I’ve talked in a number of threads about my weight loss over the last couple of years. One of the hardest things about being gay and fat was, frankly, the difficulty in getting laid. Not to be all TMI but that situation has improved markedly but I am still out of the size range for a large segment of the gay community.
So I’m cruising around gay.com last night and I see “athlete4husky.” His profile says he’s looking for guys 200-300 pounds. Hey great, I’m thinking, I’m at 225 right now, it’s destiny. So I message him and he’s non-commital two word answer guy. Finally I message “so should I keep going or am I wasting my time?” with a wink. His reply? I look too skinny for him! He says my pic makes me look like I weigh 160! I found myself in the faintly absurd position of arguing that I was in fact still enough of a fatass to turn him on. Arguing unsuccessfully, I might add.
Just another chapter in my faintly surreal attempts to have a sex life…
I feel your pain. I once had several dates with a guy that liked large women, but it ended when it became obvious that he would prefer that I gain more weight, and that was not my plan. If we had stayed together, sooner or later he would have dumped me for a fatter woman, and my ego is fragile enough with that!
It seems we both need men that will love us for our wonderful personalities and continue to love us in whatever body size we wear (although if they support our attempts to have a healthier body, that would be fine). If I find a gay man like this, I’ll send him your way, if you’ll send any straight men my way!
(I checked out your picture–such a cutie should not have trouble getting dates!)
Sorry to hear about your trouble, but I have to agree with White Lightning - you look far less than 225 in that picture. Are you rather tall? That’s the only way I could see you being even near that weight, and even then it’d still be a stretch.
My husband is in the mid-to-lower end of the weight range that you mentioned (plus ~6’4"), and I think he’s very cuddly and sexy. He’s working on losing weight for his health and personal opinion of himself, and I know it’s important to him, so I’m supporting him regardless. And I know I’ll still find him sexy.
