Thanks for that.
I thought you might have found the German rhyme more appealing.
Actually yes, it’s a nice fit so thanks back. I just might steal it. I was happy I remembered what “verrückt” meant, even if I looked it up to double check.
Actually, I wasn’t comparing you to my dad’s cancer, although you come up short there, too. Perhaps I should have been more blunt: compared to my dad’s major league assholery over the years, you are more in the t-ball category. I’ve handled far worse shit from far better people.
And I noticed this in the “Don’t be a jerk” thread:
Since you’ve apparently chosen to make your point yet again in this thread, I did look at your history: in the past two weeks, you’ve posted 57 times in the Pit, and only 4 times in other SDMB forums. Clearly I’ve intruded on your personal playground and I’m not playing by your rules. Wah. Perhaps you should apply to be a mod.
LouisB, thanks to you especially. You’ve summed up the whole thing neatly for me, and I appreciate it.
Due to recent turbulance, the last two weeks might not be representitive, but regardless did you actually look at the content of the posts? I stand by my point that I am not a generally mean spirited poster.
Again, I don’t give a shit what a complete stranger thinks of me in some “asshole comparison” analysis he’s running against his Dad. You don’t know me, I don’t know your Dad- so the information is quite literally useless.
Sinusoidal Saurus - I feel for you. Your situation sucks and there’s little you can do about it. Be strong and worry about yourself and your mom.
Carnalk - you’re a fuckwicket. Get a life and interact with some real people. There’s this thing called empathy; you should try to learn how to experience it. :wally
CarnalK – Why did you pick this thread, when you’ve been here for almost 5 years? You yourself understand the popularity of these times of threads in the BBQ pit.
I guess what I mean is, why did you have to pick a thread thats about cancer to bitch at the OP for, when there’s so many more trivial threads to choose from? I looked at your posting history in this forum and you really stay out of other threads of this nature, except for the latest one decrying the BBQ pit. But why did this thread set you off, one that is so obviously going to be a battle to hold said position in the midst of the etiquette of empathy?
I think people would be less likely to pouce on you if the thread had been about someone getting pulled over or even losing their job. I just feel like, if I might say it metaphorically: We are all standing around this thread, and you say what you said, and someone pulls you back frantically and hisses in your ear, “But this is about cancer! Show some respect!” as everyone turns to glare at you for interuppting the flow of something so sacred, and some look at you with their jaws dropping like, “WTF? You just don’t say that!”
See what I am saying?
/S
I hope my post did help and I appreciate what you’ve said.
Oh sure, and you’re correct of course. A few things contervail however:
a) I don’t care if people pounce on me
b) this was the top Pit thread just after I finished answering the Scylla inspired “don’t be a jerk in the pit plz” thread.
c) I wanted to make a point, and the seriousness of the OPs situation makes it clearer. If I bashed a traffic peeve there would be plenty of MPSIMS people right along with me - this way I draw a line.
d) This one might be hard to believe, but I was worried someone might use a sock to do the same thing I did here- but poorly. So I thought I better do it first.
I’ll resist responding to (uninspired) name calling, at least until I get a ruling on what a jerk is.
Asshole, this thread isn’t about you. Why are you such an attention whore you have to get everyone to notice you in someone else’s thread? Uninspired name-calling? How about showing your inspired thread skills? C’mon big boy, you love the attention, why not get an entire thread that is focused on you and you alone?
Here’s an idea you haven’t had the proper voltage in your shell of a brain to come up with. How about starting a Pit thread on people opening Pit threads to “whine”? I’m sure we’d all show up for that one to focus all our attention on just you.
:non-winking Wally giving you the bird:
Fucktarded Douchebag.
:smack:
Forgot to say I empathize Sinusoidal Saurus.
Saurus , there’s nothing I can say that’ll help. Just, good luck.
CarnalK , you honestly think that posting things in the wrong forum is more important than propping someone up when their father is dying? What fucking point ARE you trying to make? Swallow your stupid fucking pride and apologise if you’re man enough, or just fuck off out of it. Christ, I hate people who say stupid, indefensible things. But they don’t come close to the weasling fucknuggets who say such things but then don’t have the fucking balls, grace or decency to back off, apologise or just shut the fucking fuck up.
I really don’t know what “propping up” the OP wants and I honestly hope he gets what he needs, from real live people. My point is that I do not think this is the appropriate place to go seeking “propping up”.
I don’t know how more clear I can make it: I am not making light of the OPs situation. I don’t think he is an “attention whore” for wanting to talk out his problems. I am annoyed that someone thinks a good place to think about family relationships is a FUCKING FLAME FORUM.
Then hit ‘report post’ and stop hijacking threads!
This is not rocket science.
I would like to propose that we all stop responding to CarnalK in this thread, so it can get back on topic.
I’ve opened up this thread. There’s also the one he opened where it can be discussed without hijacking this thread any further.
You’re right, my apologies to the OP for helping to sustain this hijack.
I hope that you find a measure of peace in all this, and that your family finds a way to cope without too much pain. Best of luck. Strength and courage.
But you actually think that posting something on the wrong bit of a message board - especially when that something concerns such an obviously painful and serious subject - merits the kind of behaviour you’ve engaged in?
Yes, you’re probably right. It could have gone in MPSIMS. So in that regard, you win. Have a cookie. In terms of being a decent human being, you need some work. The great Pit / MPSIMS schism (whisper it) isn’t actually all that big a deal.
What a horrible place for you to be in now, SS. Losing a father is bad enough – been there many years ago, still recall the pain. But at least I had love and respect for him, so my grief wasn’t tainted with guilt that a part of me felt relief.
I don’t know if this will help you or not, but my take on your father is that he must be a deeply unhappy man, must have been deeply unhappy all his life, to have been so consistently hateful to those he should love. Death would then be a release from psychic as well as physical suffering for him.
Was there good as well as bad in your life with him? His death will free you from the bad and with time perhaps you can put the bad to rest and recall the good.