I went to all the trouble of typing out the fourth paragraph of post 17, I paid to post it. If you are curious about this question the least you could do is read the answer I already posted. I also kind of pre-emptively answered you in post 13. If you did read those passages, perhaps you could tell me how I was unclear.
BTW, what the heck is this:
You thought I was expressing literary critique? Or that I’m upset he didn’t directly pit a family member? No, see above posts for flame reasons and except for the “dont give a shit” pretty civil I thought. And really I only “don’t give a shit” regarding his choice about who he hates most from the list. My god, why should I?
I wonder what the percentage of people who state “I almost reported this post” is versus post reports. The SDMB could be quite the social testube.
No, one is not allowed to flame people to one’s heart’s content. While the rules are much looser here, the “don’t be a jerk” rule still applies. If CarnalK wants to call Sinusoidal Saurus an attention whore, he can do it in another thread. If he feels that the thread is in the wrong forum, he should report it and send a note to the moderator. However, in this case, I wouldn’t have moved the thread. It’s quite apparent to me that the OP is upset and needs to vent.
Once again, CarnalK, do not be a jerk. What’s more, don’t say or imply that someone is on your ignore list.
There are people in this world who are just mean and horrible all the time. They make the choice to be that way and they shouldn’t expect everyone else to have caring feelings towards them. If you are only going to help because of your mom that’s fine.
If your brother isn’t going to help even just for your mom it’s understandable. At some point in her marriage your mom decided to put up with however your dad wanted to be. Most of the marriages I see where one person has just gone too far with bad behavior it all started with the other person lying on the ground and being a doormat voluntarily. Your mom made her choice to let herself be treated that way and she let you kids be treated that way. I wouldn’t be surprised if your brother has a lot of resentment towards your mother as well as your father.
It would be nice if he changed his mind and helped, but he might not. Maybe the thought of being around your father is so horrible to him he absolutely can’t do it and would likely turn him into an alcoholic. Maybe he hopes your dad will die so your mom can be happy.
Can’t pit cancer, won’t change anything.
I vote for pitting your dad, for being the type of person he is and making there be so many conflicting feelings.
Now why should I have to start a another thread? Here is where I found my gripe and I stated it. The OP feels the need to vent? Well I have a need to shut the vent.
I didn’t report this post because I thought the admin thinks this kind of crap is AOK in the pit and surprise, surprise, I’m right. So I responded in Pit manner.
And that “ignore list” warning makes you look like an idiot. I didn’t imply anyone was on my list- which is in fact empty. I was describing my frustration with social-spam.
Any logicical minded person that read the OP would understand that the situation is quite emotional, hence the “confusion”, ya jackass. It is quite evident that there is much to pit about.
I still can’t see what you’re problem is. I can only conclude that you’re just a fucking asshole with nothing else to do. This thread has been thrown off course 180 degrees because of your nonsense.
Let’s stick with that! :rolleyes:
My sympathies are with the OP.
No. No it is not evident.It seems to me that if I had actually attacked the OP’s position, rather than it’s overall concept I would have been the subject of the same ire but have been even more firmly within the Pit rules as I understand them. How would you have responded all if I had said:
Sinusoidal Saurus, my father was a lot like yours; he lived to be 93 and made as many people as possible as miserable as he could manage. Even so, as he lay dying, I felt as conflicted as you. All I can say is hang in there and this too shall pass. He will either die soon or live longer; in the end, he will be gone but you will remain. It is going to be tough; it is good you recognize an obligation to your mother. Your brother might come through for you but he might not—he may be unable to deal with the situation. Sometimes we just get stuck with the hard stuff and sometimes we don’t. In any case, I wish you well and hope you get through it with your spirit intact.
What I was genuinely curious about is if just as many people would have “almost” reported that hypothetical post for jerkiness. Also, am I a jerk simply because my “hijack” does not contain enough sympathy or empathy? I have not personally attacked the poster nor have I made light of his situation, so what’s the deal?
Coming into a thread where someone is venting, irrespective of whether you agree with the subject of said pitting, and saying NOTHING more than, "I don’t give a shit"violates the “jerk” rule, and makes you look like a fucking idiot.
In other words, asshat, if you don’t give a shit, fine. But that in no way gives you the right to tell someone else that their internal conflicts are not valid just because you don’t like it.
But I’m not saying his internal conflicts are invalid, just saying I don’t like seeing them posted in the Pit. I’ve said considerably more than “I don’t give a shit” (which I thought I qualified clearly in my response to Lynn)
Look if you guys like posting a bunch of “Good Luck,Cancer sucks” and "me too"s go right ahead. Do my posts somehow stop you from doing so? I’m personally trying to break the habit of posting things that are as obvious as a brick wall.
Though as noted, I said “good luck”- and meant it honestly, if not profoundly- in my first goddamn post. I really think that if I’ve been given a “no jerk” warning then my above post(#32) deserves a Moderater/Admin answer.
You may not like seeing it in The Pit. Tough. Just because you don’t like seeing it in the Pit doesn’t give you the right to be a jerk and shit all over someone else’s feelings.
So, you thought: 'Ill be different!!!111!! and say: “I don’t give a shit”, huh.
I don’t know about being a jerk, but it certainly makes you look like an immature little asshole who is trying to impress the school-yard brats by being tough !!111!!.
It’s actually a personal amalgam of two children’s rhymes:
“Sticks and stones may break my bones
But words can never hurt me”
And
“I’m rubber, you’re glue.
Whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you”