Let me set this up: I’ve had a casual (yet always safe) sex thing going on with two (hot) guys for the past few months. They both know about each other, and the groundrules have been clearly set. None of us is actively pursuing anything more, but we’re open to the possibility of something happening. We’re also free to meet others. It might not be your cup of tea, but I’m OK with it right now, and so are they.
However, anyone who read this thread knows I’m going through a rough patch (and my email hos know more of the story ;)). Although I’m feeling better sooner than I thought I would. I still have to deal with some emotional crap that I should have dealt with months ago.
I haven’t seen either since the weekend from hell®, but I have tentative plans (that I can always break) with one of the hotties tomorrow night. I haven’t told either one about what’s going on, but rather have confided in my platonic friends and my faghag at work.
Should I tell them what I’m going through? Or should I refrain from seeing them altogether? There’s more to our get-togethers than sex - we actually do things like go to movies, and the like. The third option would be to see them as friends but cut out the sex part for a while.
It’s just don’t that I’m afraid I’ll use the physical intimacy as a way of seeking solace, and possibly delude myself. At the same time, knowing there are guys who are attracted to me and enjoy my company reminds me that I might just be a good guy after all.
I could always just test out the status quo, and see how it affects me. I have to decide by tomorrow…
Your input would be appreciated…
Cheers, thanks a lot.