I have two cats - Will, a male who is 9 years old and Remy, a female who is 12 years old. Both have been spayed since kittenhood. For the last few years, Will has been having sex with Remy every night. Well, sex of a sort. He stands over her and humps her back and she lets him. When I go to bed, Remy joins me. About 15 minutes later, Will enters the hallway and starts meowing like a cat in heat. Then he comes in the bedroom, jumps up on the bed and starts humping Remy. Usually she is ok with this but occasionally she will smack him and he backs off. (In that case, he humps the air, laying on his side and thrusting his hips.) After 10 minutes or so he grunts, jumps off the bed and heads to the living room to sleep. I’ve occasionally woken in the early morning to find him doing it again. As far as I know, this only happens on the bed. They both seem to enjoy it (or at least Remy doesn’t mind it). Anyone else have cats that get frisky for fun?
I once met a pair of cat sisters who were into lesbian kitty incest. One was the dominant partner, the other the submissive one. I’m not sure if they “enjoyed” it, though. Those cats were both weird. One was a complete nymphomaniac who went batshit whenever she was in heat. The other one was dumber than a box of hammers and probably didn’t even even notice she was being humped.
My cat Jenny, who died in 2009 at the age of 18, was spayed, and her “brother” Tuxedo, who’s now about 14, is neutered. Tuxedo used to mount Jenny all the time, even though she didn’t really like it. I understand it’s a dominance thing.
Several months after Jenny died, I got Abigail, who’s also spayed, and Tuxedo knows better than to mount her because she also still has her claws, and she’s also definitely the boss. She does like to groom him sometimes, by licking his head. He enjoys this immensely.
Will and Remy groom each other all the time. They are sweet together. I don’t think it’s so much of a dominance thing with Will. Or if it is, Remy is very, very submissive. 
Maybe they’re imitating what they see their owner doing in the bed.
That’s definitely not happening at my house. :rolleyes:
I’ve teased my boyfriend that he and Will are alike - sex late at night or early in the morning, then go to sleep.
I have nothing to contribute, other than that your OP reminded me instantly of this. 
My (neutered/spayed) pair do the same thing. Seems to be cyclical, in that I’ll find them doing the deed* several times one week and then nothing for months. I dunno. I file it under, “cats is weird.”
*There’s no penetration, and none of the yowling and growling and hissing and spitting that accompanies true cat intercourse. Just neck biting and humping which she mostly puts up with and occasionally tells him to GTFO.
That was my dog-when my girlfriend of the time and I started going at it, he would get all hot and bothered and start humping away (on the floor) at the nearest pillow…
I think it is more of a dominance thing than a sexual thing with neutered cats.
My female cat (who loves humans but acts like a total bitch to other animals) has humped my male cat occasionally.
Same here - not dominance though, a hormone imbalance. IIRC, spayed females end up with enough testosterone so that it takes over for the missing estrogen and results in some male behaviors.
The problem I see with the dominance theory is that she’s the dominant one in every other way I can identify: she gets to eat first, she pushes him away from the dripping tap to get a drink, she gets the favorite toys until she’s bored with them…maybe cats just have a different way of identifying “dominance”…or maybe the whole notion of dominance is caninepomorphizing them.
Cat penises have hooks on them, so the act is quite painful for the female. It is, however, necessary for propagation of the species, because females do not ovulate unless they “boink”.
Can we really know if its just painful? If it was, how has the species promolgated? Female cats are not shrinking violets. Maybe it just hurts so good?
Well, the state of being in heat is a bit uncomfortable. Anyone who has been around a female in heat can’t possibly think she’s having a good time. So even though the barbed penis hurts on the way out, the relief the female feels upon insemination and abatement of symptoms is a reward.
As to spayed/neutered cats humping each other, I don’t think it’s a dominance thing. My least dominant boy is the humper in the house, and his primary focus is his roommate Chico. Chico will play with Nimbus, which often just degenerates into a wrestling match, which often turns into Nimbus acting all sorry and backing away only to creep up and try to scruff and hump Chico after a few minutes.
Also, for some reason, Chico getting on the couch with Mom (me) for cuddles, seems to make Nimbus all humpy, and he will get onto a certain corner on the back of the couch, and trill and yowl and stare at Chico while kneading and purring and gyrating. It’s really pretty funny. I tell him he’s being gross and push him off the couch. Perv.
That really did make me laugh out loud.
I’d always had female cats until I got Will and had never seen this behavior. I’m glad he’s not alone in his perversity.
It is funny, except that I’m wanting to go to sleep and I can’t until he’s done. Aside from the vocalizations, he weighs 22 pounds and it shakes the bed. :eek:
But if you reject him, does he hump the air, laying on his side and thrusting his hips?
Perverted cats? Yeah, I have one. He’s neutered, and will hump the other (neutered) male, and will also hump one of the (spayed) females. I’m sure that he doesn’t hump the other female because she’s a cranky old lady kitty who will slap his ears off if he lays a paw on her.
This cat also likes to knead my butt. I’ll be standing in the kitchen, doing dishes or cooking or making tea, and next thing I know, I feel a tiny pair of hands squeezing my butt. It’s not the usual kneading that cats do, either.
He’s just a little perv.