No, not acceptable. Seems kinda cold to me.
Do you think less of someone if you learn that they occasionally, or even frequently, hook up with people for sex only? This could be someone they meet at a bar, or just around town, find online, or even a more organized “fuck buddy” type of relationship.
No, I wouldn’t think less of them as long as they weren’t in a committed relationship and thus cheating. I would definitely worry about their health.
As far as “acceptable” goes, I think I’d have more “respect” (if you could call it that) for a friend-with-benefits relationship than I would a go-out-and-screw-total-strangers-from-a-bar kind of gig. With the former, I think there’s a greater chance that both parties have given some thought to what they’re doing and have planned accordingly (STD testing, protection, what-are-we-gonna-do-if-there’s-a-pregnancy, etc.). Plus with that kind of relationship, both parties are physically safe. Going home with a stranger is really, really stupid. Once the door shuts, you are at their mercy.
**Do you think casual sexual encounters are inherently worse than those between romantic partners? **
Yeah.
If you believe casual sex to be wrong or immoral (not counting for religious reasons, that’s kind of a given) why?
Casual sex is a good way to spread STD’s. Those I know who were really into casual sex (as in picking up one or more people every weekend) almost never used protection, nor were they really into protecting others from whatever bug they might be/were carrying. They were in it solely for themselves, regardless of what damage might be done. You could very well end up with someone like that when you go out cruising for strangers, and even being the poster child for condoms may not be enough to protect you.
It’s also a good way to get/get someone pregnant, which creates an even more difficult situation.
Another way I saw casual sex backfire: one woman I knew, years ago, went nuts, left her husband and started hoing around with guys half her age, and quite openly at that. The whole county knew about it and her kids were humiliated (and this was without anyone teasing them about it, too). If you’re a parent and are going to have casual sex, I think you owe it to your kids to be as discreet as possible. What you do in the bedroom may be your business, but it affects others too. Expecting everyone in the world to just “get over it” isn’t practical – it’s not going to happen, and it’s unfair to drag your family into your drama.
Lastly, since this is IMHO, I think sex should be about more than just getting off, so I’m not wired for the casual thing.
