To better aid sweat209’s search for promiscuity girls, I’ve decided to conduct a survey. Please let us know the following:
Gender: (Self-explanatory) Sexual Orientation: (Self-explanatory) Relationship Status: E.g. married, single, in a committed relationship, in a casual relationship, etc.
**Age: **(Self-explanatory) Location: As specific as your comfortable with disclosing. It can be as broad as “United States” or as specific as “Brooklyn, NY”. Don’t give your exact address though, for obvious reasons. Experiences: Firsthand experiences with casual sex, whether it be one-night stand or a friend-with-benefits. Feel free to add details or just answer “Yes” or “No”.
**Attitude in regard to self: ** E.g. I would engage in casual sex or have, or I would engage in one sort of casual sex but not the other, etc. Attitude in regard to others: I understand one could not desire to engage in casual sex him/herself but have little problem with others doing so. Or one could think no one should have casual sex. [del]Or have casual sex but thinks no one else should? Huh?[/del]
I guess it’s only fair that I start:
Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Straight Relationship Status: In a long-distance relationship
**Age: **28 Location: Washington, DC Experiences: I’ve had a few (less than ten) one-night stands type dealies and one partner where it was my understanding that it was a purely physical relationship.
**Attitude in regard to self: ** If I’m single and the girl willing, why not? Attitude in regard to others: If both parties fully understand and consent to the terms, I have no problem. If one party pretends to be romantically interested or whatever for the sole purpose of sex, I think that’s immoral. But even with full disclosure I think there are times when one party secretly hopes for romance to develop, or is willing “take what I can get,” while the other has zero interest in anything beyond sex. But as adults, those decisions are yours to make.
Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Gay Relationship Status: Single. Casually dating
**Age: **44 Location: Chicago Experiences: Several hundred one night stands.
**Attitude in regard to self: ** Life is too short to not have fun Attitude in regard to others: We’d rather have our fun together
Gender: female Sexual Orientation: straight Relationship Status: single
**Age: **31 Location: Seattle Experiences: I’ve had friends with benefits occasionally as recently as a year or so ago. Most of the time it’s gotten complicated, but never with the most recent one, which was on and off for 3ish years. I broke that off because I got back with my psycho ex. The recent guy was basically a drinking buddy. He was cool enough to drink with and watch the Daily Show and explain politics to (I’m far from an expert, but dude’s knowledge was sorely lacking), but we really have nothing in common.
**Attitude in regard to self: **I’m not interested in it at this time. If I am in the future then I’ll revisit the idea. I can’t see ever being interested in a one night stand though.
**Attitude in regard to others:**I try not to judge if that’s what the person really wants. It drives me a bit crazy when someone close to me is in complete denial, like they want a relationship and the other person clearly isn’t interested and they can’t accept or admit that…but I still *try *not to judge. Whatever, people can do what they want, I’m not particularly worried about it. But I would be concerned about seriously dating a guy who had been super into casual sex in the (at all recent) past.
Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Straight Relationship Status: Separated from my wife by choice, separated from my girlfriend by circumstance
**Age: **53 Location: Minnesota Experiences: There was this one time at music camp… Attitude in regard to self: I have avoided it since the 80’s, most likely because of that whole “marriage” thing. Even without the marriage, fear of contractual unfortunatenesses would have kept me on a pretty short leash. Also, there’s that bit about being a shy, introverted geek with limited social skills. Attitude in regard to others: So long as they’re not doing it in my bedroom, it’s really none of my business.
Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Straight Relationship Status: Single
**Age: **48 Location: Boston, MA Experiences: No.
**Attitude in regard to self: ** Depends on your precise definition of “casual”, I guess. I wouldn’t do it without a fair degree of trust with the other person, and probably not without some emotional attachment as well. If some woman tried to pick me up, I doubt I’d even realize it. Attitude in regard to others: If it works for two (or whatever) other people, if they can do it without anyone getting hurt, and no one intending for anyone to get hurt, then good for them.
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Gay
Relationship Status: 26-year monogamous relationship
Age: 68
Location: Northeast Ohio, U.S.
Experiences: Many, mostly during the years I lived in NYC . . . until I met my partner.
Attitude in regard to self: from 1963-1987: my best estimate is somewhere around 2500 men, ranging from anonymous “quickies” to serious relationships. I had to kiss a whole lot of frogs before meeting my prince.
Attitude in regard to others: Live and let live.
Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Straight Relationship Status: Single Age: 28 Location: Northwest Arkansas**
Experiences**: None with casual sex, for reasons I will explain below.
Attitude in regard to self: I don’t see the need. The point to me of having sex is to create a very intimate bond, not just to have fun, as you can have fun otherwise. Orgasms can be had without sex. The companionship part of sex can be had by cuddling (which is pretty dadblasted awesome, anyways). Furthermore, if you wouldn’t do it while you are in a relationship to someone else, then I don’t see why you would need it when you are not in a relationship.
Attitude in regard to others: I’m not going to say you can’t do it, but I do tend to feel negatively towards those who do–though much more so if you are a “slut” about it, meaning you do it all the time. A single time isn’t that big a deal, save for making me a bit wary of entering a relationship with you. The more often, the more wary.
Gender: I don’t know what my gender is, but my sex is male. (Pedantic, but, c’mon.)
Sexual Orientation: hetboy.
Relationship Status: Single.
Age: 57
Location: San Diego, CA
Experiences: Still a virgin.
Attitude in regard to self: No casual sex; waiting for the right person. (And I’m pretty sure it will never happen. So it goes.)
Attitude in regard to others: I feel people ought to wait a little longer than is common today, just to test for compatibility. The haste to have sex is causing more unhappiness than happiness. Otherwise, hey, it’s your life: boogie on down.
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Straight
Relationship Status: Single/Divorced
Age: 47
Location: Australia
Experiences: way to many to list here, lots of one night stands, FWB and casual flings over the years.
Attitude in regard to self: Go for it, but once in a relationship then no.
Attitude in regard to others: Meh it’s your life,who am I to judge?
Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Straight Relationship Status: Married, one baby
**Age: **Extreme late 30s Location: Texas Gulf Coast Experiences: I used to sing for a rock band
**Attitude in regard to self: ** Those days are over, according to my wife Attitude in regard to others: Go nuts
Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Gay Relationship Status: Broken, bitter, and forever alone (in other words single)
**Age:**52 Location: San Francisco Experiences: Have been intimate with about 25 men casually. One serious relationship. Attitude in regard to self: I do not like casual sex. It left me feeling used & soiled. I don’t/didn’t like or desire sex as much as other men seem to. I haven’t had sex in about 13 years. If I had to do it all over again, I would have stayed a virgin. At least my mother would have been happy. Attitude in regard to others: What others do is their business.
[Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Straight Relationship Status: Married
**Age: ** 61 Location: Upstate NY Experiences: None. All my sexual relationships were ongoing relationships.
**Attitude in regard to self: ** I’m at the point where it’s all academic, but in my youth I was mostly interested in a relationship. Not that I would have turn down something casual if it seemed right (it might lead to a relationship), but I wasn’t going out looking for one-night stands. The one time it came close to happening, the girl was drunk and I thought it better not to take advantage. Attitude in regard to others: If it works for them, fine. I wouldn’t do it (and I suspect they’d be happier if it were more than a one-nighter), but it’s really none of my business to criticize.
Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Gay Relationship Status: 12 year domestic partnership, will be married next year.
**Age: ** 38 Location: Los Angeles, CA Experiences: Casual sex, more than I can remember, have had a few fuckbuddies over the years.
**Attitude in regard to self: ** Done it lots of times and will again. I like to have fun and sex is fun. Attitude in regard to others: Others choices are their own to make and I don’t really care one way or the other as long as they don’t lecture me about my choices.
Gender: male
Sexual Orientation: hetero
Relationship Status: divorced
Age: 39
Location: central Indiana
Experiences: had fling with a casual acquaintance when I was 18, have a couple of FWBs now (something that, just a couple of years ago, I never thought I’d do). One has been an on-and-off thing for a couple of years, the other a few months.
Attitude in regard to self: I won’t do one night stands with strangers (I usually get an offer or two whenever I go out dancing, have never done so), won’t do anything with someone who’s married. I gotta know the person a bit, and it’s better if we’re friends. I won’t do it when I’m in a relationship.
Attitude in regard to others: If they’re single, or have an open marriage, I really don’t care, but can be judgmental if they’re not. I’m a bit of a hypocrite here, though, as my longer-term FWB was engaged when we started.
Gender: female Sexual Orientation: primarily heterosexual, with a side of as-yet-unfulfilled bicuriosity Relationship Status: in a committed live-in heterosexual relationship
**Age: **29 Location: upstate NY
**Experiences: **Several casual encounters in my early 20s, one FWB around age 24 that lasted a couple months until I developed feelings that wouldn’t be requited, three long-term boyfriends (2 of which were live-in)
**Attitude in regard to self: ** I engaged in casual sex for long enough to feel I had played the field. I wouldn’t likely consider it again, because it’s too hard for me to keep from getting emotionally-involved.
**Attitude in regard to others: **Let your freak flag fly. Don’t judge me and I won’t judge you.
Gender: Male
Sexual Orientation: Heterosexual
Relationship Status: Married 15+ years
Age: mid 40’s
Location: NJ
Experiences: In my single days, I had many casual sex experiences- everything from a 15 minute encounter where no names were exchanged, to FWB “relationships”. I don’t see that happening ever again, but since I’m happily married it’s not something I ever think about or pine for.
Attitude in regard to self: Truth is I preferred being in a committed relationship before getting intimate, but let’s face it- there were times when that just wasn’t in the cards, and a willing participant presented herself. What was I supposed to do?
Attitude in regard to others: Not sure what this is supposed to mean or why it’s relevant, but if you want to have casual sex and you aren’t hurting anyone, go for it. If you don’t, don’t.
