'cause I am male? Do you use your dick when driving? Is it a social thing?
No. No. No. I hate to drive. She likes to drive. Given a choice, she drives. Simple.
I’m a terrible passenger period. I turn into a huge stress case.
Used to go cruising in my friend’s Porsche and if he drove I got car sick within a block, it was his jerking the car left and right that did it. He had no problem with me driving though… he made himself car sick too.
I usually drive whenever we go out and no-one but me drives my car. I want the clutch to last and few people have ever driven my baby without grinding things up. Lola hates shifting gears so there’s no worry there.
So I get to drive and if we go any distance Lola and the kids snooze unless I change the radio station… Lola will then wake up long enough to change things back to CRAP radio… heh heh heh …